[Anonymous]

Keep anon or delete.

My gf and I have been together for almost 2yrs now, and things over the past few months have not been so smooth. Through pressures due to uni/careers etc, one of the things that has really caused a rift between is a diverging sex drive. Wheras I need sex on pretty much a daily basis, she is fine to go without it for a couple of weeks etc. Due to extra stress, my sex drive is becoming more pronounced while hers is going the other way (just a different way of handling things, I know). Anyway, it is starting to cause harm on our actual relationship, with arguments and a new set of tensions. Does anyone have advice on how to be able to manage mismatched sex drives? Obviously, I don't want her to have to fake it, but I also have needs which are dragging me down. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

I'm the exact same I'm like a horny rabbit on speed or something, and my gf is like a sex camel - can go without it for ever. Almost feels like I have to beg her for sex.

I guess we just need to lay down the law.

[HearTheThunder]

If you've been together for 2 years it really shouldn't be about 'needing' sex... you (both) need to figure out a way for you both to want it because you enjoy it, experiment, ask her if she has any fantasies or whatever and attempt them.

[Age_of_Innocence]

Have a tug?

[Sakura-Chan]

Originally Posted by Anonymous

I'm the exact same I'm like a horny rabbit on speed or something, and my gf is like a sex camel - can go without it for ever. Almost feels like I have to beg her for sex.

I guess we just need to lay down the law.

LOL

[Fyasko]

Daily basis...? Give the girl a break.

[Jelkin]

Can't you sort yourself out? Having sex when you're not in the mood is incredibly uncomfortable (for me, anyway).

[ma2k5]

It is why I am in search for a girl with a higher sex drive then me - to avoid such situations. And, I know they exist!

[Anonymous]

Originally Posted by Fyasko

Daily basis...? Give the girl a break.

I do.. Most days I'm fine to handle it and just move on as it's unfair to expect someone to match up with me 100%. On the other hand, the frequency at which she feels comfortable is very low for me. It's just that by the very nature of the problem, I have to be the one who has to let go and it's not really a good feeling at all.

[Anonymous]

Originally Posted by ma2k5

It is why I am in search for a girl with a higher sex drive then me - to avoid such situations. And, I know they exist!

It's not that great tbh, a past boyfriend felt emasculated by it

[ma2k5]

Originally Posted by Anonymous

It's not that great tbh, a past boyfriend felt emasculated by it

Then he was a closet homosexual. I guarantee I will have no complaints.

[Anonymous]

Originally Posted by ma2k5

Then he was a closet homosexual. I guarantee I will have no complaints.

He didn't seem to complain at the time but then it would come up in arguments and you could tell it bothered him a bit.

[ChaoticMaster]

Talk to her about it. Try and come to a compromise, meet in the middle. She should be looking out for our needs just as you should be looking out for hers.

[ChaoticMaster]

Originally Posted by Jelkin

Can't you sort yourself out? Having sex when you're not in the mood is incredibly uncomfortable (for me, anyway).

Perhaps but why should he have to cater to her needs? Surely it would be best to meet in the middle?

[Emperor]

Daily basis!!!??? men you're a god

[Indieboohoo]

Originally Posted by Anonymous

I do.. Most days I'm fine to handle it and just move on as it's unfair to expect someone to match up with me 100%. On the other hand, the frequency at which she feels comfortable is very low for me. It's just that by the very nature of the problem, I have to be the one who has to let go and it's not really a good feeling at all.

what starsign are you?

[Lefty Leo]

Reacquaint yourself with your right (or left .. or both) hand(s).

[aliluvschoc]

Daily basis? Have a ******* ****.

(I bet that all gets starred out...)

[HearTheThunder]

Originally Posted by Indieboohoo

what starsign are you?

Do you prefer cornflakes or frosties?



We were asking irrelevant questions, right?

[Bslforever]

Originally Posted by Anonymous

Keep anon or delete.

My gf and I have been together for almost 2yrs now, and things over the past few months have not been so smooth. Through pressures due to uni/careers etc, one of the things that has really caused a rift between is a diverging sex drive. Wheras I need sex on pretty much a daily basis, she is fine to go without it for a couple of weeks etc. Due to extra stress, my sex drive is becoming more pronounced while hers is going the other way (just a different way of handling things, I know). Anyway, it is starting to cause harm on our actual relationship, with arguments and a new set of tensions. Does anyone have advice on how to be able to manage mismatched sex drives? Obviously, I don't want her to have to fake it, but I also have needs which are dragging me down. Thanks.

You don't have hands?!? You poor guy