My interracial relationship is still a problem

I think Nige was making an assumption, given the thread title. It's what I assumed. However, they are still ignorant and prejudiced in my opinion if it's about the lifestyle.

Reply 23

For some reason black woman/white guy is quite rare. I have no idea why though.

Reply 24

Vienna

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NDGAARONDI

For some reason black woman/white guy is quite rare. I have no idea why though.

Because, in general, black women believe black men to be make better spouses. Whites being the majority, you are more likely to find a white woman breaking with the trend among other white women, than black women towards white men. Testosterone levels are also higher in black women than white women which may also suggest that they are attracted by males with higher testosterone levels than white women.

Reply 25

Vienna

Because, in general, black women believe black men to be make better spouses. Whites being the majority, you are more likely to find a white woman breaking with the trend among other white women, than black women towards white men. Testosterone levels are also higher in black women than white women which may also suggest that they are attracted by males with higher testosterone levels than white women.

Thanks for that. I am aware that black women are least likely to marry outside of their own group as I found out via the Office for National Statistics. :smile:

Reply 26

Student_Bum

NDGAARONDI

For some reason black woman/white guy is quite rare. I have no idea why though.

actually, I think its rising. The media however, always take it from white girl/black man stereotype so its less though of.

"Imagine if his family and friends were saying derogatory things about you behind you back. I'm not saying that they are, but I think that in most people's minds, this would be deemed incredibly racist. It confuses me that there are still people in the world who seem to recognise racism less if it's aimed at a white person, because white people are the majority in this country."
That is so true. I dont understand why black people can take the mickey out of white people e.g white chicks (what if the film was called black chicks?)
and it is deemed suitable.
Black comics too do stand up offensive comedy about the "middle class white man"
However if a white person did this, there would be outrage!

Reply 27

Student_Bum

actually, I think its rising. The media however, always take it from white girl/black man stereotype so its less though of.

I think it is rising but very steadily. Might have some cultural issues involved too. The media does blow the white girl/black man out of proportion though.

Reply 28

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englishrose

Imagine if his family and friends were saying derogatory things about you behind you back. I'm not saying that they are, but I think that in most people's minds, this would be deemed incredibly racist. It confuses me that there are still people in the world who seem to recognise racism less if it's aimed at a white person, because white people are the majority in this country.

I know what you mean. But I think it may have something to do with the fact that people find it more acceptable when the majority are being called derogatory names etc rather than the minority. This may perhaps be because it is quite unlikely that a white person will suffer much in this white society if a black person chooses to be ignorant and call him names - I don't know maybe its because most people are more aware that this is simply ********, whereas on the other hand, many people who have never met a black person may take this literally and be prejudiced/discriminate against black people? But I don't think it makes it any less racist though for black people to be doing this. I find it quite hypocritical in many ways and I think it just shows their lack of awareness and unwillingness to socialise with anyone other than their race - they can live in their little bubble and never really have to think.

Personally I think that people who choose not to mix with people of other races, especially when you live in such a multicultural place as London(where I live) are really missing out, although they may not be choosing this intentionally. It really does widen your knowledge and awareness, not just of different cultures, but it makes you reflect on your your own too.

Reply 29

Nina166

I think it just shows their lack of awareness and unwillingness to socialise with anyone other than their race - they can live in their little bubble and never really have to think.

Are they living in the UK then?

Reply 30

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NDGAARONDI

Are they living in the UK then?

Actually they do, as hard as it may be to believe! Many ethnic minorities, especially immigrants like to remain within their ethnic group. Some of them don't really speak english, especially the women, and they never really get to explore any ideas besides their own. This is especially the case in Asian/Muslim communities such as myself(although I am Black). But some people who do speak english, or the White British themselves choose to remain within their own ethnic group. This may not neccessarily be bad, but I think it encourages ignorance about other peoples way of life and culture. In my experience, I have recognised that my preconceived ideas can be very much far from the truth, especially with Indian families and such things like arranged marriage for example.

Reply 31

The Albatross

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I really feel for you, Nina. I'm a white girl going out with a Taiwanese boy, and it's great. We have been very lucky in that our families accept our choice of partner, and on the whole, see through the racial issue. There was one exception though. My grandma was somewhat prejudiced, thinking that he was probably only after British nationality, or just wasn't good enough for me generally, but when she met him, it all changed. She realised what an amazing, kind, honest person he is, and now is really happy that i'm seeing him

Have your family/friends met your boyf, or are they just makinga ssumptions? Maybe if they meet him they'll realise how different he is from their assumptions, and think again.

Reply 32

Nina166

Actually they do, as hard as it may be to believe!

I dislike that. If you move to a country like the UK you're going to have to change (not you personally).

Reply 33

MC

Nina166

So I guess I will try to make them understand if it even comes to it. I guess right now I'll just see how it goes, my freinds will just have to lump it in this case!

But is that really a sacrifice you're willing to make?

Don't get me wrong, you should openly embrace and stand your ground for the views you hold, however, at the same time, a little realism goes a long way. Say you decide to tell your friends/family to "lump it", and a few weeks/months down the line this guy breaks up with you (or vice versa). What will be left of your relations with your friends and family who have been close to you and supported you through everything?

You need to remember, that whilst you make your views clear to those around you, your shouldn't jeopordise your future relations, for something which may not even work out. How do you know, you may even end up marrying a somalian, of the same tribe no less.

Reply 34

SamTheMan

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Mad Caddie

How do you know, you may even end up marrying a somalian, of the same tribe no less.

Wouldn't that be like incest?

Reply 35

AwakenedOne

Nina166

I am a Somali/Black.!

Hmm may I ask, what half of you is black and where that half originates...?

Reply 36

MC

SamTheMan

Wouldn't that be like incest?

Um, no! There could be hundreds if not thousands of people in any particular tribe. It would only be incest if the person was a family member, ie. brother/sister. :smile:

Reply 37

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jason8857

Hmm may I ask, what half of you is black and where that half originates...?

Erm, Just that some people may not know where Somalia is, is all! And if I had just said "I'm black", I don't think it would have done justice to a whole bunch of other things such as my culture, nationality etc, which is another important factor in all this.

Reply 38

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jason8857

Hmm may I ask, what half of you is black and where that half originates...?

Erm, just that some people may not know where Somalia is, is all! And if I had just said "I'm black", I don't think it would have done justice to a whole bunch of other things such as my culture, nationality etc, which is another important factor in all this. Sorry for the misunderstaning!

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OP