What have I done to deserve a life like this?

I'm just done. I really can't be bothered with life anymore. I took a gap year after my a levels and fell out with most of my so called friends from school but we all lowkey hated each other at school so idgaf because I'd rather be alone then have toxic people in my life. I ended up at a local uni I really didn't want to go to because I knew too many people there but I went anyways. Today was freshers. I expected to bump into a few familiar faces but it was relentless, I saw familiar face after familiar face. And the funny thing was most of them didn't bother approaching me. They just stared at me but as I was leaving one of the girls says 'oh she's still a ***** as always then'. Honestly it stung so ****ing bad. I can't do it anymore and uni hasn't even started. My best friend said to ignore them and just get on with my work but I can't. I feel crushed. Everyone hates me and I really don't know what I've done to deserve this. I've got uni tommorrow and I feel sick to my stomach. I still haven't seen half the people who go their yet. Uni was meant to be a fresh start for me and here I am being dragged through the mud on the first day of freshers :frown:

Reply 1

BexiiLouise

Im sorry that you are having such a difficult time. During my second and third year of University I endured sever suicidal depression. It felt like nobody was bothered by my presence, the walls were closing in and there was nothing I could do to stop it.

Have you tried changing courses? Joining a society? If you are living in student halls have you tried moving rooms so you are with a new group of people.

xxx

Reply 2

Uniguyhopefully

Which uni do you go to if you mind me asking, for someone who actually went through this when moving away i realised that those so called friends were a waste,standard. You know what would be a slap in the face is if you approach them and say how they are stuff it doesnt make you any less of a person just a decent one. It was **** for me but it got better try joining societies or socialise with people in the halls.

Reply 3

Tensaiuknow

I would honestly say join lots of societies, make lots of new friends, put the effort in and surely, out of 100 there must be at least 10 who would adore you^^

Reply 4

Analyst89

You have me as a friend :smile:

Join lots of clubs and societies and I'm sure you can meet new people and make friends. You could swap uni's at the end of the first year.

If you ever need to talk, feel free to PM me.

(edited 7 years ago)

Reply 5

post-grad-u-ate

the best you can do in this situation - going on the best anyone can do..

look after yourself, go to the gym.. feel good, feel positive about yourself and working towards something, being healthy and glowing.. going to the gym takes up some of your time to stop thinking or overthinking about things that are not necessary and focusing on yourself is good as it inspires others around you.. and it is time for you, to look after you.

Focus on your course, know what you are doing with it, where is it going to take you? working in the city of London, internationally? particular issues you feel strong about? be sure on your identity and who you are and make sure it sticks and doesnt change much over time.

you might be expecting more than what is really ever going to happen.

If you see someone you recognise and happen to catch their eye, just give them a nod of respect, that you have self-respect and that is what they will respect of you - and be nice about it.

be interesting.. dont go home and sit in your room wasting time watching documentaries etc.

make good use of your time, if you can work and earn then all the better as sadly money makes everyone friends so get on with getting a car and planning a round-the-world trip after uni.

maybe there is some truth that you arent perfect.. maybe you dont care about your appearance and that puts people off.. maybe your clothes need updating, you might give people strange looks and not realise it.. you might think people think things about you when they aren't.

Plan your time.. lectures, studying time, gym, work, socialising.. you'll have a busy week!

socialising.. focus on the new people you meet - instigate things happening.. pub drinks, sport etc.

Only you can make the change YOU WANT in your life.

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

UPDATE: I want to drop out. I can't believe I'm crying on the first day of freshers. I just bumped into this guy I know from sixth form who also goes to the same uni and he said that the girls I know told a girl off my course that 'they really don't like me and to stay away from me because I'm really *****y'. Then he goes I really don't get why so many people don't like you. I literally had to hold back tears on my way home. I have never gone out my way to do anything to these girls. They thought I wanted the same guy as them in sixth form so I backed off but because he used to show more interest in me they called me clingy so I took a gap year and didn't speak to them for a year. I moved on so why are they making my life hell like this now? :frown:

Reply 7

chikane

Original post by Anonymous

Are these nasty girls in the same course as you? If no then after freshers week you will hardly see them again as everyone will have different timetable. Also the girl they spoke to will see for herself what you are really like. Just be nice friendly and positive. You will have so many people on your course to be friends with. These girls are sad, pathetic and clearly jealous.
It will get better after freshers they wont be so cliquey after this week.

Reply 8

username1726117

Original post by Anonymous

Report them. It says everything about these girls and nothing about you when they're going around spreading crap during Freshers, a time which is basically a new start for everyone and the opportunity to meet new people. Let the uni staff deal with it, as it's unfair.

Otherwise, try not to let them get to you. Easier said than done, I know. I've had plenty of crap spread about me over the years but those who know me have always stood by my side. You'll make friends, but you'll need to put yourself out there and show everyone the real you! :smile:

Reply 9

TeenRose29

Always

Let the positivity flow through matey! :smile:

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

Original post by chikane

No we're in different buildings but I still see them around on campus or in the city centre. I honestly feel so **** rn. I've spent the whole day in bed, I feel as if everyone hates me.

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

It really is easier than done. Its actually soul destroying when people around you just talk ****, I feel so low rn. I think I should drop out. I know for a fact its only going to get worse and reporting them would just amplify the situation :frown:

Reply 12

Anonymous #2

Hey

Don't drop out. There's no point running away. If you drop out, you'll just be running for the rest of your life, and you'll hate yourself for it.
If its any consolation, people only behave than way when they're jealous of you, for whatever reason. So look at this way, you've got something they haven't.

Reply 13

1582

Volunteer Team

Stick to your own class, make new friends, and don't show that their words effect you. If they continue to behave that way after a week or so then they're just being childish. It was most likely just an off comment because it was the first time they had seen you in months.*

As for people not approaching you - don't rely on someone else to make the first move! If you want to talk to someone just go ahead and say hi! *