Offended? Amused? Not sure what my reaction is to this!
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Offended? Amused? Not sure what my reaction is to this!
I'm not wanting to sound up myself here, but I am a good looking person. I honestly have quite low self esteem when it comes to my looks, but I have been described as smoking hot (lol) so I must be ok.
So I come out of a final exam, and start chatting with the guy who always sat next to me in tuts. We'd talk every time and it was always 'pleasant'. He's weedy, short, asian and shy and very very much not my type. (Don't read too much into the asian comment, I'm not being racist just stating a fact).
Noticebly shaking he asked me if I was still seeing my boyfriend and If we might go out for coffee sometime. So it was very obvious he was asking me out on a date, and it was embarrasing/sweet/out of the blue so we swopped numbers. I said 'we could maybe meet up sometime.'
I'm not sure how I feel offended that he thought he had a chance with someone alot better looking? flattered?
Re: Offended? Amused? Not sure what my reaction is to this!
He fancies you and he asked you out. It happens virtually every single female at some point in their life. If I were you, I'd cancel it so he doesn't get his hopes up and start nagging you all the time thinking he's in with a chance. Say you don't feel comfortable with a one on one meeting with anyone now and he'll leave you alone. He didn't do anything wrong so I don't see the problem. Oh and you mean Oriental Asian right?
Re: Offended? Amused? Not sure what my reaction is to this!
Originally Posted by Kiwi88
I'm not wanting to sound up myself here, but I am a good looking person. I honestly have quite low self esteem when it comes to my looks, but I have been described as smoking hot (lol) so I must be ok.
So I come out of a final exam, and start chatting with the guy who always sat next to me in tuts. We'd talk every time and it was always 'pleasant'. He's weedy, short, asian and shy and very very much not my type. (Don't read too much into the asian comment, I'm not being racist just stating a fact).
Noticebly shaking he asked me if I was still seeing my boyfriend and If we might go out for coffee sometime. So it was very obvious he was asking me out on a date, and it was embarrasing/sweet/out of the blue so we swopped numbers. I said 'we could maybe meet up sometime.'
I'm not sure how I feel offended that he thought he had a chance with someone alot better looking? flattered?
Re: Offended? Amused? Not sure what my reaction is to this!
just feel flattered- its not as if he dissed you. Just because he is less attractive than you doesnt mean you should feel offended, at least he showed interest in the first place. If you have no interest in him, then dont lead him on by going on a date coz he will get his hopes up. Stick to being friends.
Re: Offended? Amused? Not sure what my reaction is to this!
Originally Posted by Kiwi88
Idiot... KIWI88... I'm english but in NZ atm. Sucks to be you, summer here soon.
Don't you worry, your username and listed location was easily enough of a clue for me to catch on to where you live. And I'm all too aware of the resulting effect on the seasons from living in the southern hemisphere.
Now, I may apparently be the 'idiot' here, but attractiveness is relative. If you aren't trolling then ... well Jesus, you really need to take a look at your life. Laughing at someone for being attracted to you is the lowest and most shallow thing you could do. And also, I have always believed that you need to consider looks and personality to judge a person's attractiveness. So while you may (or may not) have the looks you still, unfortunately, completely fail on personality.
This guy who asked you out on the other hand may be ugly, but is probably a nicer person than you will ever be, so actually you may be well suited. I'd give that number a call if I were you, it's the best you're gonna get. I can see I have already wasted far more time in this thread than it actually deserves, so cheerios.
Re: Offended? Amused? Not sure what my reaction is to this!
I had a similar situation where a nice, but very awkward guy asked me out after hanging out with him a few times. I had to explain that I wasn't interested (we had nothing in common and he critisized my driving tho he didn't have his own licence -erg!). After that, he kept on trying to pursue a relationship which got annoying and slightly creepy. Don't be like me, and create an awkward situation where you might hurt his feelings and cause problems for yourself.
Re: Offended? Amused? Not sure what my reaction is to this!
Originally Posted by Kiwi88
I'm not sure how I feel offended that he thought he had a chance with someone alot better looking? flattered?
Ummmm ... there are stupid questions and then there is what you just said.
I can't even get my head round the idea that people should be graded according to looks and only those in the same grade can date each other. How is that possible? If we were to send your picture to everyone in the country I doubt even 10% would actually say you were "hot". Looks are subjective. For some reason Angelie Jolie ends up top in men's polls of attractive woman ... but I've yet to meet a single guy who thinks she is hot.
"Out of your league" does not refer to looks. Confidence, success, experience etc. put a girl out of someone's league. Being an attractive bitch doesn't.
Re: Offended? Amused? Not sure what my reaction is to this!
Originally Posted by Kiwi88
I'm not wanting to sound up myself here, but I am a good looking person. I honestly have quite low self esteem when it comes to my looks, but I have been described as smoking hot (lol) so I must be ok.
So I come out of a final exam, and start chatting with the guy who always sat next to me in tuts. We'd talk every time and it was always 'pleasant'. He's weedy, short, asian and shy and very very much not my type. (Don't read too much into the asian comment, I'm not being racist just stating a fact).
Noticebly shaking he asked me if I was still seeing my boyfriend and If we might go out for coffee sometime. So it was very obvious he was asking me out on a date, and it was embarrasing/sweet/out of the blue so we swopped numbers. I said 'we could maybe meet up sometime.'
I'm not sure how I feel offended that he thought he had a chance with someone alot better looking? flattered?
Has that ever happened to you??
Got to love a trier! You should have said no, I don't fancy you lol.
Re: Offended? Amused? Not sure what my reaction is to this!
Originally Posted by instaunt
Ummmm ... there are stupid questions and then there is what you just said.
I can't even get my head round the idea that people should be graded according to looks and only those in the same grade can date each other. How is that possible? If we were to send your picture to everyone in the country I doubt even 10% would actually say you were "hot". Looks are subjective. For some reason Angelie Jolie ends up top in men's polls of attractive woman ... but I've yet to meet a single guy who thinks she is hot.
"Out of your league" does not refer to looks. Confidence, success, experience etc. put a girl out of someone's league. Being an attractive bitch doesn't.
Angelina Jolie is less than average.
And yea, I pretty much agree with your whole post! Op needs to get over herself.
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Offended? Amused? Not sure what my reaction is to this!
he asked me if I was still seeing my boyfriend and If we might go out for coffee sometime. So it was very obvious he was asking me out on a date, and it was embarrasing/sweet/out of the blue so we swopped numbers. I said 'we could maybe meet up sometime.'
offended that he thought he had a chance with someone alot better looking? flattered? 
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