21, m, final year of uni and 'still' a virgin

It might not happen soon, but my advice would be work on yourself.

Hit the gym, get contact lenses or nicer glasses, switch up your style, take up a few new hobbies that are accessible to your everyday person who you could chat to about, maybe go out and see some countries, learn how to dance (which depends on which types of women you want to date).

Ultimately, you'll lose it when you've achieved self improvement.

As for your attitude, well... you're a nice guy, but you need a bit more a killer instinct. If you watch lots of porn - stop for a bit, and instead aim on trying to vent that sexuality in finding a woman.

Disregard all that 'it'll happen one day', as that revolves around some notion of fate. You need to put yourself out there.

wow cant believe how many responses i've had!

ok. i will try looking for that book called the game (tho im a very terrible reader, i havent read a complete book since secondary school, which is around 7 years now?)

in terms of my confidence, and acting. hmm its funny thats mentioned coz im wicked at impersonations and did an extra bit of acting back at school, so maybe i shud just exploit that in terms of acting confident :s

random conversations, whoever said that thank you! i will really try this. i normally feel as tho i dnt want to intrude in other ppls daily lives unless im invited. if sum1 starts a convo with me im gr8 but im never the person to say the first sentence!

in terms of my appearance, i dnt want to look like the sort of guy who has spent the last year of his life making himself look good. thanks for the advice but to me that sounds like you will look like a guy who only cares about yourself. i will have to meet in the middle with this one. i did mention i DO wear contacts now, so glasses are history. my hair is probs an issue, coz i never style it, its long (always past my shoulders) because im too lazy to maintain it i always wished when i was younger that i would b bald so i wudnt have to worry. but now i want as much hair as i can while i have it :s strange way of thinking yeh. i always wanted to be different so i just grew my hair, i saw it as though there really arent many hairstyles for guys nowadays - u have skinhead, graded 1-5, short back n sides, or emo. and those r the only acceptable hairstyles????

in terms of going out i mite also b part of a dying breed... im very passionate about music (rock and classic rock) and one thing i hate most is modern nightclubs playing all the same music. the heavy bass physically makes me feel sick, i cant describe it. so this restricts my options to places i enjoy, which sounds sad and selfish i know, but there u go ideally one major trait i look for in a girl, is that she shares the same music taste. thats why i tried social networking sites, but it just seems like im getting nowhere with it. before u ask, no im not an emo, i dnt do all that falloutboy and whatever the other emo bands are, lol. i just have a passion for music. just like some guys have a passion for sport or cars or their muscles.

i can say one thing tho. wenever im with friends, i am usually the most confident person there, im always witty sarcastic smiling and making ppl laugh but yeh, thats part of the method i need to stick to. i just need to reach the next step!

if any1 wants to comment on anything ive just said please feel free! im just reflecting on all the great advice i've had from this thread so far! thanks

Dude, just work on yourself. There's nothing wrong about that.

Also, just dropping by with some advice.

That what you mentioned that when being amongst friends you are confident is a good sign. A good trick to attract girls is to be "cocky funny". If a girl, for example, were to touch your butt at a party you turn to her and say "whoa, you need to pay me dinner to get that far" and you say it with a smile and a tinge of cockiness. This sort of stuff works great, you just need to be creative with this sort of humour. To get this far though you may need to feel good about yourself and show it as well (with body language and clothes).

As far as hairstyles, I recommend trying out a fauxhawk. If not, go ahead and try shaving your hair off. It might be more attractive.

Also, I understand what you mean with the music thing, I play guitar myself and do dislike the repetive pop music in clubs (and boy, the UK sure loves repetitive pop music!) but you got to get over that elitism. Just TRY to enjoy the music at those clubs. And also, from my experience it is really rare to find a girl that enjoys rock music. Rock music is more of a guy thing. That's a good thing

Anyway, good luck with that.

Dude, just work on yourself. There's nothing wrong about that.

Also, just dropping by with some advice.

That what you mentioned that when being amongst friends you are confident is a good sign. A good trick to attract girls is to be "cocky funny". If a girl, for example, were to touch your butt at a party you turn to her and say "whoa, you need to pay me dinner to get that far" and you say it with a smile and a tinge of cockiness. This sort of stuff works great, you just need to be creative with this sort of humour. To get this far though you may need to feel good about yourself and show it as well (with body language and clothes).

