Indeedie
Because they've been socially conditioned to expect 'stable', monogomous relations since we moved from the band arrangement to mass civilisational structures, and because lust (the will to mate) has become mixed up with modern conceptions of largely artificial constructs such as egalitarianism (1 for 1), honour, love etc
But does the manner in which we have become accustomed to something negate it? Whether caused by social conditioning or the product of evolution, the fact is that many women do hope for a stable, monogamous relationship. Does it matter why? I wouldn't at all say that honour and love are artificial constructs. They haven't been invented and taught to people - they're embedded within [most of] us, like a moral compass and our scope of emotions, or are those artificial constructs too?Not so if you look at most social groupings still exhibiting more 'natural' band-like structures, more often than not childrearing/childcare are shared social responsibilities and (dominant) males mate widely within the group. Women are wired to attract a dominant mate time and again but this may not necessarily be the same one, indeed there's some evidence to suggest that they prefer to have more than one male inseminate them so that genetic variation and the best prospects relating to survivability of offspring under differing environmental conditions is achieved
I'ma read up on the above and get back to you, but would like to ask what you mean when you say that "childrearing/childcare" are shared social responsibilities. Do you mean among the group as a whole (or perhaps just the women), or between the parents? If the latter, wouldn't have thought dominant daddy's doing much rearing if he's busy "mating widely."That's my take on it too, and not only wanting them
that way, only wanting them any way with the slightest romantic undertone (from a kiss through to full blown shenanigans..)
Agreed. Dump in both scenarios or..?
In B I'd discuss it with the guy after expressing my displeasure at having been misled, but in C I would feel a deficiency in the relationship (and in me) had been implied, so would be more likely to leave, yes.
Spartan men got a rough deal
Ha. Aye, but surely that is accelerating the rate of promiscuity and the decline of the institution of marriage etc?
No, I don't think so. It doesn't mean it's happening any more frequently, or encouraging others to "get involved." Just that it's more well-known.Dread to think what getting married under those conditions must be like
Aye...Sure there are, but take student-age people for example - the supposition is that (attractive, outgoing, red blooded) males who girls may have their eye on are well catered for by girls who are 'down for whatever', this creates
will he/won't he, should I/shouldn't I anxiety in the way I've described (re: pushing the envelope where 'going out'/'going steady' is concerned)
I think an attractive, outgoing, red-blooded male may be better catered for by girls who think they will, at some point, snare him. I'd imagine that if girls were told before anything had happened that he would never be theirs they wouldn't be up for very much after all. Unless they're the slaggy ones. Who maybe aren't the type a guy would want to be snared by anyway...Oh yes you will young lady!
Nope. :P They're not terribly relevant.