[Kelli-Marie x]

i wanna go to uni after college but my boyfriend thinks that if i go, he will never see me. he also thinks i will forget about him.!

i'm not sure if i wanna go to uni and lose him. or don't and not get where i want to in life.

i love him, but also my future and my career mean something to me

what would u do..?

help me please x

thanks

x kelli-marie x

[llama-beans]

(Original post by Kelli-Marie x)
i wanna go to uni after college but my boyfriend thinks that if i go, he will never see me. he also thinks i will forget about him.!

i'm not sure if i wanna go to uni and lose him. or don't and not get where i want to in life.

i love him, but also my future and my career mean something to me

what would u do..?

help me please x

thanks

x kelli-marie x

Go to university. If you want to see each other, you will.
If he loves you, he'll understand that going is important to you, and will support you whatever.
And anyways, you shouldn't base a huge decision like this on what anyone else thinks. It's your decision and you can't risk your future for something that might not last anyway.

[missimpossible]

This is TSR, so the majority are going to say this, but really, GO TO UNIVERSITY. It is so, so worth it. I can't even begin to explain. No relationship is worth jeopardising this opportunity for. If you really love each other and want to see each other, you will. If you don't see each other, then that's just life, you'll both move on, eventually.

Seriously. You'll only end up resenting him if you give this chance up.

[ezi-ray]

Are u serious?? why is this even a real question? i truly do not get it...like this is your future...YOURS...and if [God forbid] you didnt go to uni and then you guys broke up...you would just break off your leg and slap yourself with it!!!

Its cute that he wants to be near you but really not so cute that he wants to jeopardise your career to obtain nearness...???

Besides if this is that wonderful all consuming love I hear about....it should really be able to withstand a teeny bit of distance...

p.s. what is he doing with his life??

[x-Disenchanted-x]

If he's that great a boyfriend, he should want you to go and do well for yourself.
Holding down a relationship and going to Uni isn't impossible if the trust and is there and you're both willing to put in the effort

[Kelli-Marie x]

Thank you so much..
you have all helped me, i spoke to freddie bout it and he understnds.
i just need to find one, that is quite near that does something with child care thnk you so much x

[Kelli-Marie x]

(Original post by llama-beans)
Go to university. If you want to see each other, you will.
If he loves you, he'll understand that going is important to you, and will support you whatever.
And anyways, you shouldn't base a huge decision like this on what anyone else thinks. It's your decision and you can't risk your future for something that might not last anyway.

i know that we will last and so does he. trusst me, i know you dont know me or him, but what we have been through lately, we have been together nearly 5 months and the amount that we have been through i know we will last 4eva, or he wuld have left me by now. but thank you so much. ur comments are really helpfull. (: x

[EmiiCYBER]

(Original post by Kelli-Marie x)
i wanna go to uni after college but my boyfriend thinks that if i go, he will never see me. he also thinks i will forget about him.!

i'm not sure if i wanna go to uni and lose him. or don't and not get where i want to in life.

i love him, but also my future and my career mean something to me

what would u do..?

help me please x

thanks

x kelli-marie x

I think you answered your own question.

You can't hold yourself back because of a boyfriend, friend or family member as far as I'm concerned. If the relationship is meant to be, then you'll still see one another! Regardless of the distance between you.

I think all you can do is sit down with him, have an open discussion about it and answer questions either you or he has regarding the whole situation.

[Kelli-Marie x]

(Original post by ezi-ray)
Are u serious?? why is this even a real question? i truly do not get it...like this is your future...YOURS...and if [God forbid] you didnt go to uni and then you guys broke up...you would just break off your leg and slap yourself with it!!!

Its cute that he wants to be near you but really not so cute that he wants to jeopardise your career to obtain nearness...???

Besides if this is that wonderful all consuming love I hear about....it should really be able to withstand a teeny bit of distance...

p.s. what is he doing with his life??

