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Annoyed with my intelligence

People keep saying I outsmart them, that I discuss and talk too intelligent for them and then they don't want to discuss the (in my eyes, simple) things I want to discuss.
They also keep saying that I'm this 'super intelligent and clever guy', while I feel I have said nothing in a conversation that could lead to that conclusion. The other day I was just messing around, having small intellectual banter, talking about how all sides of a triangle equate 180 degrees and the hypotenuse of Pythagoras. All of a sudden people go "Woah man, you seem really clever!!". Yeah, what, you didn't study that stuff in high school? Man, I feel sad for some people.

I can be talking about almost anything and people will come out of the blue and call me 'very intelligent'. I don't know what's up with these people. I can't even discuss what's for me normal intellectual discussion - apparently for some people it's out of their league. Wooh, you discuss causation in physics, wooh, you must be some genius! Come on, give me a break.

The weirdest part is that I'm not even aware that I'm 'too smart'. Maybe I just hang out with dumb people.. who knows? Being myself is intellectually too exhausting for others, it seems.

I wonder if anyone is in the same boat as me.

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Maybe it's not what you say but how you say it. A lot of people don't want to discuss the hypotenuse of a traingle. Take a break sometimes. Enjoy saying stupid ****, it's one of the pleasures of life. It won't benefit you in life being always intellectual all the time.
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Original post by BobBobson
Maybe it's not what you say but how you say it. A lot of people don't want to discuss the hypotenuse of a traingle. Take a break sometimes. Enjoy saying stupid ****, it's one of the pleasures of life. It won't benefit you in life being always intellectual all the time.

Good point, I think it might be because I'm very eloquent in discussion and others are like this:


sup
sup brah
hey man how r u doing


It just doesn't fit me and if I would write like that (which I never would), I would feel like a 3 year old.

Yet again, I'm not intellectual on purpose and people keep being in awe of me. I don't even push it.. I'm just myself.
What I do is change my dialect depending on who I'm speaking with. So with some people I speak in slang, and with other people I can speak very intellectually.
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Original post by BobBobson
What I do is change my dialect depending on who I'm speaking with. So with some people I speak in slang, and with other people I can speak very intellectually.

Nah, I prefer to stay integer to myself.
Original post by 571122
People keep saying I outsmart them, that I discuss and talk too intelligent for them and then they don't want to discuss the (in my eyes, simple) things I want to discuss.
They also keep saying that I'm this 'super intelligent and clever guy', while I feel I have said nothing in a conversation that could lead to that conclusion. The other day I was just messing around, having small intellectual banter, talking about how all sides of a triangle equate 180 degrees and the hypotenuse of Pythagoras. All of a sudden people go "Woah man, you seem really clever!!". Yeah, what, you didn't study that stuff in high school? Man, I feel sad for some people.

I can be talking about almost anything and people will come out of the blue and call me 'very intelligent'. I don't know what's up with these people. I can't even discuss what's for me normal intellectual discussion - apparently for some people it's out of their league. Wooh, you discuss causation in physics, wooh, you must be some genius! Come on, give me a break.

The weirdest part is that I'm not even aware that I'm 'too smart'. Maybe I just hang out with dumb people.. who knows? Being myself is intellectually too exhausting for others, it seems.

I wonder if anyone is in the same boat as me.


Don't dumb down for anyone else. Don't have a superiority or inferiority complex. Surround yourself with people who challenge rather than exasperate you.

This is one of those learning about yourself and being comfortable with it kind of things.*
Lol why are you making jokes about hypotenuses and triangles? :biggrin::biggrin:
It seems a bit random and that's probably why most of the people you're talking about can't relate and believe you're on a different level. Also, what exactly do you mean by 'small intellectual banter'? As in can you give an example.
Perhaps you should find other people to talk to who would share similar interests to yours.
people call me rapping scientist or mad scientist. I dont know why the second one, but the first one is because im into science and I used to rap in school
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Original post by beautifulbigmacs
Don't dumb down for anyone else. Don't have a superiority or inferiority complex. Surround yourself with people who challenge rather than exasperate you.

This is one of those learning about yourself and being comfortable with it kind of things.*

I'm glad to see someone with the same philosophies as mine.
Also, it's probably a different people are on different wave lengths kind of thing. It's likely that I wouldn't understand a maths joke but generally speaking it's important to find people who share your humour and world view :smile: as I've got older, for example, I've realised that there are certain views that people hold that means I'm not gonna be able to be good friends with them. And that's ok. You're experiencing self awareness op. Enjoy it :smile:
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Original post by Turquoise01
Lol why are you making jokes about hypotenuses and triangles? :biggrin::biggrin:
It seems a bit random and that's probably why most of the people you're talking about can't relate and believe you're on a different level. Also, what exactly do you mean by 'small intellectual banter'? As in can you give an example.
Perhaps you should find other people to talk to who would share similar interests to yours.

