[taurus26]

Originally Posted by Starwave

Their hand? lol

Yeah but girls have hands too...

[Anonymous]

I have the exact same problem.. I've been with 5 girls as well, only came once, after nearly three hours.. most of the girls can't handle it for that long.

I don't know if there is a way to resolve it. I'm hoping that it will go easier with girls I actually like/love, since I've only yet slept with some I found really attractive but I didn't much care for in any other way.

[cybergrad]

You will be a much wanted porn star, you can repeat the scenes over and over again.....

[Indieboohoo]

Originally Posted by Anonymous

Anon or delete please.

For those of you who do not know what delayed ejaculation is:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Delayed_ejaculation
http://www.bbc.co.uk/relationships/s...hysical_causes



"Between 1 to 4 % of males suffer from delayed ejaculation to some degree" but i think this references older males, whereas I am 18

I am in a very embarrassing situation.

I have had sex about 120 times with 5 different girls, and i have only ever orgasmed once whilst inside a girl (after two and a half hours of solid thrusting). Even the time when i lost my virginity, i couldn't orgasm after thrusting for over an hour.

For those of you who did read the articles i posted and are trying to deduce the reasons:
I do not masturbate because it takes two long... (although i an coax myself to orgasm)
I would describe myself as 100% straight. There is no chance of "latent homosexuality" as suggested in one of the articles.

I feel like im letting my current girlfriend down and she is getting increasingly frustrated at her inability to coax me to orgasm. I have been dumped once due to my sexual inadequacy. I really really like the girl i am with at the moment and love having sex but i cannot climax.

I dont know what to do Has anyone else been in a similar situation? How did you resolve it?

Thank you.

something must have turned you on, don't you have any type of fetish or had a sex dream in your whole entire life

[taurus26]

It's not got anything to do with you drinking too much or taking drugs? Because apparently thats meant to make it more difficult

[eaf7s]

haha, who needs to read a post when it says it all in the title?!

EDIT: Oh, and for the record, the majority of sex-related issues such as ED, DE, PE etc. are psychosomatic--prescribed medications and placebos have the same effect.

[Thrasymachus]

Originally Posted by Anonymous

Anon or delete please.

For those of you who do not know what delayed ejaculation is:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Delayed_ejaculation
http://www.bbc.co.uk/relationships/s...hysical_causes



"Between 1 to 4 % of males suffer from delayed ejaculation to some degree" but i think this references older males, whereas I am 18

I am in a very embarrassing situation.

I have had sex about 120 times with 5 different girls, and i have only ever orgasmed once whilst inside a girl (after two and a half hours of solid thrusting). Even the time when i lost my virginity, i couldn't orgasm after thrusting for over an hour.

For those of you who did read the articles i posted and are trying to deduce the reasons:
I do not masturbate because it takes two long... (although i an coax myself to orgasm)
I would describe myself as 100% straight. There is no chance of "latent homosexuality" as suggested in one of the articles.

I feel like im letting my current girlfriend down and she is getting increasingly frustrated at her inability to coax me to orgasm. I have been dumped once due to my sexual inadequacy. I really really like the girl i am with at the moment and love having sex but i cannot climax.

I dont know what to do Has anyone else been in a similar situation? How did you resolve it?

Thank you.

Hmmm, I only had the problem that badly my first time and also with the last girl I was with - but I think part of it was I felt a little pressured because the last girl would only allow me to pleasure her through penetrative sex. I think the first time I was sort of the same, I was a little scared of it being embarassingly quick. In both instances I did those mental things you can do to 'hold off', but then I sort of reach a 'point of no return' and for me, that much work just gets tiring so it kinda of gets boring and feels like physical labour. I think the feeling of letting her down is only going to make it worse, but I guess it doesn't help your confidence if you've actually been dumped for that reason. I know when it happens to me, the girl starts to feel like its something to do with her, which makes the pressure worse.

For me I just have to mentally get back in to it, realise I am actually ******* a girl - thinking less and getting a bit primal I suppose, like convincing myself I was going to **** her silly, shes going to enjoy it and then i'm going to come in her.

