Strange scenario

There is this girl that was special to me since I was 10 but I never had the courage to talk to her. We were in the same year level in Primary school but went to different high schools. I did not see her until first year uni which again I did not have the courage to talk to her because of shyness. Now in 4th year uni I am feeling a bit lonely and decided to give her an email which was a big step for me given I had never ever talked to her before. She responded to my first email on the day I sent it to her asking me what I was up to (indicating that she remembers who I am and knew that I was in the same uni as her, we were on the same bus a few times). Then I sent her another one telling her about what I was doing in uni and asked her how she was and what course she was doing. But she hasn't responded in 2-3months to my second email. What does that mean? Should I send her another one or should I give up? I may never see her again on campus or elsewhere. I've seen her only once this year.

Any guesses to why she hasn't responded? I wrote in my second email that 'I've known you for 11 years'. Could that have freaked her out?

Reply 1

2026

I'd e-mail her again. You've really got nothing to lose anyway.

She may not have replied for a number of reasons, so I wouldn't be too worried.

E-mail her again, and ask her out for a drink. As for the shyness, I'm also quite a shy individual, but try to get out of your shell now and again. You'll be fine.

Reply 2

Germi

-1984-

I'd rule out that she hasn't checked her email yet as it was her uni email.

I've never gone out for a drink with anyone (excluding my parents) in my life. So it would seem impossibly difficult to do such a thing.

Reply 3

unknownFluency

You dont seem like the social type :/, what you studying?

Reply 4

Germi

unknownFluency

You dont seem like the social type :/, what you studying?

Definitely not. Infact socialising is one of my biggest fears, if not the biggest.

I'm doing BSc majoring in maths.

Reply 5

khil

Don't worry about the email. I sometimes forget to reply, or other times I'm just too busy and never got round to it. Doesn't mean a thing really.

Well done for finally contacting the girl btw :smile:

Just email her again with a casual message and maybe drop in a line saying "If you're free some time we should meet up" :smile:

Cus that doesn't imply anything scary and it's friendly. Sooner or later you've got to learn to socialise, or you'll feel pretty lonely all your life. Maybe get your parents to help you and maybe even talk to a counsellor? Cus it sounds like this socialising thing is a pretty big problem for you.

Reply 6

Germi

irisng

Just email her again with a casual message and maybe drop in a line saying "If you're free some time we should meet up" :smile:

Does not replying imply she dosen't want to associate with me. There are some differences between us. She is anglo-saxon. I am Chinese. She is 5'11-6'0. I am 5'10. She is studying a BEd(Primary) degree. I am thinking of doing a Phd in maths.

Should I just forget it? She might already have a boyfriend.

Reply 7

pinkchampers

TBH, she probably sent the first email, cos she was curious, what i find strange is that she did not remember you from primary school.

let it go, she has not interest in you and you dont even know her, you need to move on.

Reply 8

Germi

pinkchampers

How do you know she did not remember me from primary school? I get the impression from the way she responded to the first email that she did remember me.

Reply 9

pinkchampers

ILEW

How do you know she did not remember me from primary school? I get the impression from the way she responded to the first email that she did remember me.

must have read your post wrong then. In any case move on she has no interest and your hope will further torment you. you dont know her, she may feel flattered etc, but if she was interested she would have responded.

if it outs your mind at ease, then try emailing her again, she could either igmore it, and it which case you will be sit there wondering if she has changed email addy or that your mail got lost etc.

or she could email back, because she feel like she has to or that it is polite, and then you will be sat there wondering if she likes you and if you stand a chance.

I just think that your infatuation will only cause you stress and dissapointment in the end, and i to be real i dont think she is interested and no amount of hoping or emailing will change that.

Reply 10

Germi

pinkchampers

Sounds like you know your stuff. :redface:

How old are you? I can actually relate to the matter as well. There have been cases where I haven't responded to other people's emails and in all those cases it is because I didn't want to associate with them but didn't want to tell them that explicitly.