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I'm an 18 year old guy, Since leaving College (Sixthform), I have no friends. This is because I did not go to university (Never wanted to) and everyone else has moved on. I am currently seeking employment, but it's hard with the economy for anyone and might take a while.
I'm spending my days pretty much alone, and while that doesn't actually bother me (I'm quite an introvert) - there's a difference between plenty of alone time, and social isolation. When I say friends, I mean friends I can be close to and go places with, and not just online.
With no medium to make friends from, since most people make friends from what they do (ie. College, Work) - Am I stuck in a social rut until I get a job or something?
I have no issues socializing, I do have social skills and all that. As I said, the only reason I have no friends is due to the circumstances said above.
My entire social network is made up of people I've met through education, work and memberships. Seeing as the former two are currently unavailable to you, try joining a club or something? Take up a sport or join a youth club?
What kinds of jobs are you looking for?
It couldn't be that hard to get a retail/food service job, even in this economy (although I guess it depends where you live). Anything to get you out and being around people for some portion of the day would probably help...
Anyway, to the OP, go to things/places you could meet people. Even if its a local pub or clubs people your age go, or find somewhere to work that wouldn't be too hard to get employment. I'm not telling you to go to work at McDonalds or anything, but if you set your standards lower, for a while anyway, then it might be easier to find a part-time job at least.
It must be hard having everyone left for uni and being the only one left behind. In my town theres a lot off nobheads who stay here forvever you know the ones you always see on a night out. Uni's great for a fresh start and new faces.
Hows about local Pubs ? Join their football and other sports teams is always a way to get a really good group of mates who go out a lot i suppose.
Not sucha good diea if your not sporty.
What kinds of things you into ?
It must be hard having everyone left for uni and being the only one left behind. In my town theres a lot off nobheads who stay here forvever you know the ones you always see on a night out. Uni's great for a fresh start and new faces.
Hows about local Pubs ? Join their football and other sports teams is always a way to get a really good group of mates who go out a lot i suppose.
Not sucha good diea if your not sporty.
What kinds of things you into ?
Can you really just walk into a pub and meet people these days? People you'd want to meet? Most people are so closed to strangers, with their friends - or would be up to something.
Can you really just walk into a pub and meet people these days? People you'd want to meet? Most people are so closed to strangers, with their friends - or would be up to something.
Sad story but true.
I wouldn't say pubs, but sports are an excellent idea. Just avoid lacrosse (goddamn preps) and any martial art that isn't explicitly sporting (judo, boxing, kickboxing, wrestling are all good, most karate, taekwondo, kungfu, ninjitsu are not) because they tend to be full of freaks.
OP, what are your hobbies and interests? Does your family know about these problems? Is there any area of study that you enjoy?
I'm not interested in study anymore, I want to get away to sea and I'm currently in the process of getting into that kind of career, though that will take atleast until next September to get into. For now I am going through that application/training process, and need to get something, a job ideally - to occupy me for that period. But it's easier said than done.
Join a voluntary organisation such as St John Ambulance. Guaranteed to make new people. They have units in some areas where is is 16-25 year olds only.
Maybe you could go on a lifesaving course and become a lifeguard, and I don't think voluntary work is a bad idea. You can do that in any economical climate, like go in a charity shop, or do work experience. Even clubs, maybe something like tennis. Some sports wouldn't be a good option, e.g. if you were starting football for the first time everyone at your level would be 11 year olds and people your own age really good. You say you want to get away to sea? Like the Navy? Join a running group, and then suggest to go to the pub after and make friends through that.
No, just no. Do you realise how silly that sounds, did you go to university because all your friends were?
I made an individual choice not to go to university because it was neither relevant more for me. I'm glad I have a leg to stand on, even in the absence of "friends" - thanks.
No, just no. Do you realise how silly that sounds, did you go to university because all your friends were?
I made an individual choice not to go to university because it was neither relevant more for me. I'm glad I have a leg to stand on, even in the absence of "friends" - thanks.
I'm just saying. If you went to uni you wouldn't have this isolation problem because there is people you can easily aproach.
And, I have my reasons for wanting to go to uni and its not friends either.
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