Is it unfair to judge a Woman on her past?

I'm in my early 20s, not perfect but I met a woman who's 30 recently and we really hit it off.

However shes has a LOT of bad things in her past. I'm not misogynist and I have obviously slept with girlfriends but she did a load of crazy stuff when she was my age or younger. Her parents were rich but really liberal so she did stuff like **** a guy in the middle of a crowd at a gig when she was 16, or drugs at boarding school though she was never an addict. And she was a FWB with her flatmate at uni which apparently got awkward. She also got a tattoo at 14 as a dare though I know her dad and he is classy. Obviously she's older now but still a bit of "party girl" though she has a good job as do I.

I have told her all the things from my past too, but I find it hard to think about hers. She is really hot, and has a good career and law degree so I'm surprised she isn't taken :lol:

is that a red flag? Also I'm not really worried about this but she has a lot of male friends around her age she flirts with too.

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Reply 1

ELVsLP

wooooahhh she sounds naaaasty... in a good way :wink:

Reply 2

queen-bee

I guess many young people like to experiment with different things.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

Original post by ELVsLP

wooooahhh she sounds naaaasty... in a good way :wink:

Lol she seems to have matured a bit.. Im not sure if she still does drugs though? She was arguin with one of her friends about it and got really defensive :lol:

Is her past really nasty do you think? Cos if she was a guy it might be normal IDK..

Reply 4

Cain Tesfaye

I don't think it is unfair to judge anyone on their past. If you kill someone now, the next second you will have killed someone in the past - should you not be judged for it?

You cannot judge someone on what they do 'now' because it hasn't been done yet, so technically all you have to go on is what they have done is the past.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

Original post by queen-bee

I guess many young people like to experiment with different things.

If she was a friend I wouldnt care, but TBH I want a good girl :tongue:

But everyone has a past. Does hers sound nasty? Lol

Reply 6

ELVsLP

Original post by Anonymous

Is her past really nasty do you think? Cos if she was a guy it might be normal IDK..

the public sex is.... out there!

on one hand its shocking but on the other... its kinda impressive

but then i am the sort of fella who admires female porn stars so naturally i would be ok with this

it just depends on you really. if you are ok with it and like her then forget her past. if its bothering you then talk to her about it

Reply 7

queen-bee

Original post by Anonymous

If she was a friend I wouldnt care, but TBH I want a good girl :tongue:

But everyone has a past. Does hers sound nasty? Lol

Sounds wild and adventurous

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

Original post by Cain Tesfaye

Well, I don't know her that well but she seems nice now which is what attracted me to her. She's one of those left wing types who hates rich people (her parents are well off but not super rich), protests for animal rights etc.

Do you think her past is extreme?

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

Original post by ELVsLP

would you wife up a girl like that tho? lol :tongue:

I admire em too.. just not as gf material..

@queen-bee Have you done stuff like that? :tongue:

Reply 10

queen-bee

Original post by Anonymous

would you wife up a girl like that tho? lol :tongue:

I admire em too.. just not as gf material..

@queen-bee Have you done stuff like that? :tongue:

Nope

Reply 11

DamnDaniel2

Original post by Cain Tesfaye

Since when is killing someone not wrong😂 I would so judge someone if they killed a person!

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Reply 12

Cain Tesfaye

Original post by Anonymous

I wouldn't really care about the drugs, but ****ing some randomer at a gig for everyone to see at 16 is pretty whorish. If you can get over that (regardless of what others might think) then go for it.

Original post by DamnDaniel2

Since when is killing someone not wrong😂 I would so judge someone if they killed a person!

Erm, what? I don't think you understood my post.

Reply 13

BasicMistake

It isn't intrinsically wrong to judge a person based on their past. If someone stole a chip off my plate, technically once they've done it, it's in the past but I'm still going to judge them. We base all our opinions on what people have done as we can't read each other's minds.

Reply 14

Anonymous #1

Original post by Cain Tesfaye

Yeah, she said that it was in the middle of the crowd so nobody cared, but surely someone must have noticed :lolwut:

Do you think she could have changed? She seems proud of it but I dont think shes like that now too

Reply 15

Anonymous #1

Original post by BasicMistake

Yeah, do you think Im being too fussy? :redface:

Reply 16

Cain Tesfaye

Original post by Anonymous

Yeah, she said that it was in the middle of the crowd so nobody cared, but surely someone must have noticed :lolwut:

Do you think she could have changed? She seems proud of it but I dont think shes like that now too

What I, or anyone else, think is irrelevant. If you can get over her past and genuinely like her then go for it. Not as though you're marrying her or anything, so why not just date and get to know her better (and get laid in the meantime)?

Reply 17

Anonymous #1

Original post by Cain Tesfaye

I'm pretty surprised at what she told me TBH

I have girls my own age interested too (no e brag) but I'll date her if I like her, I cant smash a girl with no morals TBH (we haven't yet anyway, I'm worried about STDs as she always used to get an FWB after breakups too..)