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My mum's ill. All her friends and family keep texting and ringing her, checking she's ok, asking to visit. She doesn't get test results back until two weeks time but she has a lump and it's hard not to think of the worse. Especially with everyone making a fuss, I just presume they all think the worst too which makes me worry even more.
I can't stop crying. My dad said we've just got to stay strong, and I know we do, but it's just awful. The more I say to myself "I hope she's ok", I think I'm just trying to convince myself it'll come true, and obviously I hope it does.
Urgh sorry if I'm not making sense. I just don't know what to do. I'm just sat here crying my eyes out. I'd do anything to make her better
Remember that even if it does turn out to be bad, there are many ways to get rid of it. My mum had breast cancer and I know a few other people who's mothers also had it and whilst it is an emotional and stressful process the chemotherapy and radiotherapy is getting very good these days and works often.
Sorry to hear this. It must be very frightening for you.. I really just wanted to say that you can always call the Samaritans if you need to talk to someone and are worried about talking to friends/family. They're there for people in distress.
I feel sick. I know it's the worse thing to do but I've been searching Google and it's not good at all if I go by what websites say. I don't want to live no more I just hate this so much.
im really sorry to hear this. just remember that even if the tests come back bad there is always cures that could work well. u just need to be strong for her as im sure she is struggling with this alot more than she says she is! hope everything goes well for you
You poor thing for all you know, you could be cyring over nothing as it isn't definitely bad news. Your mum needs you to stay positive and support her through this, she will be going through absolute torment until the results come back and she will be relying on you to be strong. Even though you feel really cut up about it, do it for her sake.
Don't think of the worst now. You should probably try and stay positive (although I'm by no means an expert) but as you are not 100% sure of what the results are then there are chances that your mum could be ok... All the best.
I have been through the same thing, except with my dad. He had cancer which he was treated for and yet it came back. But he is still here today after being treated again. It feels horrible waiting for results everytime he is tested. But remember, it is treatable and dont just always assume the worst. Stay strong for your mum's sake, she needs you to support her if it is bad news. Theres nothing wrong with crying loads- lets out all your emotions.
I'm really sorry to hear this. My mum found a lump last year, and it turned out that it was nothing serious. A lot of lumps are benign. Stay positive and strong. If it is the worst case scenario, at least there are treatments too.
My mum's ill. All her friends and family keep texting and ringing her, checking she's ok, asking to visit. She doesn't get test results back until two weeks time but she has a lump and it's hard not to think of the worse. Especially with everyone making a fuss, I just presume they all think the worst too which makes me worry even more.
I can't stop crying. My dad said we've just got to stay strong, and I know we do, but it's just awful. The more I say to myself "I hope she's ok", I think I'm just trying to convince myself it'll come true, and obviously I hope it does.
Urgh sorry if I'm not making sense. I just don't know what to do. I'm just sat here crying my eyes out. I'd do anything to make her better
I sort of know how you are feeling, my mum had a lump too, they tested it and I was so worried about her. But in the end she was more worried about me, so try not to cry in front of her, be strong for her she needs your support more than ever.
Try to take her mind off of things. She still has to wait a bit for the results and she shouldn't have to stress. Take it day by day..
My mum was ok in the end, it wasn't cancer. Have hope, I pray that your mum will be ok.
The lump is on her lung. So I can't help to think the worse. And Google is bad, lol. It's made me feel 10x worse uuuurgh. I've just woke up and am crying again, I just hate this. I know I can't let my mum see me upset though, it won't be nice for her
The lump is on her lung. So I can't help to think the worse. And Google is bad, lol. It's made me feel 10x worse uuuurgh. I've just woke up and am crying again, I just hate this. I know I can't let my mum see me upset though, it won't be nice for her
I know this is the stuff you don't want to hear....but even if the worst, worst case scenario happens you can still survive. My father died of lung cancer 2 and a half months ago and although it's incredibly difficult I'm starting to see that there are still good things in life. And crying isn't a bad thing. I still do what you're doing constantly.
Google is horrific for all that stuff - so try and ignore it. And it isn't necessarily going to be bad news. Try not to worry. And the next two weeks will be worrying for your mother so try and be there. I cried in front of my father twice in 7 months and hated myself both times because he seemed so calm.
I know this is the stuff you don't want to hear....but even if the worst, worst case scenario happens you can still survive. My father died of lung cancer 2 and a half months ago and although it's incredibly difficult I'm starting to see that there are still good things in life. And crying isn't a bad thing. I still do what you're doing constantly.
Google is horrific for all that stuff - so try and ignore it. And it isn't necessarily going to be bad news. Try not to worry. And the next two weeks will be worrying for your mother so try and be there. I cried in front of my father twice in 7 months and hated myself both times because he seemed so calm.
I'm so sorry to hear about your dad
I just feel that, if she is ill, I'd rather it be me not her. I just don't want to ever lose her. Uurgh, here I go again. Lol.
And I really do hope that I'm thinking of the worst, and that I'm wrong.
I asked my dad if he think's she be ok, and he was just like "I don't know" which indicates to me that he thinks the same as I do I know nothings certain yet, but..uurgh. I really really hope I'm wrong. Please.
I am so sorry to hear about your distress. I know its hard but try not to think of the worst and just be as positive as you can around your mum to help her keep strong.
Not all lumps in the lung are malignant by any means...so its best to be positive until you know the results and even then, the prognosis need not be as bad as you fear - every day some people's cancer recedes for no explicable reason.
I have been in this position twice: my mum was diagnosed with cancer and had her op exactly 1 month to the day that we buried my dad...I was just like you thinking that I would lose her: that was 1985...and whilst it took quite a few years for the cancer to be overcome...she is still here today. Earlier this year, I spotted a suspicious mole on my husband...he went to the doctor and sure enough the doctor removed it straightaway and we had to wait for the test results all through the summer as they seem to have lost them in the system. The waiting was excruciating but finally the results came back negative.
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Thank you for all the messages.
The lump is on her lung. So I can't help to think the worse. And Google is bad, lol. It's made me feel 10x worse uuuurgh. I've just woke up and am crying again, I just hate this. I know I can't let my mum see me upset though, it won't be nice for her
I just feel that, if she is ill, I'd rather it be me not her. I just don't want to ever lose her. Uurgh, here I go again. Lol.
Screw being anon (Previously known as Anon#3....)
That's an incredibly common feeling. Seriously. I still have it.
And it's difficult to know what to think until you have definite information. But it could definitely still be benign.
If you want to I'm PMable - just because it can feel quite isolating.
Have a hug
It's just, she has symptoms like can't breathe properly and a bad cough..And she's been silly enough to have smoked for about 30 years now. But at first the doctor said it was problems with her heart, now its lungs I feel so silly, like I shouldn't be crying because we haven't got the results back yet. And I can't cry in front of my mum, so whilst I want to spend time with her, I'm stuck up here in my bedroom crying my eyes out.
Thanks for the messages though, and tarnishedpenny, if you don't mind I may PM you at some point?
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