DO women expect to be chatted up in public places

i do think i should apologize here actually, females of the not so distant past have tried chatting me up, but they've been stone-walled.
once, out in town a girl that was trying to be friendly decided to kiss me, i remember turning around to look at her and then just walking away. wow i can play hard to get.


yeah, sorry women.

Yes, but the girls have to pay an extra 15 pounds an hour for the priviledge.

And in my gym some guys have become experts of chatting up gym women, im sure some of these muscle bound donkeys join the zumba classes for one thing.

when did you finally come out?

Like Gyms, supermarkets, train stations etc or do they think it is creepy and/or innappropiate.

I often see it in my gym where some guys seem to turn up jsut to chat up women on the treadmills. It has happened to me also that a girl has come over and stood next to me and started curling weights and then asked me if she was doing it right, i just shrugged my shoulders- tbh I didnt know if she was being flirty and expected some slick repartee' back from me or genuinely didnt know what to do but i was in the middle of a heavy set and couldnt really help her.


Does anyone feel this level of flirty dialogue is unnecessarry in places like the above and there is a time and place for it (ie in a bar, club, students union etc) or are happy to flirt with members of the opposite sex wherever they see them?

Obviously this is a bit shallow, but chatting someone up on sight alone is also a bit shallow,

I reckon most women's responses would be:

Hot guy -> delighted
Average guy -> flattered
Unattractive guy -> creeped out.

I reckon most women's responses would be:

Hot guy -> delighted
Average guy -> flattered
Unattractive guy -> creeped out.

No. At least not me anyway. It is totally unnecessary and would quite simply make me feel very uncomfortable and maybe even offended (but that's just the slight feminist within me ).

No. At least not me anyway. It is totally unnecessary and would quite simply make me feel very uncomfortable and maybe even offended (but that's just the slight feminist within me ).

No, its irritating.

This is what I always thought. People are always saying "go out there and chat to girls in public" but I think to myself that even I as a guy if I was busy going about my business and some girl that I don't find particularly attractive starts talking to me I would probably rather it didn't happen And if I was pestered by girls all the time it would become annoying regardless of the popular male fantasy. I assume this is the same for girls.

Like Gyms, supermarkets, train stations etc or do they think it is creepy and/or innappropiate.

I often see it in my gym where some guys seem to turn up jsut to chat up women on the treadmills. It has happened to me also that a girl has come over and stood next to me and started curling weights and then asked me if she was doing it right, i just shrugged my shoulders- tbh I didnt know if she was being flirty and expected some slick repartee' back from me or genuinely didnt know what to do but i was in the middle of a heavy set and couldnt really help her.


Does anyone feel this level of flirty dialogue is unnecessarry in places like the above and there is a time and place for it (ie in a bar, club, students union etc) or are happy to flirt with members of the opposite sex wherever they see them?

You are correct, its also a myth men want to have sex with all and every girl.

This is what I always thought. People are always saying "go out there and chat to girls in public" but I think to myself that even I as a guy if I was busy going about my business and some girl that I don't find particularly attractive starts talking to me I would probably rather it didn't happen And if I was pestered by girls all the time it would become annoying regardless of the popular male fantasy. I assume this is the same for girls.

I reckon most women's responses would be:

Hot guy -> delighted
Average guy -> flattered
Unattractive guy -> creeped out.

Obviously this is a bit shallow, but chatting someone up on sight alone is also a bit shallow, and besides, I'm pretty sure it would be the same sort of scenario if the genders were reversed.

EDIT: Of course it should be noted that different women will have different ideas of what "hot", "average" and "unattractive" mean.

In terms of whether they expect to be chatted up, I think generally the answer is no. Especially in the gym. My initial thought was horror at the idea of someone talking to me when I'm all red and sweaty, but then I really thought about it, and I still think my first analysis was correct. Although a woman who is feeling unattractive is probably less likely to realise she's being chatted up.

Don't think any guy would be creeped out just because a girl's unattractive. Men are very different to women when it comes to things like this.