It definitely also helps if she does (perhaps more than) her fair share of the physical side of things - but I'm kinda lazy anyway

Anyway, I don't know if that helps, just thought I'd add my experiences because I know sometimes I get so anxious about it happening I actually avoid having sex. Which, well is ****.

[kevin_123]

Originally Posted by taurus26

Ha! Don't have to. That has been bought as a birthday present for a friend of mine before...

Then why did you ask something you allready knew?

[taurus26]

Originally Posted by kevin_123

Then why did you ask something you allready knew?

Not quite.

A vibrator gives women something that standard fingers and sex doesn't, whereas a fleshlight, as far as I was aware, was basically just like having a hand or having sex.

So I was wondering if there was some other way of enhancing the already standard masturbation/sex movement for men?

[Anonymous]

Originally Posted by polopolo

this isnt a problem, this is a blessing

Damn right. Know how frustrating it is to have a guy finish before you do. Very unsatisfying.

[xBillyBrownx]

How's this a bad thing?

[Anonymous]

Well i seem to have the same problem as you, i can keep going for ages and not orgasm but then when i need to, i just warm up my little friend downstairs and then start 'sexing' again and i'll reach it then. I suppose you can also not masturbate for like a week or two and see how you do then, cheers.

[Hubert Poo]

This is a very serious, upsetting, and distressing problem and OP has my sympathies. It's not a joke issue. The frustration can be extraordinary and deeply humiliating, besides having very serious repercussions for relationships. Initially a girl can think she's got incredibly lucky but there is a big difference between simply lasting a long while and difficulty climaxing. Both of you want and need to be satisfied.

First off, yes, I think should go to the doctor - out of routine mostly and the helpmeet of discussing this with a medical professional. Though PE is more common DE is nonetheless something they will have experience of hearing. Nine times out of ten it is psychological - either a repressed fear lurking around some place, for instance, or general issues surrounding your approach to sexuality. In some cases the situation can be caused by a physical issue, and it is always wise to rule them out besides simultaneously initiating the process of tackling any psychological roots that may exist.

As for peeps mentioning Fleshlights, well, they are rather clever things but simple masturbation is not likely to solve this issue - even with something designed to maximise solo stimulation. True, it's a component (any marriage counsellor would tell you that, I figure), but there are ways of approaching it that first have to be aligned to an identified core issue. It's analogically similar (though extreme for comedic effect ) to going out and buying a Ferrari before you've even bought your lottery ticket. If you don't win, on Monday morning your kneecaps are going to provide rather posh ashtrays for the local loan shark. Work out precisely what is going on first, and the appropriate medical professional will be able to direct you as to how to approach it. Masturbation, almost in a particular format and setting, is very likely to be one such factor but wait first and let's get you checked out.

[Thrasymachus]

Originally Posted by Anonymous

Damn right. Know how frustrating it is to have a guy finish before you do. Very unsatisfying.

If you've got issues with your sex life, fair enough - but from personal experience and what the OP has posted, girls don't really seem to enjoy being on the 'receiving end' of this problem. Though I suppose if I met a girl who genuinely thought this way, it would work out perfectly(ish).

[RightSaidJames]

Originally Posted by taurus26

Not quite.

A vibrator gives women something that standard fingers and sex doesn't, whereas a fleshlight, as far as I was aware, was basically just like having a hand or having sex.

So I was wondering if there was some other way of enhancing the already standard masturbation/sex movement for men?

Well, I daresay a vibrating cock ring would do the trick... or a prostate massager.

[GeorgeLegg]

Good job you posted as anonymous, otherwise you would have had a flock of lady-friends queuing to be your 'buddy'...

..

[legendstar]

is it necessary for you to cum inside a girl, why dont for a change, instead of he waiting for you to cum, u have sex till she explodes..?
see if she likes that

[Benny_b]

Originally Posted by xBillyBrownx

How's this a bad thing?

Pretty sure your vagina would hurt after 4 hours of sex. Plus I guarantee you would start to question your ability to please your partner if after 4 hours of sex he hadn't orgasmed. So all in all, it is definitely a bad thing.

[Anonymous]

Pointless thread.

[kexy]

Just blow it on her tits when she's fallen asleep.