When is it too late for the no contact rule?

Do you want her back? Yes?

In that case, buy something sweet. It doesn't have to be necessarily expensive, just something that would remind her of you, your relationship and all the good times. Go to her place when you know she'll be home and knock at her door. Tell her how you feel. That you want her in your life and that you want her to be with you. Give her your little sign of appreciation and ask her to be your girlfriend again. If you want someone in your life, ask them, tell them, it's really that simple. No tricks, no mind games and no terribly long waiting periods. Just express your feelings and see how she reacts.

If you don't want her back, simply don't do a thing and forget about her. Simple as that.

You know the no contact rule? "Don't talk to you ex for at least 30 days if you want a chance of getting them back", is this too late to be effective if it's been almost two months since breakup? Bearing in mind there's no bad blood, she still messages me first but is very platonic and the initial strong post-break up feelings are dying down.

Well you can't expect her to be thrilled about being dumped. I expect she is angry, upset - in direct proportion to the amount she liked you before - or she has just decided you are totally unreliable and likely to do it again next time you feel like it. In which case she just despises you and has lost all respect for you. This is the real killer emotion - no way back from this I fear. Even if she takes you back this will always be at the back of her mind and could damage your relationship for years.

Your only hope is to grovel and do something so overwhelmingly good that she respects you again. What? I don't know. That is for you to discover.

I fear you have lost this one but hopefully you will learn from it.

The idea is that you do it for your own recovery, not to win someone back. I've done it before and it has worked, but I was at the point where I didn't care if I ever spoke to her again.

Who dumped who?

Leave on a positive note and settle any anguish and hard feelings with her. Then go non-contact and focus on yourself. Schoolwork, workout, friends whilst blocking her on social media and removing any thoughts and memorabilia about her. Know that the best way to get her back is to make yourself stronger- and whatever you do don't start becoming desperate or clingy. You're the most important person for you. When she messages you don't jump like a puppy; instead if you want start afresh.

I'd surmise it's too late when you have to ask this..

Leave on a positive note and settle any anguish and hard feelings with her. Then go non-contact and focus on yourself. Schoolwork, workout, friends whilst blocking her on social media and removing any thoughts and memorabilia about her. Know that the best way to get her back is to make yourself stronger- and whatever you do don't start becoming desperate or clingy. You're the most important person for you. When she messages you don't jump like a puppy; instead if you want start afresh.

Stop playing games OP, cut her off because you don't want to be friends, not because you're fixated on any particular outcome.

You know the no contact rule? "Don't talk to you ex for at least 30 days if you want a chance of getting them back", is this too late to be effective if it's been almost two months since breakup? Bearing in mind there's no bad blood, she still messages me first but is very platonic and the initial strong post-break up feelings are dying down.

It's too late. If you want her back, you're going to just have to go for broke.

Have you ever got back an ex?

Yes. Though granted it was mostly on an FWB basis.