I'm an escort...what shall i do'?

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GottaLovePhysics! :)

Calm down bible nut. Its her choice and the "escort buissness" can be a legit buissness, just take a look at amsterdam.

How `bouts you come of your high hourse, offer your opinion in a respectful way and back it up with valid reasons :smile:

I can understand prostitution. I can't understand the importance of a social life to some people though; surely not worth prostituting for? :confused:

Reply 41

JamesF87

I would not escort if I were you. I don't think you can sleep with these men and not be affected emotionally. If you just want the cash so you can blow it (excuse the pun) on expensive clothes and shoes then you have a mental health problem.
I think it is fine for someone to prostitute themselves if it is their choice. But unless you are doing it to feed your Children or support a drug habit then I have to assume that you are greedy. Ironically one of my Sisters works as a Clerk in the office of an Escort Agency. In my opinion, I am ashamed of what she does. I don't think it is much different from pimping. But it is important to her to buy all her chavvy clothes, run a car and go on holiday to Disneyland or Turkey three times a year.
If you work as an escort then there are two ways you can do it. Either you can be independent and advertise on websites like Punterlink.co.uk or Adultwork.co.uk. Or you can work for an escort agency. You can work incalls at your home or the escort agency's flat. Or you can do outcalls where you visit the punter at his home.
The Agency will provide you with a driver and somewhere for the incalls, plus handle the bookings. In return they will take a 50% cut of the punter's fee.
The best place to read about from the viewpoint of the man is punternet.co.uk.
But if you were my friend I would try to persuade you that it is just not worth it.

Reply 42

Bishamon

Reems

And how does she attract clients then?

the internet, genius

Reply 43

Bishamon

Pfft, its your body and you can do what you like with it. Its not like its an illegal trade or something and you're not hurting anybody else, which is rather funny considering many people here would not jump on those who gladly work in professions which actively cheat others out of their livelihoods. I would admit personally I am rather indifferent to escorting itself, its not exactly bad but I would be a liar to say that I wouldn't mind a family member partaking in it. I certainly see why earning £150-£3000 for getting laid for an hour would be enticing.

Reply 44

mingo_poppy

It's your choice and if you want to escort, then it is up to you. You HAVE to keep it a total secret though. If you tell a single person, even your best friend, it will eventually get out. You have to tell, quite literally, not a soul. If you're not able to do that then you probably shouldn't be escorting unless you are willing to be outed.

Reply 45

Natasha_c

JamesF87

I'm sorry but someone who can do something you can't such as distance themselves emotionally from sex has a mental health problem!? People often make more then they 'need' from their jobs...

Reply 46

Ken321

You're a cheater AND whore, by DEFINITION!

Good luck. Your life is screwed. Your boyfriend will one day find out, and if you can HONESTLY believe that he'll be okay with it, then you're an IDIOT.
You've already dug yourself way too far in to get yourself out.

Good game. Checkmate. You lose.

Only thing is, I feel sorry for your boyfriend.

Reply 47

kcustom

Poor boyfreind. He "partially" knows. If I was him I wouldn't be happy but then again if he does fully find out about it and is fine with it then there we go :s-smilie:

Reply 48

fox_the_fix

How much do you charge?

Reply 49

JamesF87

fox_the_fix

How much do you charge?

She said that she gets paid £150 an hour to sleep with men

Reply 50

CasualLad

If I was your BF and I found out you where a slag i'd feel physically sick and bang you the **** out. Thankfully I haven't come near you.

Reply 51

thisisyesterday

Winnieee

Don't listen to them , if you're being safe and everything then it's a perfectly legitimate way to earn money.
Don't let your morals get in the way , you're doing something that makes men happy and you're getting paid.
And I don't think it's cheating , because there's nothing emotional involved and your boyfriend, however 'partially', knows.
Power to you x

Um, no, it's illegal.

Reply 52

Anonymous #3

I think some people are being quite harsh, I don't agree with it either but why is prostitution seen as so wrong anyway? I think people only see it as wrong because society says it is wrong.

Reply 53

Delta Usafa

Winnieee

Making men happy??

Sorry... but the only people who actually pay for prostitutes are lonely men on dry streaks or perves, and it doesn't make them happy. It gives them a night of fun thanks to the whore's faked moans and orgasms, and then they go back to their pathetic lonely lives. Chances are, they then look back on the experience and it reminds them of how pathetic they are, driving them to become even more depressed, and then going out for more prostitutes, and the cycle continues.

That's not making men happy.

mingo_poppy

Sounds like a great career choice. I'd love to have a profession that could potentially ruin my entire life if one person found out!

I personally am amused knowing that her boyfriend is eventually going to find out, dump her, and then tell all his mates about her.

Anonymous

I think some people are being quite harsh, I don't agree with it either but why is prostitution seen as so wrong anyway? I think people only see it as wrong because society says it is wrong.

It's wrong because in most cases it involves the abuse of women, and in all cases it objectifies them to mere objects.

Reply 54

ticktockclock

this is why women are sluts

Reply 55

Anonymous #1

I think people are making too big a deal of me having sex to buy alcohol for my friends. I ont think thats quite what I said. My POINT was that I'm not trying to get money to be materialistic and buy make up and nights out and stuff. i'm also using it to pay back my student loan, so please dont judge me in that way.
And no, I dont 'love my boyfirned'. i've only been going out with him for three weeks, but yes, i am human but I was doing this job before i started going out with him, hence why I started a thread, hence why I am looking for advice.
And i dont think i will regret it to be honest.
Also, i do have dignity and am very careful in what I do with a man and sex is often not on the cards. So for those of you who are just shouting abuse at me, rather than help and advice, please don't assume you know about my line of work.
For those of you who are actually giving me sound advice, thanks for not being judgemental and actually thinking it may not be the end of the world doing something a bit unusual... xx

Reply 56

Reems

Bishamon

the internet, genius

It's illegal to advertise escorts.

Reply 57

Delta Usafa

Reems

It's illegal to advertise escorts.

You sure?

Anonymous

Also, i do have dignity and am very careful in what I do with a man and sex is often not on the cards.

Being careful and not always having sex doesn't change anything. If you have dignity, why are you selling your body? You're taking money from men in exchange for them using you as an interactive sex doll (aka an object). And not to mention, most prostitutes are driven into the business as a last resort! You're just doing it for cash on the side. That's not very dignified.

You sound like a reasonably intelligent woman, and I think it's a shame because I think you could be better than that.

Reply 58

Riderz

Reems

It's illegal to advertise escorts.

No its not. Its illegal to advertise sex, but what do you think "massage parlours" "escorts" and the like do? Those adverts are legal, everyone knows what they mean, but they are well within the law.

Anyway, OP, its your choice. I would tell your bf, even if you dont love him he will find out eventually and is much less likely to want to keep it to himself than your best mate. If a partner of yours was sleeping with other people for money would you really be too concerned about telling people what he did......? Just be sensible and safe. Its your life, and you only get one of them, so enjoy it while you can.

Reply 59

Jose1989

Dream Weaver

just keep doing what you are doing, it is no ones business but yours.

I can't help but agree with this comment. But at the same time I don't feel that you should lower yourself for money. You'll end up with low self esteem and a bad view of men (probably). What's stopping you from getting a..different job which doesn't involve you effectively selling yourself (just out of interest, I promise I'm not judging). If you had a job at a pub say, yeah it'd be less money but you'd meet people and remain faithful to your boyfriend. :smile: