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Tried to post this earlier, but for some reason it didn't show up in the forum. Please keep anon as my bf uses this forum.
Right, so I'm not a particularly jealous or clingy type of girlfriend, but this is sort of eating at me. The other day, my bf and I were going through some pictures of him and his friend on facebook. We came across one with my bf with his arms around some girl. My bf quickly clicked onto the next one. I casually asked, 'Oh when was that taken?' and he said, 'Oh a while ago'. It said sometime in October, but I didn't see the exact date.
Anyway, so I left it. Then today I was looking through his photos again (I normally don't as I've always hated the fact that FB affects people's relationships and vowed it never would affect mine, which is why I hardly look on his page) because I wondered why he was so hasty to move away from the picture.
However, he's de-tagged himself and the other photos with his friends from that album (so I can't click on the album name to see all the pictures in it). We've been together throughout October, which makes me wonder if he's hiding something. Also, why would he not just de-tag himself in that one picture, rather than all the pictures so I can't see them or the album?
I went onto his friend's profile, and can only see his profile picture as I don't have him as a friend. But his profile picture is one of the ones from the album my bf was showing me, suggesting that the picture was taken recently, or at least in the same month.
All this just makes me wonder if my bf is hiding something. Should I ask him about it, and if so, how? I wouldn't be confrontational-I just don't know how to bring it up. Or should I just leave it?
Is it possible that the entire album's private, so only people who are friends with the owner of the photos can see them? That might be why it appears he's detagged himself in all of them and not just that one.
facebook can be a pain in the backside for your relationship - im with you in that I dont particularly look at my bfs facebook often, because when I do I find something I dont like but at thend end of the day its just an internet page.
my bf gets comments off his ex still quite often and it annoys me but means nothing im sure - maybe this is the same with your bf, the picture didnt mean anything it was probably just friendly but he didnt want you to be hurt/upset over it?
Find out your boyfriends password. Not secretly, just ask him for it and say you'll give him yours in return or something, but don't make it obvious that it's because you want to look at the photos. Me and my boyfriend asked for each others passwords the first week we were going out with each other haha, I forgot how we came across the subject of asking for each others password as it was 2 years ago now but yeah just ask for it and then you can look at the photos. I'd be a bit worried too if it was my boyfriend who tried to get away from the photo quickly... but don't get too worked up over it until you've actually properly seen the photo! Maybe your boyfriend has known that girl for a long time, so they're just quite close or something. But as I said don't worry about anything till you've actually seen the photo because you could just be getting worked up over nothing! I hate going on Facebook now because my boyfriend started uni in September and I can see all the photos of him and other girls, there's nothing wrong with them, I just get a bit jealous because they get to be near him and I don't :P
It is true that Facebook causes more harm than good for relationships
If it really is causing you to get quite worried and you don't want to ask for his password then just confront him calmly when you're sat down together watching tv or eating dinner... Say something like '(Enter name of boyfriend), you know the photo of you and that girl who you had your arm around ... who is she?'
and just let him tell you... if he seems to not want to talk about her or seems a bit suspicious then maybe you should become confrontational?
Argh. My boyfriend is always snapped with his arms around the same girl. She's a horrible slapper and a complete and utter HORRIBLE piece of work to me on the internet, but he insists on being friends with her. Does my head in. I just take loads of romantic pictures with my boyfriend and put them on my facebook, lol. He's probably just thinking "she's going to get the wrong idea about that picture and start asking me about it, so better detag".
Oh and I don't recommend you check your boyfriend's facebook using his password. BIG mistake for me doing that, he went absolutely and utterly mental when he found out and he's changed it now.
TRUST him!!
just add the bf fren or just straight out ask him cos it probably aint a big deal but you keeping it to yourself allowing it to eat you out will make it a bigger deal than it is or needs to be. Just be cool and honestly let it go...if it meant anything he wouldnt still be your bf the fact he is and still acting normal to you means your hold on him is as good as ever so dnt worry about
Oh for the love of God. I wish girls would stop hissyfitting over bleeding Facebook. If you're that bothered: ask him, not us. We don't know what happened and what he's been doing.
What you dont know doesnt hurt you.. works for me, unless m mind gets the better of me, an i hack into his account, end up bitching with the slag who was with him on the photo..
Ask him. You could add his mate as a friend, but if you do that, look at the photos and THEN ask it will make you look possessive and controlling. It's fair enough to wonder about it after the weird way he's behaved ...
Find out your boyfriends password. Not secretly, just ask him for it and say you'll give him yours in return or something, but don't make it obvious that it's because you want to look at the photos. Me and my boyfriend asked for each others passwords the first week we were going out with each other haha, I forgot how we came across the subject of asking for each others password as it was 2 years ago now but yeah just ask for it and then you can look at the photos. I'd be a bit worried too if it was my boyfriend who tried to get away from the photo quickly... but don't get too worked up over it until you've actually properly seen the photo! Maybe your boyfriend has known that girl for a long time, so they're just quite close or something. But as I said don't worry about anything till you've actually seen the photo because you could just be getting worked up over nothing! I hate going on Facebook now because my boyfriend started uni in September and I can see all the photos of him and other girls, there's nothing wrong with them, I just get a bit jealous because they get to be near him and I don't :P
It is true that Facebook causes more harm than good for relationships
If it really is causing you to get quite worried and you don't want to ask for his password then just confront him calmly when you're sat down together watching tv or eating dinner... Say something like '(Enter name of boyfriend), you know the photo of you and that girl who you had your arm around ... who is she?'
and just let him tell you... if he seems to not want to talk about her or seems a bit suspicious then maybe you should become confrontational?
I would never give out my Facebook password to anyone, to me it's a very private thing and any girlfriends should be able to trust me without snooping through my inbox etc. If they don't trust me, I'm not interested in them to be honest.
Oh for the love of God. I wish girls would stop hissyfitting over bleeding Facebook. If you're that bothered: ask him, not us. We don't know what happened and what he's been doing.
Insane jealousy is not attractive at all.
Agree with this post. (And love your avatar! Katie is amazing, 'in my world everyone's a pony, and they all eat rainbows and poop butterflies!' funniest thing ever!)
Oh for the love of God. I wish girls would stop hissyfitting over bleeding Facebook. If you're that bothered: ask him, not us. We don't know what happened and what he's been doing.
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