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Will I finally get a social life at uni?

Hi,

I am a year 13 student studying A-Levels at a small sixth form which is attached to my old secondary school. I find that I haven't had the chance to make friends during my time at sixth form and have secretly grown to dislike most of my peers as I find them quite lazy, unambitious and not very nice people overall. I really don't want to associate myself with these people!

There are about 30/35 people in year 12 and 13 combined and I know everyone there already as I have gone through 4/5 years of secondary school with them. I am very studious and my work ethic is very different to other students in the sixth form and as a result my grades are a lot higher than theirs. Since I have started sixth form I have lost so many of my friends due to needing to revise instead of going out every weekend and staying in the common room with them messing about during our frees.

I never used to be like this. During my GCSE's I had a few good friends who I would make time to socialise with and friends who would actually enjoy seeing me. Nowadays, I feel like I just weird people out with how much effort I put into my studies but obviously the jump between A-Levels and GCSE's is huge and I really want the grades to study dentistry at university! I am not a mean person, I genuinely do want good friends but I'm just so picky and choosy about who I am influenced by and clearly my sixth form isn't giving me a huge variety of people to choose from..

I personally feel that university will give me a fresh start. There will be other people on my course just as determined and as hard working as I am so hopefully new friendships will be formed. Not to mention the friendships that can be made within halls and societies too..

My question is, am I wrong in thinking this? What if I make no friends at university? Am I too picky? Is there anybody in the same position as me?

Any input would be sooooo appreciated :-)
Original post by Anonymous
Hi,

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speaking of variety.. there's a VAST NUMBER OF PEOPLE IN UNIVERSITY. YOU ARE BOUND TO MAKE FRIENDS. DO NOT WORRY. FOCUS ON YOUR STUDIES. There's like 40,000 people in unis (dunno if that's accurate, heard it somewhere, BUT- there are certainly more people than the 30/35 in your two years combined).

Don't worry too much.

Hope I helped =)
You will definitely find new friends in uni. Uni students tend to be a lot more hardworking as it is more demanding. And as for societies, most universities have a wide array of clubs to chose from so you will easily be able to find people who you have common interests with
I look like the Elephant Man and i'm socially inept, yet even I eventually made friends at uni.

If I can do it, anyone can.
Hiya,

I was pretty much exactly the same as you in sixth form. I've been at uni a year now and managed to make loads of friends in the first week and throughout the whole year, and plus I even met my girlfriend in freshers week and we're still together now.

Universities tend to be more liberal and accepting than anywhere else, especially schools and sixth forms. As long as you are nice, you will have no problem making friends at all. People will totally understand if you need to spend the night in to revise. However your grades in first year don't count and you probably won't have lectures in freshers week, so you'll have plenty of time to socialise and build long lasting friendships.

Best of luck!
Original post by Anonymous
Hi,

I am a year 13 student studying A-Levels at a small sixth form which is attached to my old secondary school. I find that I haven't had the chance to make friends during my time at sixth form and have secretly grown to dislike most of my peers as I find them quite lazy, unambitious and not very nice people overall. I really don't want to associate myself with these people!

There are about 30/35 people in year 12 and 13 combined and I know everyone there already as I have gone through 4/5 years of secondary school with them. I am very studious and my work ethic is very different to other students in the sixth form and as a result my grades are a lot higher than theirs. Since I have started sixth form I have lost so many of my friends due to needing to revise instead of going out every weekend and staying in the common room with them messing about during our frees.

I never used to be like this. During my GCSE's I had a few good friends who I would make time to socialise with and friends who would actually enjoy seeing me. Nowadays, I feel like I just weird people out with how much effort I put into my studies but obviously the jump between A-Levels and GCSE's is huge and I really want the grades to study dentistry at university! I am not a mean person, I genuinely do want good friends but I'm just so picky and choosy about who I am influenced by and clearly my sixth form isn't giving me a huge variety of people to choose from..

I personally feel that university will give me a fresh start. There will be other people on my course just as determined and as hard working as I am so hopefully new friendships will be formed. Not to mention the friendships that can be made within halls and societies too..

My question is, am I wrong in thinking this? What if I make no friends at university? Am I too picky? Is there anybody in the same position as me?

Any input would be sooooo appreciated :-)


If you're done with your old friends, then there's not really much to worry about on that front.

I presume that one way or the other, you're going to university next year - hopefully you get the offers you want and all. But a some point you do have to ask yourself if you carry on down the same path you're on now - are you going to be a good friend to have? Work hard and all that, yeh yeh that's a good thing - but the way you describe things (I presume you're a girl) it sounds to me like if you got the offers you want, you'd just go into overdrive at university and try and max out your studying.That's just not sustainable (dentisting is a long course) and it misses the point of university. What you're doing now - I don't think that's wrong necessarily, but it can't hurt to lighten up a bit - certainly this time next year, I think you should be making time for people, and not cutting them out because they're into partying.
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there will always be people who are passionate about the work they do

just be yourself and get yourself into places with similar interests to your own and don't be afraid of this!

by being yourself whilst exposing yourself to people, like minded people will naturally be attracted to you
Depends on your uni, course and how lucky you are in terms of flatmates

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