Hi I'm Iranian (but live in the UK) and am in my second year of university. I met a guy I liked online and have been dating him for a month now however I can't tell my parents because
1) the guy is not Muslim or Iranian and my mum is adamant that I date and marry an Iranian guy
2) what he studied at uni would not be something my mum would call equal or above what I'm studying
3) my mum says I should tell her if I'm dating someone but in her mind dating someone is me finding an Iranian guy, going to coffee shops with him now and then and that's that. Then marrying him like a year later. She would go ballistic if she found out I've been physical with guys. My whole family are against sex before marriage and I don't even know what they'd do if they found out I had sex before marriage (which I haven't yet).
I wouldn't call myself religious as there's a lot of aspects of Islam I don't agree with but I'm quite a spiritual person and believe in God, it gives me hope but I dont think you should live your life completely ruled by what a book says but instead live it as a moral person, doing good deeds for others.
What do I do? It's so unfair none of my western friends have to date their boyfriends behind their parents backs