(Original post by Untitled1)
Hey there everyone
I withdrew from university in November 2009 - about a month and a half after starting.
Why did I withdraw?
There were a few reasons to be honest.
- Firstly, I really could not stand the course. I chose to study Psychology, having loved it at A Level. However, it was far too much science and maths with very little on the theory side which was not what I was expecting at all. I felt I was wasting a lot of time and money, and because I went to a 'high standard' university, they expected you to automatically be a genius since you needed very good results to get in, yet all of my grades were the result of much, much effort!! I went to university to study a subject that I thought I've love (it wasn't about potential earnings etc. or even the dream job since I didn't have one!), and so since I was hating it, I just didn't see the point of being there.
- Secondly, and perhaps most importantly for me that lead to the withdrawal, was that I began suffering from various health effects. I lost weight dramatically, and never felt hungry to eat. I suffered from migraines daily, and felt extremely stressed out. I woke up with very strong feelings of dread in the morning, and always felt so tired and lethargic - I had no energy and desire to do anything, which is nothing like me - I'm usually bursting with enthusiasm! There were a few more health impacts, which are better not to go into, but I'm over them now since leaving uni. If I stayed, I can only imagine I'd have got considerably worse.
- Thirdly, and this kind of stopped me wanting to reapply for now - I started questionning why I was really at university. I kept reading articles about how many graduates were now employed, and as I was studying Psychology, which is becoming increasingly popular, I worried for my future - would I be wasting a considerable length of time feeling extremely miserable, just to not be employed for a long time in the future, or not be where I want to be anyway!! I read quite a lot of statistics, and ultimately decided that certainly for now, it's not for me.
- Also, I was very disappointed with the university. I won't name it, because that doesn't matter, but it made a lot of promises about it's atmosphere, and it was just not what I thought at all. They cancelled at lot of Freshers week events, and the people were the very opposite of the promised friendly - they were rude and arrogant, believing they were superior to everyone else because they were at uni. I hate this, and they're not the type of people I want to associate with. I want friendly people who value what they've got!
- I'm also an academic who likes to work. I've had a part time job for years, but since going to uni, I didn't do any part time work and couldn't get any. I felt like I was living off the government, which I can't stand!! At uni, I didn't feel like I was being helpful to anyone either, and didn't feel like I was of any value to anyone. I just sat and tried to read and overly complicated book, and did everything for myself, rather than others which I was previously used to!
- I couldn't stand university living. I had lovely flatmates thankfully, and didn't mind the actual accommodation. However, I felt like I was living in a bubble and slowly becoming institutionalised, and I hated just living in my bedroom. I wanted a space where I could sit away from my books etc. but there just wasn't anything!
After withdrawing from uni...
Ok, so I'm not going to pretend it's all been positive, but the majority of it certainly is!
- After leaving uni, I just felt really disappointed - not so much in myself, but in that my world felt like it had just came crashing down. I had no dreams anymore, and felt completely lost. However, this has certainly died down with time, and I've had more time to reflect on my choices and now I'm back with my dreams again!
- I was fortunate enough for my previous part time job to offer me a bit of a job back, so I've kept some funds etc. I can understand that it would be extremely daunting for people who can't have this opportunity, and have to search for a job straight away or else rely on benefits, which is a very grim prospect for many! But you'll certainly get there eventually, and probably discover so much more!
- It can feel very lonely at times. If you're on Facebook, you often see all of your friends updating their status' and having this fantastic time, and you wonder why you didn't have a good time. They are often terrible at keeping in touch with you too. Also, I've found that the friends you made at uni are also in no rush to keep in touch, and it can be quite hurtful in some ways. You struggle to find things to talk about, or are kept out of the conversation, because they are now all linked by their uni experiences, whereas you're not. However, if you're friendly and positive, you'll make your new friends too
- A frown can always be turned upside down!
- If I had stayed at university, I think I would be really quite ill now! Since coming back, I've returned to my healthy weight, and am postive and happy everyday, with a lot more get-up-and-go, which I completely lost at uni. I'm a changed person for the better, whereas I think uni changes people for the worse most of the time!
- You get to reflect on your choices and have a lovely time of having a break! I got to have the first Christmas in years where I didn't need to revise! I had a brilliant time and it was fantastic. I see so many of my friends stressing over the need to complete assignments, whereas I can just be happy
For me, the most positive thing is that I've now discovered my dream job. I've filled out applications for many jobs, and had a few interviews. It was quite disappointing at first because I was always the second favourite candidate and didn't get the job unfortunately. However, I discovered the position of Healthcare Assistant - it's perfect for me as I can work my way up and I get to help people out, which always appeals to me! I've just received an offer for a job working at part of a Rehabilitation Team, promoting the independence of people suffering from the effects of stroke! This is so much more rewarding than being sat in a stuffy lecture theatre doing work I hate!! Money isn't everything, but rather than getting into debt, I'll be on £13,000 a year, which for someone like me, is just fantastic! I'll still get to study for qualifications, and if I wish to eventually, I could train in all sorts of healthcare routes!
I've taken it as a life changing experience, and although it was disappointing at the time, I look back on it positively in the sense that I've learnt much from it. I'll be learning to drive soon, going on some nice holidays and just enjoying life, which is so important when it's so short! I wouldn't change a single thing, and if people are seriously considering withdrawing and it's all they can think about, I can only recommend withdrawing - it's too much to get stressed out over, and there's always an alternate pathway!
If anyone wants to ask any questions, feel free