Help, Bf wants me to wear a bikini

You're not his slave. tell him to go and burn his ear if he is policing you on what to wear.
If he persists, break up with him and conquer the world.

they're just going to the beach ffs

My boyfriend wants me to wear a bikini when we go on holiday but I've never worn one in my life and don't want to. I'm happy in shorts and vest. He said he doesn't want to feel like he's going on holiday with a mate. Do most people wear them or something? I just want something comfy that I can walk around in and stay cool too!

I mean yeah, sort of. Not saying you have to wear revealing clothes, but usually people that are in relationships dress a little nicer for their SO's yanno? I don't want to pressure you into wearing what you don't want to, just saying that people won't judge you for wearing a bikini.

Yes and he's "JUST" telling her to wear a bikini when clearly she does NOT want to. Honestly, girls are so weak, they feel they have to do everything a man says


tell you boyfriend you want him to wear super tight trunks on holiday so you can see him properly in naked form because I mean you don't want it to feel like you're going on holiday with a "mate"

life does not forgive weakness, remember that.

They are going to the beach, he didn't suggest something that weird. This is what people normally wear at the beach, and if OP doesn't want to wear a bikini, there are loads of one pieces that she could wear. I even linked one, but it's not like it matters.

Well if we went hiking, I would definitely not ask him to wear them, but again, if we went swimming or something like that, he would probably think of it himself. Honestly if OP is uncomfortable with wearing a bikini in his presence, she shouldn't go to the beach with him at all.

And like @Queen Cersei has already said, people don't usually go to the beach to see naked people, they go there to have fun. Of course OP should wear what she wants, but we don't need to be special snowflakes all the time lol.

I know it doesn't, but it's not me you gotta worry about

Obvious is so obvious - cue all the people with the same old boring tropes - "tell him to do blah", "he doesn't own your body" "it's your choice"

Of course it is - she's not an idiot. She knows all this.

Yeah, ok - he wants his girlfriend to wear a bikini. Big deal. Is that like the worst thing in the whole world?
For every dude that says that, I guarantee you there are a two women that tell their husbands/boyfriends exactly what to wear. How many men have their clothes chosen and bought for them by women? Millions.

A bikini is an entirely normal, suitable and appropriate form of dress on a beach / pool holiday. If she doesn't want to wear one - hey that's up to her, but not wearing one is in many ways more unusual than wearing one - I would also go so far as to say it implies a certain inhibition or mindset - not that I'm criticising.

Long story short - You're a girl who is willing to do anything for a man, you wouldn't mind being a guys slave just so he loves you because you're weak and naive.

The purpose of visiting the beach is to have fun yes therefore she can wear whatever she wishes. In this case she DOES NOT want to wear a bikini because her fat boyfriend asked her to.

I hate girls more than men. Weak naive creatures who have no ambition, want to get knocked up the day they graduate from university and live at home while the man is out working.

She would not have posted the question is she knew that her fat boyfriend doesn't own her body.
Shut up.

Are you on drugs or something? I'm not even going to argue with you on this matter. Seeing your mentality, I sense that we wouldn't get anywhere anytime soon..

Is this how you're "shutting this down"?

How is this scenario any different from:"We are going to a formal dinner - my boyfriend wants me to wear a cocktail dress. I don't feel that comfortable in one, and would rather wear a shirt and smart trousers"

It's all about what is appropriate and reasonable. No one is being forced to do anything, and no one is demanding anything and no one is asking anything unreasonable - yet a dozen people on TSR are acting like some girl is being enslaved.

My boyfriend wants me to wear a bikini when we go on holiday but I've never worn one in my life and don't want to. I'm happy in shorts and vest. He said he doesn't want to feel like he's going on holiday with a mate. Do most people wear them or something? I just want something comfy that I can walk around in and stay cool too!

Dont do anything you arent comfy with. He sounds immature as it is (he should be aware of what makes her stressed and anxious).
Why not take a sarong with you or alternatively a one piece? If you did take one then you cna see what everyone else is wearing and that might make you feel comfy, if you didnt, then you could go back to shorts.

Is this how you're "shutting this down"?

How is this scenario any different from:"We are going to a formal dinner - my boyfriend wants me to wear a cocktail dress. I don't feel that comfortable in one, and would rather wear a shirt and smart trousers"

It's all about what is appropriate and reasonable. No one is being forced to do anything, and no one is demanding anything and no one is asking anything unreasonable - yet a dozen people on TSR are acting like some girl is being enslaved.