Eczema

I know it's a chiche (and yes I do love quoting them...), but you don't magically become an adult once you turn 18. I'd understand if you dont agree with me now, but eventually it will click. - Maybe when 30, maybe 40, but trust me, click it will. Looks are just that. Simple appearances, and do not correlate with the reality of personality. In my opinion, the ONLY thing which matters in the long run is your honesty and relability. - e.g. would I trust you to look after my children if I have to go out for a day (hipothetically)? or Do I trust your judgment and fairness enough to take your advise for a difficult situation? I know I've yet to earn this level of trust with most people, but loads of people I know have lots of respect for my dad, but that's another story...

For now, just use your exzema as a filter, to clean out all the guys who only want you for your appearance. Love from... (Was going to write "Book" but it seems so rediculus as it's not my real name.)

I am sorry, but personally I find that quote particulary insulting, its a skin disease yes but to remark that she looks as red as traffic lights isnt the way to go, i'm sorry if you were making another point across, but it is highly insulting to people who have rosecea(sp...), dermatitis, Ezcema, Psoriasis or Vitiligo - its a skin disease yes but it can hold a lot more than that such as mental disorders resolving from having the disease and also other medical disorders such as overuse with steroids causing blood vessels to dilate, bone thinning and can bring about depression to a sufferer. All I'm saying is change your wording as its hard enough to look at it without others making comments of it. I'm sure you wouldnt say that to your friends face about her looking like traffic lights xoxo

My post is in my opinion relevelt as it somewhat negates the quetion. I appologise if you find it patronising though. Cheers

I would, because she's really at ease with it. I really do regret using that simillie if it offends you, but I (at the time) could not think of any other better way of describing it. Sorry again.

maybe.. bit of a random idea... it would like we are proud of it, and i'm really not.

i'm ignoring book - i wanted advice on treatments, preventions and cures etc.. not someone telling me personality is more important. that's the case with all visual and physical ailments, but it doesnt stop people being bothered by them.

what the hell are you banging on about? no offence, i appreciate you trying to help but... 'using my eczema as a filter?' its not all about how others perceive it. ihave a very understanding boyfriend. its about how it makes ME feel, how i think it looks etc. because i want to look nice, for my own benefit, not covered in blotches. I want to feel more confident. and believe me, if i still have it when i'm 30 i'll still feel the same.

Again, I don't mean to offend anyone, but I don't see any reason why ecezma should affect your confidence levels if you don't care what other people think of it. Cheers.

because if i look good i feel good about myself.and that makes me happier. im not saying i dont care to a certain extent abot what people think, i care more about how it makes me feel ugly and not very good about myself.

Why don't you just feel good about yourself anyway? You know you are "good" (or much better...), just change you'r perception of yourself.

If anything good has come out of this, I guess its that you're admitting that your appearance is a noteworthy factor. This is what you need to overcome. - Or next time, if its not your exzema, It'll be your weight, your breasts...

Again, I'm sorry for the people I've offended. If you don't think my comments on this forum are constructive/ widen the question or debate then please say so (honestly). I wont be offended. Cheers.

Why don't you just feel good about yourself anyway? You know you are "good" (or much better...), just change you'r perception of yourself.

If anything good has come out of this, I guess its that you're admitting that your appearance is a noteworthy factor. This is what you need to overcome. - Or next time, if its not your exzema, It'll be your weight, your breasts...

Again, I'm sorry for the people I've offended. If you don't think my comments on this forum are constructive/ widen the question or debate then please say so (honestly). I wont be offended. Cheers.

i find it amusing that you're making these assumptions even though you know absolutely nothing about me!

i cant just suddenly think 'right, i dont care about this anymore.' everyone has hang ups about themselves. its just part of life.

and being honest... i dont think your comments are constructive - sorry! I havent read any other of your posts but in this thread they are completley useless... sorry.