[spoonofdeath]

... He's never going to truely forgive you. You just probably completely ruined that relationship, it's not nice but I think it's true.

[silence]

maybe i'm being a perv, but is this mate male or female?

[Lucas]

drunkeness isn't an excuse i don't think.

you obviously don't care about your boyfriend much.

[djk_99]

If you have doubts, and you have to ask, then yes it is cheating!! Put yourself in his shoes...

[RichardAnderson]

dang if i was your bf i would have beat the **** out of the guy and dumped you!

[Jenn260986]

It was a girl I kissed not a boy. Being drunk you can't help your actions and if he didn't like it all he had to do was say "sorry but I find this as kinda cheating so could you please stop and come to bed with me as your very drunk". I love my boyfriend very much, I do more for him than he does for me but I still love him.

[erk]

if you question it it's cheating.

but you should've woke him up first and let him join in.

[twiga]

Yes, definately.

[Trigger]

(Original post by Jenn260986)
It was a girl I kissed not a boy. Being drunk you can't help your actions and if he didn't like it all he had to do was say "sorry but I find this as kinda cheating so could you please stop and come to bed with me as your very drunk". I love my boyfriend very much, I do more for him than he does for me but I still love him.

your really justifying ot by saying its HIS fault you really are a grade A bitch

[RichardAnderson]

ohhh a girl that changes everything nar that ain't cheating he properly didn't come down the stairs to stop ya as he was "shaking hands with the president" over u 2

[john !!]

I wouldn't count it as cheating if a gf kissed another girl

[silence]

ok, it was a girl. and you were being a drunk ******. he probably said nothing because he thought it was such a sad way to behave and had no idea how to express his sheer dismay.

[Trigger]

my god yuor all pathetic it doesnt matter if it wws a girl boy or the family pet its cheating

[spoonofdeath]

... hmm, if it's a girl, then just invite him down / ask him and he probably wouldn't have minded. Though if you dont' do either of them it's still cheating.

[Spenceman_]

Cheating. It didn't have to be, as spoonofdeath explains, but unfortunately I'd have to say it was.

[Jamie]

(Original post by Jenn260986)
A couple of weeks ago my boyfriend slept for 2 weeks at my house while my parents were away and on the last day of him sleeping I got drunk with a mate while he was in bed. When we were downstairs the two of us got carried away being so drunk and we kissed alot. Would you count this as cheating? (My boyfriend heard everything that went on as he couldnt sleep)

Yes, and you know it.

90%+ of the times people ask this question they already know its cheating

[jbcubed3]

Owch.

At least he seems fairly calm and forgiving. Perhaps it's not cheating as such, but definitely a very silly thing to have done, and definitely something that'll weaken his trust in you for a while. Those who said he was a "bad boyfriend", I disagree. If in his shoes I too would have been a bit shaken, and definitely upset. Gender doesn't matter.

If the friend you jumped all over was a man, it'll still be the same.

But what's done is done, learn from it and hopefully your boyfriend will hang on. You seem like a nice person because you had the heart to consider his feelings and the courage to come on here and discuss it - kudos to you on that respect.

Anyhoo, sit down and talk things through if you haven't, and work your way to build his trust back up again.

All the best,
~ j

[lost_puppy]

Judging from your other thread, when he meant change the routine, he probably never expected that one!

You know it's cheating, otherwise you wouldn't question it and then try to justify it frantically when people agree. However, cheating can be a subjective thing, especially when no sex occured, he might take things a little differently. The key is to talk to him about it, however embarrasing or painful it might seem.

As other people have said, (or not, who probably have subscriptions to television X and watch little else, j/k:P), gender is not important in this case. Unless you like that kind of thing, I would expect you wouldn't be rejoicing in the fact that your boyfriend was snogging another male. He might even take it as an insult, that he may have turned you that way, but as it was drunk, seems a little off.

Judging from what I've read about your relationship, you need urgently to talk things through. Good luck

[RichardAnderson]

weaken the trust like i know i hope she doesn't go out with the girls and ends up going back to there place? it would so suck having a bi girlfriend

[Ghost]

Of course it is cheating. Hats off to him for being so nice about it, I've been my gf cheating on me, and it is one of the worst things that could have possibly happened to me.
The guy really does deserve better than you. I find it astonishing that you said " I do more for him than he does for me but I still love him." By cheating on him, you will forever owe him so much. You dont even seem remotely upset or ashamed of what happened. I hope your bf sees sense soon.