As far as hairstyles, I recommend trying out a fauxhawk. If not, go ahead and try shaving your hair off. It might be more attractive.

Also, I understand what you mean with the music thing, I play guitar myself and do dislike the repetive pop music in clubs (and boy, the UK sure loves repetitive pop music!) but you got to get over that elitism. Just TRY to enjoy the music at those clubs. And also, from my experience it is really rare to find a girl that enjoys rock music. Rock music is more of a guy thing. That's a good thing

Anyway, good luck with that.

I'm now 21 (and a half) and half way through my final year of uni. I don't go out that much coz I live at home (to save money for a decent future and hopefully a nice family home for a lovely wife) and my small group of uni friends also all live at home (and don't live close to me).

I've always had friends and had no real problem socialising with people coz I can be quite a funny guy sometimes. But i just cannot figure out why barely any girls like me more than just a friend (I had a dozen female friends at school).

Growing up I learned to be kind and considerate and especially when it came to girls I'd be honest with them and treat them like true ladies. After going through most of my uni life now I realise ladies don't really exist anymore and gentlemen don't exist either.

I lacked confidence with attractive girls at school because I have worn glasses since I was 5, and my blonde hair has always made me feel weak as a male, because blonde hair is seen as feminine. I do wear contact lenses now, have done so for the last 4 years, but it hasn't changed my luck with girls at all.

I always hate going through christmas seeing couples because it makes me angry that I have never experienced a true relationship. And now valentine's day is fast approaching...

Finally, I have snogged a girl and actually turned down sex with the school slut (because I knew she'd already slept with half my mates and it just felt wrong to sleep with her).

I REALLY need some advice, from anyone! PLEASE!

Dude, just work on yourself. There's nothing wrong about that.

Also, just dropping by with some advice.

That what you mentioned that when being amongst friends you are confident is a good sign. A good trick to attract girls is to be "cocky funny". If a girl, for example, were to touch your butt at a party you turn to her and say "whoa, you need to pay me dinner to get that far" and you say it with a smile and a tinge of cockiness. This sort of stuff works great, you just need to be creative with this sort of humour. To get this far though you may need to feel good about yourself and show it as well (with body language and clothes).

As far as hairstyles, I recommend trying out a fauxhawk. If not, go ahead and try shaving your hair off. It might be more attractive.

Also, I understand what you mean with the music thing, I play guitar myself and do dislike the repetive pop music in clubs (and boy, the UK sure loves repetitive pop music!) but you got to get over that elitism. Just TRY to enjoy the music at those clubs. And also, from my experience it is really rare to find a girl that enjoys rock music. Rock music is more of a guy thing. That's a good thing

Anyway, good luck with that.

i think i know you. does your real name begin with an M?

I'm sure you just need to be more confident, and I think it's good that you didn't compromise your values with a girl you weren't really into. I have a friend whose 25 and a virgin, and people don't look down on him and he is a really nice funny and charming guy i think the thing with him is that he's not assertive with women/has a habit of getting hung up on taken ones.
I don't think blonde hair is a bad thing on a guy, there are a lot of confident blonde guys, plus it might make a change from all the numerous dark haired people. I don't think I've ever thought "that guy's blonde therefore he must be feminine/weak"; not the thought process!
I think living at home is probably prohibiting options; if you get out a bit more join a few university societies and encourage friends to go out with you, clubbing/bars or whatever your social scene is. And the internet can be worth a try too. Try to be more confident with girls, and if you feel like something is developing with someone, put yourself out there, (girls often expect the guy to). I think a lot of girls would like a "gentleman", especially as a lot of younger men maybe don't think long term or might have commitment issues (I don't want to generalise here though obviously). If you feel like your self image isn't what you'd like to project, a few new items of clothing here and there can help or a bit of re fashioning.

Is that me?? What's his name?!! Although I'm not a virgin, just very, very rubbish with women!!

HAHA virgin fag! Not found a boyfriend yet? MEGALOLZ!!
Perhaps if you shift a few pounds- maybe by not stuffing your mouth with burgers and instead go and find some cock!