All right, small intellectual banter, (this one is known) here goes:

John and Jack go to a bar. The waiter asks: "What will it be?"
John says: "I'll have some H²O"
Jack says: "I'll have some H²O too :biggrin:"
Moments later, Jack suffocates.

I think this joke is a very easy one.
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Original post by beautifulbigmacs
Also, it's probably a different people are on different wave lengths kind of thing. It's likely that I wouldn't understand a maths joke but generally speaking it's important to find people who share your humour and world view :smile: as I've got older, for example, I've realised that there are certain views that people hold that means I'm not gonna be able to be good friends with them. And that's ok. You're experiencing self awareness op. Enjoy it :smile:

Thank you. :smile:
P.S. So much smiling in your reply! :biggrin:
banter
Original post by 571122
All right, small intellectual banter, (this one is known) here goes:

John and Jack go to a bar. The waiter asks: "What will it be?"
John says: "I'll have some H²O"
Jack says: "I'll have some H²O too :biggrin:"
Moments later, Jack suffocates.

I think this joke is a very easy one.


I get it H2O2 H_2O_2
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Reply 14
Original post by KnowledgeIsBest
I get it H202 H^202

Hooray! :biggrin: Congratulations!
Reply 15
I never thought I would say this, but talking to most people feels exactly like this:

[video="youtube;7EZ9Vgsp3OE"]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7EZ9Vgsp3OE[/video]
Be aware of how you are coming across to people. I understand that you many not realise it or intend it, however the way in which you speak gives the impression that you are rather arrogant and that you think you are so much more intelligent than your peers. Even the thread title, 'Annoyed with my intelligence' [sic], is an indirect compliment to yourself, poorly disguised as a complaint.

Just remember to bear in mind how your words and your actions can make you seem haughty; perhaps people are tired of your behaviour and are trying to be subtle in telling you to tone it down a little.

All the best,
Banana :h::h:
Original post by beautifulbigmacs
Don't dumb down for anyone else. Don't have a superiority or inferiority complex. Surround yourself with people who challenge rather than exasperate you.

This is one of those learning about yourself and being comfortable with it kind of things.*


That's naive. To get by in the world you have to get along with people from all walks of life, of all education and intellectual levels. Alienating people by having a compulsive need to discuss GCSE level knowledge that half of us forgot the day after exams is not going to get you very far, or impress anyone of worth.

I know quite a few people who fit the OPs description, who feel the need to show their intelligence by discussing academic content in every day conversation, and they aren't the cleverest I know. But they do fool people into thinking they're clever, and then the disappointment is tangible when others suss them out.

I do dislike that sort of person. I like people to talk about interesting topics, but there's a time and a place, if you do it compulsively you'll come across as an arse.
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Original post by Twinpeaks
That's naive. To get by in the world you have to get along with people from all walks of life, of all education and intellectual levels. Alienating people by having a compulsive need to discuss GCSE level knowledge that half of us forgot the day after exams is not going to get you very far, or impress anyone of worth.

I know quite a few people who fit the OPs description, who feel the need to show their intelligence by discussing academic content in every day conversation, and they aren't the cleverest I know. But they do fool people into thinking they're clever, and then the disappointment is tangible when others suss them out.

I do dislike that sort of person. I like people to talk about interesting topics, but there's a time and a place, if you do it compulsively you'll come across as an arse.


This.

Successful people in any walk of life don't spend their days discussing angles of a triangle.

By all means talk to people who interest you, but you also need to be able to discuss everyday topics. Most people don't like intellectual discussions and those that do aren't in the mood for it all the time.

If you get into a subject at a higher level than school, whether its maths, philosophy, history, art, science or whatever, you can only discuss it in depth with people who have the specialist knowledge of the subject. The deeper you get, the fewer people you can discuss it with so you have to discuss other topics.
Original post by Twinpeaks
That's naive. To get by in the world you have to get along with people from all walks of life, of all education and intellectual levels. Alienating people by having a compulsive need to discuss GCSE level knowledge that half of us forgot the day after exams is not going to get you very far, or impress anyone of worth.

I know quite a few people who fit the OPs description, who feel the need to show their intelligence by discussing academic content in every day conversation, and they aren't the cleverest I know. But they do fool people into thinking they're clever, and then the disappointment is tangible when others suss them out.

I do dislike that sort of person. I like people to talk about interesting topics, but there's a time and a place, if you do it compulsively you'll come across as an arse.


I disagree.

In your work and daily life there's a need not to alienate people. It helps to get along with acquaintances.

But when it comes to personal and social life, nobody owes anybody anything. There's no point in having an empty friendship where you have to change to fit in. Thankfully, that crap stays in the playground.

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