[SmartFool]

Hi
I recently started at my local college expecting to have made new friends and basically be having a great social life, but this has not happened at all, my friends from high school don't even talk to me anymore, recently on facebook i saw pictures from them clubbing etc... and my so called best friend didn't even bother to invite me, to any of these events in the half term, in college i have to constantly follow round this 1 friend i have from high school because i have no one else, the college is really cliquey and groups that cam from high school have hardly changed, i really hate my social life at the moment because i have NO ONE to do anything with and it's really getting to me, i know ive only started but im already looking to the future, college life wont improve so will university be any better, will i make some real good friends that i will be able to socialise with and that i actually LIKE!?? and has any1 else experienced this before!? . Do any of you that go to university still speak to high school/college friends?
any advice or just reassurance would be truely appreciated!!!

[adamrules247]

You're on the verge of a break down because you didn't get invited to the disco??

[LRainbow~]

Awwwh I have a friend who's gone to college and feels the exact same! Why don't you arrange something every now and then and invite all you're all old high school friends so that way you'll be staying in touch? Also if college is that bad why not go back to your sixth form next year so you can get back involved with your high school friends?

Also you could tell these friends how you feel and how you don't want to lose them as mates. They'll probably appreciate you telling them that and include you a lot more in future.

[Sickojones]

I think university will be a lot different because for 1, theirs a lot more people their so their is more of a chance to find people with similiar interests..not to mention union groups and stuff.

plus when going to college, people usually go to somewhere nearby where they live, so that people they've been to school with previously also go their so they've already got friends. Whereas uni generally people go it alone without knowing anyone and are more open to making new friends

[SmartFool]

But, i feel so worthless as aperson i mean my best friend constantly had friends she could text and call etc... whereas i just had her to properly talk to, no one else coulnt care less about me, they saw me as her "shadow", i just hope to make really good friends with someone somewhere!

[SmartFool]

I've felt so lonely for sooo long, its really affecting me!

[paella]

Make new friends, just be personable, do ECs, chat to everyone, and you'll find a new group pretty quick. Like first day of college, I sat down on the train on the way back with some people I ran for the train with, and just took it from there. Surely there's some sort of college/freshers disco/discos ongoing throughout the year - go on that and meet people there.

I don't know how big your college is so I can't really comment, but I deliberately went to the biggest one in my area (3000+ students overall) so I could meet a mix of people. Just get into a clique - like one girl on her first day of college wore in some goth band bold attire - within the day she had a friendship group, cause all the people who liked the band, saw the tee came over and said hi, and realised they liked her stuck around. Are you pretty? - pulling the hot guy will normally get you positive attention from someone - certainly people will ask you what's going- on.