Is it unfair to judge a Woman on her past?

would you wife up a girl like that tho? lol

I don't think it's unfair; when it comes to dating and relationships you can judge people on whatever you like. The whole purpose of being in such a relationship is for you to be happy, and if anything about that person bothers you to the extent that you wouldn't be happy with them overall (whether they're to "blame" for it or not), then it would kind of defeat the point of being with them in the first place.

I don't think it's unfair; when it comes to dating and relationships you can judge people on whatever you like. The whole purpose of being in such a relationship is for you to be happy, and if anything about that person bothers you to the extent that you wouldn't be happy with them overall (whether they're to "blame" for it or not), then it would kind of defeat the point of being with them in the first place.

Tbf her past just sounds more wild and experimental than being malicious or anything.*

The only reason I'd be cautious would be if she had a track history of something, e.g. having a lot of bad history with guys or continuing drug taking but it sounds like all of those were just a phase that she went through (believe it or not, a lot of people do go through similar types of phases, especially when they're younger).

So no, I wouldn't be worrying about her past, alrhough if you are still mulling over it, maybe it's worth reconsidering what you two should be. **

People can change. But the truth is they usually don't.

Even from around 23 (when she left uni and grew up a bit probably) to 30?

By the time you're 23 your brain has already matured, which means patterns of thinking have been built that are difficult to remove or change. Your personality is mostly decided, although you can affect certain aspects if you really try, and you will continue to gain maturity and experience.

If you want to know if she's stopped being such a party girl, she probably has, but if you want to know if she has much more self-control, she probably doesn't.

Having said this, I'm sure others here have deeper insights into behavioural psychology than me, so anyone reading this please feel free to correct what I've said based on your expertise.

aware?
not sure exactly 100% sure what you're getting at but .....perhaps.

friends with ex boyfriends too?
I didn't think it could get any worst.
You've probably got a better chance of one of them Geordie shore girls not cheating on you than this lass

Have some fun with her.

Clearly not 'wife material' though.

She seems moral now, she volunteers and protests about rights and stuff

But if shes a bit of a nympho.. lol

Listen, you clearly don't respect her. You've repeatedly made remarks about wanting a "nice girl" and her being "naughty". So why are you wasting yours and ours time? You clearly have made your mind up.

Seems like:





Just lol @ the defensive, whiny butthurt. Why not just post "I slept around and this thread triggers me." ****ing lmao

Yes it's very reasonable to judge a persons past (a history of disloyalty ect.. would be a red flag) however in this case i'd largely ignore anything she's done say more than a decade ago.

Some of the most ardent social justice types that i've met (liberal lefties) have been the most slutty and most prone to drug abuse. They think anybody that critises this is a mysoginist when the truth is they can't keep their legs closed and will never screw the submissive man they protest with.

My doctor friend was in a Labour group at the junior doc protests and he said half the people there started shagging each other afterwards or went on Tinder to find each other