My brother who got married in 2014 is getting divorced. My young sister who got married in 2015 is having unresolvable marital issues and might also be headed that way.*
I'm so so glad I ignored my parents bullying and bad advice when they were trying to force me to find a partner and get married. Unfortunately my sister listened to them. They treated me with so much contempt, until my brother's problems emerged at the end of 2014/15. Now my sister looks to be following direction.*
I kinda feel sorry for my sister because she was clearly misguided and had an unrealistic view of what marriage is about. She thought having a ring on the finger would be an achievement. As for my brother, I feel sorry for his soon to be wife, because his wife had the same mentality as my sister.
For me marriage is a Godly gift, it's an an oath and it's a commitment. I do not take it lightly.*
My sister and brother were already cohabiting with their respective partners before they got married. So I think to myself, once you've already been cohabiting what is the point of getting married? There's a high divorce rate amongst pre cohabiting couples and I'm starting to wonder if having the ring on the finger somehow gives the woman a false sense of control and power that they didn't have before?*
From observing both my siblings marriages I'd definitely say it's the woman that changed after the wedding, i.e. My sister and my sister in law. The guys remained the same, so in a sense my sister and sister in law have themselves to blame because they should have known what they were getting themselves into. *