lump in me armpit, 2, my boyfriend

You kind of answered your own question

wat do u mean? he knows i love him, and he stopped loving me because of my past, well he said he did and then he said he wasnt sure.

my other problem is my boyfriend has broken up with me, due to mistakes i made in the past before id even met him, how can i persuade him to get back with me?? i love him so much

stay friends with him, and he might want to go back out with you again

He needs to accept that you have a past....everybody does. If he can't accept that then he's being very unreasonable in my opinion. As for the lump, I should head down to the Dr to put your mind at ease. It could just be a gland.

thats what i tried to explain to him, no1 has a perfect past. but my past is kinda at present because b4 i met him i fooled around with two of his mates... yeah not a great idea but o wel its been done now, and he cudnt really get over that, and theres NOTHING i can do to change that

What do you mean by fooling around?

Personally I understand his attitude. He likes to think you're all his and that you're as close as possible. Having the image of you fooling around with his buddies is not an enjoyable one, trust me. You can hope that he will get over it but his attitude is totally understandable. Plus he's a guy, we think a lot differently about intimacy.

yeah i do understand it. but the only thing he can do is get over it. and if he dont then it feels like im not worth it. maybe im not.
wat do u mean guys think differently about intimacy. fool around as in did more than kiss.

Well something like this can destroy how he feels attracted to you. When I had a little break with a girlfriend, she ended up "fooling around" a lot for the few weeks we were apart (I had to go back to Europe for the Summer). When I got back (she didn't know I was coming back), she cried her eyes out when she realised what she'd done. I tried to get over it, to forgive her but that's it: actions have consequences. I no longer felt attracted to her. What had happened had made me feel sick.

Maybe if my feelings had been stronger in the first place, I might have got over it more easily, but still it would have changed so much. It really damages the relationship.

In your case, it happened with friends of his which makes it a lot worse because it seems closer and it probably is more apparent in his mind.

He probably feels different about you now. You can't change much about that and only hope. His attitude is totally justified. You're the one who did the mistakes.

she didn't make any mistakes...she fooled around with them before she met him! It's not like she could have known how stuff was going to work out with her current (ex?!) bf.

Well something like this can destroy how he feels attracted to you. When I had a little break with a girlfriend, she ended up "fooling around" a lot for the few weeks we were apart (I had to go back to Europe for the Summer). When I got back (she didn't know I was coming back), she cried her eyes out when she realised what she'd done. I tried to get over it, to forgive her but that's it: actions have consequences. I no longer felt attracted to her. What had happened had made me feel sick.

Maybe if my feelings had been stronger in the first place, I might have got over it more easily, but still it would have changed so much. It really damages the relationship.

In your case, it happened with friends of his which makes it a lot worse because it seems closer and it probably is more apparent in his mind.

He probably feels different about you now. You can't change much about that and can only hope that some of his feelings will come back. His attitude is totally justified. You're the one who made the mistakes.

That's why you don't fool around with simply everybody if you don't want things like this to happen. This affects the way guys feel. Intimacy is different for guys than for girls and you have to accept that. It's not like the guy has a list of criteria of what's right and wrong and can reach a verdict and because it happened before, it's not so bad, so we take away a few negative points... It affects how he feels. It's not something he has any control over.

To think you can just fool around, sleep around with everybody and think that it will have no consequences in the future, is ridiculous and indicates real immaturity. If you think that way, you're not ready to be intimate with people.