My son doesn't want me to go to see Uni with him.

Do you trust him to make his own decisions? Uni is traditionally the time when children 'fly the nest', so while you may want to go see the place with him it's perfectly understandable that he wants to see it without you. My parents didn't come with me to see any unis, that was my choice.

He's just come downstairs and saw a Facebook post I made about it, saying I was a bit disappointed. He has said he'll go with me if I want as he didn't know I felt like that. Yay !

We missed the Open Day at Ulster's Jordanstown Campus and there isn't going to be another one until next September. We live in Newry and I thought on one of his days off from college we could go ourselves and have a look round. I don't mean inside any accommodation or anything. Just to get a feel for the place he is thinking of applying for next year. He is 19 and doing the second year of a HND. But he said he will ask his mate to drive him there and the two of them can go and it'll be more fun.I get that he would rather go with his mate than his mum. His friend though, who he actually doesn't really know that well but has a car, will have no interest in any of it at all , and will want to come home asap without going on to look at Stranmillis and will probably try and talk him out of even applying to Uni like his friends all did 3 years ago. I wanted to have a look around as well and see what it was like. I was also thinking while we were there we could go to Stranmillis and look around there too as it's supposed to be really pretty and as a Jordanstown student he could live at Stranmillis if he wanted to. I'm feeling really disappointed and let down he doesn't want me to go with him. It's important for me to be able to see and get some idea of where he will be studying and living maybe next year. I suppose this means I will have to go and see it for myself on my own some other time. Sigh.

We missed the Open Day at Ulster's Jordanstown Campus and there isn't going to be another one until next September. We live in Newry and I thought on one of his days off from college we could go ourselves and have a look round. I don't mean inside any accommodation or anything. Just to get a feel for the place he is thinking of applying for next year. He is 19 and doing the second year of a HND. But he said he will ask his mate to drive him there and the two of them can go and it'll be more fun.I get that he would rather go with his mate than his mum. His friend though, who he actually doesn't really know that well but has a car, will have no interest in any of it at all , and will want to come home asap without going on to look at Stranmillis and will probably try and talk him out of even applying to Uni like his friends all did 3 years ago. I wanted to have a look around as well and see what it was like. I was also thinking while we were there we could go to Stranmillis and look around there too as it's supposed to be really pretty and as a Jordanstown student he could live at Stranmillis if he wanted to. I'm feeling really disappointed and let down he doesn't want me to go with him. It's important for me to be able to see and get some idea of where he will be studying and living maybe next year. I suppose this means I will have to go and see it for myself on my own some other time. Sigh.

Markova how old are you?.
I thought you were 21 years old.

I really understand how you feel as a parent, but you have to understand that by going to an open day with him, you're not letting him make his own decisions and you seem like you don't trust him in making them.
He is becoming an adult now, you have to learn to 'let him go' and be independent. Isn't this why he's going to university in the first place; to essentially teach him responsibilities and accountabilities for his own actions?

I worked on open days at university and it is pretty 'normal' to see prospective students without their parents; just with their friends or siblings if they have any.
This is because they know this is the start of their life; start of becoming an adult.

One of my (now former) housemate's parents used to visit him literally every week and I just felt like what is the point of you moving away from home if you're just going to get your mummy and daddy to visit you often? Thats not independent in my book.

Ha !! I'm a 48 year old female called Lisa. My son is 19.

Ah. I thought your were 21 because your username is markova 21.

No. Markova is Dame Alicia Markova, who was Britain's first Prima Ballerina. The number is completely random.

We missed the Open Day at Ulster's Jordanstown Campus and there isn't going to be another one until next September. We live in Newry and I thought on one of his days off from college we could go ourselves and have a look round. I don't mean inside any accommodation or anything. Just to get a feel for the place he is thinking of applying for next year. He is 19 and doing the second year of a HND. But he said he will ask his mate to drive him there and the two of them can go and it'll be more fun.I get that he would rather go with his mate than his mum. His friend though, who he actually doesn't really know that well but has a car, will have no interest in any of it at all , and will want to come home asap without going on to look at Stranmillis and will probably try and talk him out of even applying to Uni like his friends all did 3 years ago. I wanted to have a look around as well and see what it was like. I was also thinking while we were there we could go to Stranmillis and look around there too as it's supposed to be really pretty and as a Jordanstown student he could live at Stranmillis if he wanted to. I'm feeling really disappointed and let down he doesn't want me to go with him. It's important for me to be able to see and get some idea of where he will be studying and living maybe next year. I suppose this means I will have to go and see it for myself on my own some other time. Sigh.

When you were a girl did you want your mum or dad going with you to your schools, university? (if you went) he's a teenage lad he doesn't want his mum cramping his style. Don't take offence just accept it from his point.

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Ah.
I thought it was your age.

And what is "Prima Ballerina"?.

A Prima Ballerina is a female professional ballet dancer of a very high rank; often the Senior Principal Dancer in a Ballet Company. The only higher rank is Prima Ballerina Assoluta and there have only ever been eleven of those in history. The Royal Ballet's Darcey Bussell, who most people know from Strictly Come Dancing is a Prima Ballerina. It is a rare title to bestow on a dancer.