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He cheated on me 10 times..help

My boyfriend of 2 years cheated on me 10 times in the past week..yesterday he also decided to tell me he had someone else all along.. "sorry but get over it".

I have no clue what to do. He's been sleeping with me, being all sweet, then going and doing the same with other girls. And he had another girlfriend for a while!!!! How?! I feel sick I was texting him saying I loved him so much while he was getting with someone. Now he's blocked me everywhere and I can't even get an explanation. He's absolutely used me and laughed about it in my face..

how can you be okay with doing that and not even caring enough to explain it. He's got my things and he has endless naked photos and I want my stuff back and those photos to be deleted but he's refused both :frown:

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Get with me instead.
Woah, man's a player. 10 times in 1 week, really? Report him to the police.
Original post by Anonymous
My boyfriend of 2 years cheated on me 10 times in the past week..yesterday he also decided to tell me he had someone else all along.. "sorry but get over it".

I have no clue what to do. He's been sleeping with me, being all sweet, then going and doing the same with other girls. And he had another girlfriend for a while!!!! How?! I feel sick I was texting him saying I loved him so much while he was getting with someone. Now he's blocked me everywhere and I can't even get an explanation. He's absolutely used me and laughed about it in my face..

how can you be okay with doing that and not even caring enough to explain it. He's got my things and he has endless naked photos and I want my stuff back and those photos to be deleted but he's refused both :frown:


He has a legal obligation to delete those naked photos. Report him to the police and also, if you do, tell them he's also in possession of some of your items too.
Original post by Anonymous
My boyfriend of 2 years cheated on me 10 times in the past week..yesterday he also decided to tell me he had someone else all along.. "sorry but get over it".

I have no clue what to do. He's been sleeping with me, being all sweet, then going and doing the same with other girls. And he had another girlfriend for a while!!!! How?! I feel sick I was texting him saying I loved him so much while he was getting with someone. Now he's blocked me everywhere and I can't even get an explanation. He's absolutely used me and laughed about it in my face..

how can you be okay with doing that and not even caring enough to explain it. He's got my things and he has endless naked photos and I want my stuff back and those photos to be deleted but he's refused both :frown:


I hope you're going to dump him, nobody deserves to be disrespected like that
Reply 5
Original post by KnowledgeIsBest
Woah, man's a player. 10 times in 1 week, really? Report him to the police.


Sadly he's a very good looking and confident guy and got with 5 these girls in one night alone. And had another ****ing girlfriend all along. Unsure how or why you're praising him for being a player while he was in a relationship though
Original post by Anonymous
Sadly he's a very good looking and confident guy and got with 5 these girls in one night alone. And had another ****ing girlfriend all along. Unsure how or why you're praising him for being a player while he was in a relationship though


5 in one night? I don't believe that. How? But once more, women saying they want to be respected and don't- why don't you just stop tolerating it.
Original post by Anonymous
My boyfriend of 2 years cheated on me 10 times in the past week..yesterday he also decided to tell me he had someone else all along.. "sorry but get over it".

I have no clue what to do. He's been sleeping with me, being all sweet, then going and doing the same with other girls. And he had another girlfriend for a while!!!! How?! I feel sick I was texting him saying I loved him so much while he was getting with someone. Now he's blocked me everywhere and I can't even get an explanation. He's absolutely used me and laughed about it in my face..

how can you be okay with doing that and not even caring enough to explain it. He's got my things and he has endless naked photos and I want my stuff back and those photos to be deleted but he's refused both :frown:


He's a dick and doesn't care that's why he didn't explain anything. Report him to the police becuase he has no legal right to keep your pictures if you are not together. The police have the legal obligation to arrest him if you refuses to give your stuff back and he doesn't delete your photos. It doesn't make sense that he wants to keep your photos when he treated you like trash. Hmmm, I hope everything gets better for you and you get a way better guy than this ****-head.
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Original post by Anonymous
My boyfriend of 2 years cheated on me 10 times in the past week..yesterday he also decided to tell me he had someone else all along.. "sorry but get over it".

I have no clue what to do. He's been sleeping with me, being all sweet, then going and doing the same with other girls. And he had another girlfriend for a while!!!! How?! I feel sick I was texting him saying I loved him so much while he was getting with someone. Now he's blocked me everywhere and I can't even get an explanation. He's absolutely used me and laughed about it in my face..

how can you be okay with doing that and not even caring enough to explain it. He's got my things and he has endless naked photos and I want my stuff back and those photos to be deleted but he's refused both :frown:


Damn, he's worse than me. My partner is a very forgiving person but would never forgive something like this. Your boyfriend might a sociopath, or he simply never loved you.
Original post by Anonymous
My boyfriend of 2 years cheated on me 10 times in the past week..yesterday he also decided to tell me he had someone else all along.. "sorry but get over it".

