Boyfriend won't let me walk away to cool down when I'm mad

When we get into a fight, I yell he yells (actually a lot of the time I just talk and he can't automatically snap but I admit the last two times I yelled for legit reasons)...then I walk away to cool down and it makes him mad even more. I deal with it by walking away and having a breather so I could calm down and think clearer but he deals with things the total opposite, he need to talk right there and then usually he's still mad and yelling and there's no reasoning with him- if gets mad enough he'll hit stuff. He always wants things his way even when he's in the wrong.

Lastnight we had a fight at the bar, he left me at the bar by myself to go to the another bar. He was mad, I was hanging out with his friends while he was playing pool- what else am I suppose to do just sit there and wait for him? I want to socialize. I got pissed, I live in a different town as him and not familiar with his side of town and ended up at the bar alone. We went home after kicking things outside the bar- he was mad at me for being mad basically. We got home I wanted to use the washroom trying to get passed him as usual he won't let me go so I went to to bed covered- he got mad at that too and hollered he just wanted to argue so I tried going to the washroom again he shoved me and I fell this time.

What is this? Why can't he cool off first? Why do guys get mad when your mad?? Why can't he leave me alone till things cool off??

woah.
When he's not mad, try and tell him that u want to walk away to calm urself down when ur mad.
If he doesn't listen,he's not right for u........

Talk to him and work out some rules on how you argue. get him to explain you need a time out to cool down, but afer a time you will come back and talk it through with him. Thats a compromise. If you cant agree on one then think whether you ought to be together. Maybe find a different way of arguing It all sounds pretty dysfunctional.

we had that discussion already, he even said he gets it that sometimes it's better to walk away and cool down then the heat of the moment i guess he forgets.

I would be fine to talk about whatever we are fighting about but he's hollering and it's overwhelming. Two people upset won't solve anything. He's already admitted to having a bad temper, i heard him talking to his mom and he doesn't know how to talk calmly with anyone it seems and when he does he talks to you like your stupid.

Yeah, get out of there, fast.

We had that discussion already, he even said he gets it that sometimes it's better to walk away and cool down then the heat of the moment I guess he forgets.

I would be fine to talk about whatever we are fighting about but he's hollering and it's overwhelming. Two people upset won't solve anything. He's already admitted to having a bad temper, I heard him talking to his mom and he doesn't know how to talk calmly with anyone it seems and when he does he talks to you like your stupid.

Tbh that's not enough for me to leave I'm just trying to understand his behaviour. My dad is the same way, he gets mad throws things YELLS so I'm used to this behaviour and it doesn't scare me. It's just overwhelming.

Okay. But, be careful, I know from experience being around that sort of behaviour doesn't do much good.

What happened?

I'm hearing alarm bells ringing loud and clear.