I feel uncomfortable when my girlfriend goes clubbing

She's such a big ho even the word gets bigger. Seriously OP, this is not wife material, you can't show her to your parents, if you make her pregnant, give her a false name and be ready to bail.

If you're not going to be helpful, is there much point in replying?
I want to continue my relationship with her just without the feeling I have about her going clubbing. If you must know, her and my family get along very well despite what may have happened in the past.

I am being helpful, this is my advice, cut her off and find someone else. You don't have trust issues because her past behaviour indicates that she is untrustworthy. Reread that last bit, her past behaviour indicates she is unworthy of trust.


Would you allow a child to be alone with a vicious dog? No because that dog's past behaviour indicates that it might hurt the child. Should you allow your gf to be alone around other men? No because her past behaviour indicates that she might hop on one of their dicks and go for a ride.

Get a grip. If she wants to go out and cheat, it's her prerogative you don't own her.

She can go as she pleases.

I completely see what you're saying but she never had sex with anybody, just kiss. It hurt but I'm able to move on from that and she knows that if it happens again she doesn't get another chance.

She goes with her friends and her best friend is also Ina relationship so surely she wouldn't do anything in front of them?

Hi guys, was just wondering whether any of you may be able to help me...

I'll try and keep this short and sweet but in short, I don't drink and don't particularly like the idea of being near people when they do and especially my girlfriend. I understand people having a casual drink with a meal but drinking to excess in a Club I really don't understand.

Me and my girlfriend have been together for just under two years now and when we started going out I let her know how I felt about drinking, partying and clubbing and that I'd much rather have a night in with her than join my mates at the pub. She basically agreed but in the last few months she's started to tell me how much she enjoys going out and well I really don't feel comfortable about it at all. It's really hard to describe but when I know she's out, I just get this sick gut feeling and I can't do anything about it.

I have some trust issues as she has got with somebody in the past 3 months and so we're trying to work on/move on from that in a mature way but I can't help but think of what could be happening there (if that makes sense?)

Feel free to ask me anything as it may help with me being able to explain things but I was just wondering whether anybody else had been in the same boat and if so, how the found a way to cope with it.

Thanks! 😁😁

I know she can and I'm not trying to control her, what I'm trying to do is control how I feel about it.

Why not? She needs to be controlled by the sound of it.

I dont want to be trolled hence posting anonymously. People change and in relationships you have to either allow them to do their own thing or join in. If you are uncomfortable with either option then you should really end things. Obviously I dont know but she may well have 'got with' someone else because that person was a better match for her or she feels trapped and cant be herself with you. If thats the case it will happen again. You shouldnt compromise yourself by going out drinking / clubbing against your will either. She obviously must have feelings for you or wouldnt still be with you but that maycwell not be enough going forward.

It's not all that much a common thing. Maybe once a week/fortnight. She is loyal and respectful and realises she has done wrong but we both know we cannot 'control' one another. What I would really like is a way to be able to get out of this uncomfortable feeling where whenever she goes out, I just don't feel happy.

She's not loyal and she is not respecting you because she's insisting on going against your wishes, period. You're not happy because deep inside, you know the situation is wrong, you have to be honest and I mean truly honest, realise that you are not happy and do something about it rather than what you're doing now.

But the way I see it is that other than this I am happy with her. In the grand scheme of things, it's only a small amount of time I feel like this as it's only a small amount of time she goes out so is it worth me making myself happier for this small amount of time and then be unhappier the rest of the time when I don't have a gf?

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Hi guys, was just wondering whether any of you may be able to help me...

I'll try and keep this short and sweet but in short, I don't drink and don't particularly like the idea of being near people when they do and especially my girlfriend. I understand people having a casual drink with a meal but drinking to excess in a Club I really don't understand.

Me and my girlfriend have been together for just under two years now and when we started going out I let her know how I felt about drinking, partying and clubbing and that I'd much rather have a night in with her than join my mates at the pub. She basically agreed but in the last few months she's started to tell me how much she enjoys going out and well I really don't feel comfortable about it at all. It's really hard to describe but when I know she's out, I just get this sick gut feeling and I can't do anything about it.

I have some trust issues as she has got with somebody in the past 3 months and so we're trying to work on/move on from that in a mature way but I can't help but think of what could be happening there (if that makes sense?)

Feel free to ask me anything as it may help with me being able to explain things but I was just wondering whether anybody else had been in the same boat and if so, how the found a way to cope with it.

Thanks! 😁😁

It's a brave decision to take someone back after they've kissed someone else but not necessarily a bad one. Everyone makes mistakes.

I think the main issue here is you need to pick a course of action and draw some lines in the sand.

Conventional wisdom seems to state that if you trust a girl you should essentially let her do whatever she wants. I think this is misguided. Relationships are, by their nature, limiting. You can't behave the same way in a relationship as you can whilst single.


Have you discussed this with her? She shouldn't be happy to go out clubbing if it makes you unhappy but perhaps you can also head out with her clubbing too?

The key is to be proactive and assert some boundaries that you can both be happy with but without being domineering or smothering her.


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