I have no clue what to do. He's been sleeping with me, being all sweet, then going and doing the same with other girls. And he had another girlfriend for a while!!!! How?! I feel sick I was texting him saying I loved him so much while he was getting with someone. Now he's blocked me everywhere and I can't even get an explanation. He's absolutely used me and laughed about it in my face..

how can you be okay with doing that and not even caring enough to explain it. He's got my things and he has endless naked photos and I want my stuff back and those photos to be deleted but he's refused both :frown:


He's a nasty, selfish and pathetic piece of *******

You're better of without him and don't bother wasting another second on such an idiot.

Contact the police if he's not returning your things and if he won't delete them photos.

Take Care.
Reply 10
Original post by GradeA*UnderA
He has a legal obligation to delete those naked photos. Report him to the police and also, if you do, tell them he's also in possession of some of your items too.




since when did it become illegal to have naked pictures of an ex

Link?
Original post by Defraction
He's a dick and doesn't care that's why he didn't explain anything. Report him to the police becuase he has no legal right to keep your pictures if you are not together. The police have the legal obligation to arrest him if you refuses to give your stuff back and he doesn't delete your photos. It doesn't make sense that he wants to keep your photos when he treated you like trash. Hmmm, I hope everything gets better for you and you get a way better guy than this ****-head.

Original post by NafNaf39
He's a nasty, selfish and pathetic piece of *******

You're better of without him and don't bother wasting another second on such an idiot.

Contact the police if he's not returning your things and if he won't delete them photos.

Take Care.


Sorry, while the guy is a dick, the photo thing is just plain untrue.

There is no legal obligation for him to delete the photo's. However it is illegal for him to spread the photos with malicious intention or without the OP's permission.

Hell I'd even go as far to say there's never even be a test case in regards to where the defendants lawyers have even tried copyright laws or ownership laws to refute conflicting legislation. I know new legislation made it illegal to share such images in the manner suggested above, however they are in direct contradiction of copyright or ownership laws.
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Baby I don't know why ya treat me so bad
You said you loved me, no one above me
And I was all you had
And though my heart is beating for ya
I can't stop crying
I don't know how
I allow you to treat me this way and still I stay
Tell him to f*** off.

He doesn't deserve anyone. Silly f***boi'.
Original post by Anonymous
My boyfriend of 2 years cheated on me 10 times in the past week..yesterday he also decided to tell me he had someone else all along.. "sorry but get over it".

I have no clue what to do. He's been sleeping with me, being all sweet, then going and doing the same with other girls. And he had another girlfriend for a while!!!! How?! I feel sick I was texting him saying I loved him so much while he was getting with someone. Now he's blocked me everywhere and I can't even get an explanation. He's absolutely used me and laughed about it in my face..

how can you be okay with doing that and not even caring enough to explain it. He's got my things and he has endless naked photos and I want my stuff back and those photos to be deleted but he's refused both :frown:


OK
1 you need to realise you must never have anything to do with him again after you have sorted out the following.

2. Get yourself tested.

3. Contact the victim support about revenge porn.
https://www.victimsupport.org.uk/crime-info/types-crime/cyber-crime/revenge-porn

4. Consider contacting the police- you need evidence of his refusal to hand back the phtotos and your property. It helps if he has threatened to use or share those photos. He may be guilty and definitely at risk of a large number of criminal offences to do with revenge porn and harassment.

If he knows you mean business, then he is more likely to comply.

5. When you have your stuff back then cut all contact and never talk to him again. You love the person who you thought he was , when in fact he was always a liar and cheater. Dont pretend otherwise.
I'm so sorry you've gone through this. It's imperative you get your belongings back and the photos are deleted. Then please, don't have anything more to do with him. I know you love him, but the man you thought you were in love with isn't real. The real him is someone very nasty indeed. Just remember that. He deceived you in more ways than one.
Original post by ANM775
since when did it become illegal to have naked pictures of an ex

Link?


when "revenge porn" laws came into place.
Original post by GradeA*UnderA
when "revenge porn" laws came into place.


thats only when op boyfriend spreads them about. as of yet he hasnt so he cant be charged for anything.
10 times in one week? Daaaaaym
Original post by GradeA*UnderA
when "revenge porn" laws came into place.


That's only when they're spread. The revenge porn laws don't refuse ownership in general of such images or videos. Also the law states clearly the sharing of such images must be done with the perpetrator intending to cause distress to the specific victim.

Simply sharing such images because you like porn and "want to give something back" for lack of a better way of explaining it... or just for kicks, would mean the individual does not fall foul of the anti-revenge porn laws.

There's a reason to this day most 'revenge porn' is still removed via copyright issues rather than that specific piece of legislation. It's a pain in the ass to prove.
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