Thanks for ur comments. nd he is 19, he went to college and did a plumbing course but he hated it. and then he got a job in a old people's home and now he is working in tesco's cafe, and now he hates that and wants to leave to do summit like with cars, he is obsessed with vw's like madly obsessed. everytime he see's one that is fairly nice, it's like he has an orgasm over it. he does over re-act at cars like well bad. but he is very caring but over-protective.he wants me to do well in my life becoz he culdnt make his life what he wanted to do in the first place when he left school.
x how come u wanted to know.? x

[Kelli-Marie x]

(Original post by EmiiCYBER)
I think you answered your own question.

You can't hold yourself back because of a boyfriend, friend or family member as far as I'm concerned. If the relationship is meant to be, then you'll still see one another! Regardless of the distance between you.

I think all you can do is sit down with him, have an open discussion about it and answer questions either you or he has regarding the whole situation.

Thank you.
i don't really know how to tell him, he doesn't like to be wrong. x

[EmiiCYBER]

(Original post by Kelli-Marie x)
Thank you.
i don't really know how to tell him, he doesn't like to be wrong. x

Telling him shouldn't have to put him in a compromising position. If he can't accept your choices, I don't believe he deserves you. So, do what you want to do / go where you want to go and good luck!

[MR.PINK]

how come you thinking of that when u are just 15??

[alix.alicis]

(Original post by llama-beans)
Go to university. If you want to see each other, you will.
If he loves you, he'll understand that going is important to you, and will support you whatever.
And anyways, you shouldn't base a huge decision like this on what anyone else thinks. It's your decision and you can't risk your future for something that might not last anyway.

this

[Kelli-Marie x]

(Original post by EmiiCYBER)
Telling him shouldn't have to put him in a compromising position. If he can't accept your choices, I don't believe he deserves you. So, do what you want to do / go where you want to go and good luck!

i would like to do something with children. i would like to go to college. have sent an application off to great yarmouth college. there is a guy at my skool he says that i would be a great assest to go to uni x sum day i wuld like to own my own nursrey x

[EmiiCYBER]

(Original post by Kelli-Marie x)
i would like to do something with children. i would like to go to college. have sent an application off to great yarmouth college. there is a guy at my skool he says that i would be a great assest to go to uni x sum day i wuld like to own my own nursrey x

Good for you, go and live the dream!

It is a great thing to further your education and to build on the foundations you've already put down. So, if that's what you want to do, hopefully he'll be proud of you for it.

[Respect4Acting]

SO your boyfriend is more important than your life time goals?

[Kelli-Marie x]

i dont think freddie would go to uni. he aint that sort of person. and i dont think that he got the right grades to get in any how. also he can never make his mind up about what he wants to do, he says one thing and does another.. :|) x

[Kelli-Marie x]

(Original post by Respect4Acting)
SO your boyfriend is more important than your life time goals?

tbh i dont really know. he aint the brightest spark around and he aint no hard hit man, heis very attached to me allready adn yh thats good but i think im too nice for my own good and wuld never say no to anybody. but i do want to get some where in life. and yh i know i need to focus on my future but i want it with him. but some how he dont trust me he thinks i will meet new ppl and go off with some else. x

[Kelli-Marie x]

(Original post by EmiiCYBER)
Good for you, go and live the dream!

It is a great thing to further your education and to build on the foundations you've already put down. So, if that's what you want to do, hopefully he'll be proud of you for it.

yeah. i do wanna live the dream! yes thank you. i can't talk to him tonight coz he has gone home now. it's a little late to ring him. i will speak to him when he finshes work.

do u think he will be ok, with my decision

x

[Respect4Acting]

(Original post by Kelli-Marie x)
tbh i dont really know. he aint the brightest spark around and he aint no hard hit man, heis very attached to me allready adn yh thats good but i think im too nice for my own good and wuld never say no to anybody. but i do want to get some where in life. and yh i know i need to focus on my future but i want it with him. but some how he dont trust me he thinks i will meet new ppl and go off with some else. x

Your boyfriend doesn't trust you, so... sooner or later you're relationship is going to suffer if you go to university, let's not ********, a lot of relationships end when people go to university, but strong one's survive for those 3 years.