21, m, final year of uni and 'still' a virgin

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Reply 180

TruetoMyself

Why dont all virgins auction it off on Ebay-even the guys?

Reply 181

GentleGuy

Original post by Smeggles

****, know that feeling! Hope you got laid man, I'm still waiting!

2 years on since I created this thread and well... I'm still waiting :frown:

Brief Summary of more recent events:

2010 up until July was spent on final year of Uni, graduated in summer with 2:1 with Honours, which i was happy about. Then had months of being pennyless and doing sweet f all before finally getting my first job in Bham city centre in November, where I've now been for over a year - and its goin well im pleased to say.

Had 3 works xmas parties (even went to the company one in london - really formal, NOT opportunities for chatting up girls) The first one, id only been at my work a month n didnt really know anyone so was ok.

Spent a few months thinking bout this girl at work n told her i liked her in May, though i knew she had a bf, n that didnt really go well. I've ended up hating her ever since coz i think she knew i liked her and was just teasing me by being 'too' friendly n saying she still wanted to be a friend.

She's past, now ive been thinking of meeting a girl who lives 125 miles away. We've text each other every day for like 4 months (first 2 months she had a bf still) but we still haven't met yet? Advice anyone?

I've just tried not thinking about me still being a v, and i've managed to keep myself busy, most the time, and i get by. If anyone's still reading this should I drive to meet this girl (I can only do it on a weekend coz i work weekdays 9-5 n its impossible) as I'm frankly running out of options. Its not about the fact of being a v, i just wanna perhaps meet a nice single girl to have a relationship with n see what happens, even if she's MILES away :frown:

Thanks for reading Part 2! Any intellectual replies are welcome

Reply 182

diving_queen

Original post by GentleGuy

I'm now 21 (and a half) and half way through my final year of uni. I don't go out that much coz I live at home (to save money for a decent future and hopefully a nice family home for a lovely wife) and my small group of uni friends also all live at home (and don't live close to me).

I've always had friends and had no real problem socialising with people coz I can be quite a funny guy sometimes. But i just cannot figure out why barely any girls like me more than just a friend (I had a dozen female friends at school).

Growing up I learned to be kind and considerate and especially when it came to girls I'd be honest with them and treat them like true ladies. After going through most of my uni life now I realise ladies don't really exist anymore and gentlemen don't exist either.

I lacked confidence with attractive girls at school because I have worn glasses since I was 5, and my blonde hair has always made me feel weak as a male, because blonde hair is seen as feminine. I do wear contact lenses now, have done so for the last 4 years, but it hasn't changed my luck with girls at all.

I always hate going through christmas seeing couples because it makes me angry that I have never experienced a true relationship. And now valentine's day is fast approaching... :frown:

Finally, I have snogged a girl and actually turned down sex with the school slut (because I knew she'd already slept with half my mates and it just felt wrong to sleep with her).

I REALLY need some advice, from anyone! PLEASE! :confused:

1) Blonde hair...feminine? Really! No. Just no! I LOVE guys with blonde hair. If you have blue/green eyes. Even better. (Brown are fine too :wink:

Just the light eye with blonde hair combo is NICE).

2) Do you think you are attractive? Not in a vain way, but everyone can look at themselves in a mirror and think 'Meh I am ok/little bit better than ok/little bit under average'. You don't have to answer on here :tongue:

But if you think you are under average you are lacking confidence. And that is probably showing in front of women.

3) Sadly the 'nice boy' image can have its downsides....I am incredibly attracted to *******s. Take the guy I like at the moment for example (He is blonde btw :wink:

Nothing feminine about him!). He is an arrogant tw*t. He is kind of mean to me and is a bit of an *******. But for some crazy reason that makes me want him even more. Nice guys, well I don't want a guy that will let me walk over him. I want someone to fight back , put me in my place at times (not as a 'woman' but as an equal human. I don't want him to be a doormat).

Its AMAZING that you are a nice guy! Chivalry is a super desirable trait :biggrin:

But don't be a doormat...its not.

As for your 'predicament'. Well confidence is number one. These girls that are you friends....well if you fancy one ask her out. If you are rejected don't let that bring you down..hard to accept I know. I can't deal with rejection personally so don't ask guys out! But brush it off and move on :smile:

Sorry if thats not helpful :tongue:

Reply 183

diving_queen

Original post by n0c0ntr0l

Next thing you know we have a case of 40 year old virgin.

YOUR PROF PIC IS AWESOME! I saw that pic on fb the other day. Love it :smile:

That is all.

Reply 184

laurentommo

Original post by GentleGuy

In reading this, you seem really mature, advice to you, sex isn't all that great unless you experience it with someone you know you want to spend the rest of your life with. Don't be down about other couples, you have no idea what happens behind closed doors.

Through a relationship you can have some of the greatest times and some of the worst, you'll find someone, it's just a matter of the waiting game, it's good that you can say I'm 21 and haven't slept with 200000 girls, the decent women out there will respect you for it trust me. Good luck I hope it helped a little.

Advice for meeting long distance:

Im currently in a long distance I see my bf at weekends and he comes up on the train or rides his motorbike down we live 75 miles apart, it works fine. Meet her :smile:

Ive been together nearly 2 years, and I dont regret a thing.

(edited 12 years ago)

Reply 185

username853479

Troll? Your grammar is really bad for someone with a 2:1 degree.

L-O-L

Originally Posted by thebriemuncher
HAHA virgin fag! Not found a boyfriend yet? MEGALOLZ!!
Perhaps if you shift a few pounds- maybe by not stuffing your mouth with burgers and instead go and find some cock!

I would munch this man's cock.
PM me babes.

Reply 188

Science211

Original post by Anonymous

It might not happen soon, but my advice would be work on yourself.

Hit the gym, get contact lenses or nicer glasses, switch up your style, take up a few new hobbies that are accessible to your everyday person who you could chat to about, maybe go out and see some countries, learn how to dance (which depends on which types of women you want to date).

Ultimately, you'll lose it when you've achieved self improvement.

As for your attitude, well... you're a nice guy, but you need a bit more a killer instinct. If you watch lots of porn - stop for a bit, and instead aim on trying to vent that sexuality in finding a woman.

Disregard all that 'it'll happen one day', as that revolves around some notion of fate. You need to put yourself out there.