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how are some people really social?

id talk to them and they'd seem boring but would also be the party animals outside of school. i suck at socialising. are there any tips on how i can make close friends with pople rather than becoming friends with everyone. ive always noticed that im friends with everyone but havent necessarily been part of any friendship groups or cliques. How is it that the popular girls all become friends. Is it because they look good? ive noticed how theyre friends with the popular girls in the year below. whereas i see myself in no position to be talking to people outside my classes. Some advice would be appreciated. especially since uni's starting and i need tips on how to make "close" friends. any convo starter tips? i dont like awkward silences so i always talk but it makes me look like a creep rofl.

i go to an all girls catholic college and a lot of these popular girls have friends out of school. where did they meet them? its been a thing since year 7. There have been girs who recently joined collge, yet theyve made it so quick ot the popular group and i was wondering what it is that they do and their personality that makes them like this.

Advice would really be appreciated. Thank you all.
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Original post by Anonymous
how are some people really social?

id talk to them and they'd seem boring but would also be the party animals outside of school. i suck at socialising. are there any tips on how i can make close friends with pople rather than becoming friends with everyone. ive always noticed that im friends with everyone but havent necessarily been part of any friendship groups or cliques. How is it that the popular girls all become friends. Is it because they look good? ive noticed how theyre friends with the popular girls in the year below. whereas i see myself in no position to be talking to people outside my classes. Some advice would be appreciated. especially since uni's starting and i need tips on how to make "close" friends. any convo starter tips? i dont like awkward silences so i always talk but it makes me look like a creep rofl.

i go to an all girls catholic college and a lot of these popular girls have friends out of school. where did they meet them? its been a thing since year 7. There have been girs who recently joined collge, yet theyve made it so quick ot the popular group and i was wondering what it is that they do and their personality that makes them like this.

Advice would really be appreciated. Thank you all.


You just smile to everyone you see and say hello to everyone whoo passes you by!
Go and start a random convo. without the fear of them ignoring you!
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random convo? like complimenting them?


Original post by Aimen.
You just smile to everyone you see and say hello to everyone whoo passes you by!
Go and start a random convo. without the fear of them ignoring you!
Try saying hi to everyone
Try to be as nice to everyone as physically possible even if you don't particularly get on with them. This will increase your social stature as a nice person. Don't try to be forceful in changing your personality to new people. Be who u want to be and if people don't like you don't change urself just for their sake
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Original post by Anonymous
random convo? like complimenting them?


Ohh yea that would be a great start! :colondollar:
Original post by Anonymous
how are some people really social?

id talk to them and they'd seem boring but would also be the party animals outside of school. i suck at socialising. are there any tips on how i can make close friends with pople rather than becoming friends with everyone. ive always noticed that im friends with everyone but havent necessarily been part of any friendship groups or cliques. How is it that the popular girls all become friends. Is it because they look good? ive noticed how theyre friends with the popular girls in the year below. whereas i see myself in no position to be talking to people outside my classes. Some advice would be appreciated. especially since uni's starting and i need tips on how to make "close" friends. any convo starter tips? i dont like awkward silences so i always talk but it makes me look like a creep rofl.

i go to an all girls catholic college and a lot of these popular girls have friends out of school. where did they meet them? its been a thing since year 7. There have been girs who recently joined collge, yet theyve made it so quick ot the popular group and i was wondering what it is that they do and their personality that makes them like this.

Advice would really be appreciated. Thank you all.


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Original post by Anonymous
how are some people really social?

id talk to them and they'd seem boring but would also be the party animals outside of school. i suck at socialising. are there any tips on how i can make close friends with pople rather than becoming friends with everyone. ive always noticed that im friends with everyone but havent necessarily been part of any friendship groups or cliques. How is it that the popular girls all become friends. Is it because they look good? ive noticed how theyre friends with the popular girls in the year below. whereas i see myself in no position to be talking to people outside my classes. Some advice would be appreciated. especially since uni's starting and i need tips on how to make "close" friends. any convo starter tips? i dont like awkward silences so i always talk but it makes me look like a creep rofl.

i go to an all girls catholic college and a lot of these popular girls have friends out of school. where did they meet them? its been a thing since year 7. There have been girs who recently joined collge, yet theyve made it so quick ot the popular group and i was wondering what it is that they do and their personality that makes them like this.

Advice would really be appreciated. Thank you all.

Hi there :smile:

My top tip for making friends at uni is to join a society! Most unis have a variety of clubs/societies that you can be a part of so there should be something for everyone. At the start of the year, a lot of societies hold taster sessions and I would recommend going to as many of these as you can/want even if its something you've never done before. Societies can be great for developing a new or pre- existing skill but they are also a key source of socialisation at uni. They also host numerous socials throughout the year and this can include things like pizza nights, game nights, club nights, day outs which is a great way to meet likeminded people and develop friendships. Uni can be very social but it is up to you to make it as social as you want. Just try and be confident and approach everything with an open mind. Unis are very different to any previous school you have attended as there is a lot more people therefore you have a greater chance of meeting people you click with. This might not always be instant but there are many events held by the uni that facilitate meeting new people. Hope this helps a bit!

Best wishes

Joanna
-Uni of Kent Rep
Original post by Anonymous
how are some people really social?

id talk to them and they'd seem boring but would also be the party animals outside of school. i suck at socialising. are there any tips on how i can make close friends with pople rather than becoming friends with everyone. ive always noticed that im friends with everyone but havent necessarily been part of any friendship groups or cliques. How is it that the popular girls all become friends. Is it because they look good? ive noticed how theyre friends with the popular girls in the year below. whereas i see myself in no position to be talking to people outside my classes. Some advice would be appreciated. especially since uni's starting and i need tips on how to make "close" friends. any convo starter tips? i dont like awkward silences so i always talk but it makes me look like a creep rofl.

i go to an all girls catholic college and a lot of these popular girls have friends out of school. where did they meet them? its been a thing since year 7. There have been girs who recently joined collge, yet theyve made it so quick ot the popular group and i was wondering what it is that they do and their personality that makes them like this.

Advice would really be appreciated. Thank you all.


My personal opinion like when I went an all boys school I didn't really fit in but the popular ones was popular because they become alpha they was naughty and always being rude to teachers and got all the girls. But that isn't being popular that's being noticed because of the behaviour wasn't correct way to be. So they seem popular because they know for being troublesome. They more noticeable that all. You will see if you look. You see the nerdy shy ones in a group but you don't pay attention to them because they aren't sticking out like a sore thumb. If you want to be popular you just need to change your attitude become a *****, smoke, drink, get introuble, be loud and garentee you will end up in the popular group

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