Accommodation woes - help me, my fellow future Bristolians!

This should be on H&R maybe but I think you guys can help more :smile:

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I applied to CHH aaages ago cos i loved it etc. The problem is, I made the mistake of telling one of my 'close friends' who happens to also be going to Bristol. I didn't think anything of it, she was gonna go in self catered anyway, and I made a huge point of asking her nicely not to apply there (she said she didn't really like it anyway) cos my independence at uni is reeeally important to me and it's the smallest hall.

So, you can guess what she did. A few months later she did the form (at the last minute) and swanned in asking me again where i'd applied. I said "CHH, remember I told you before?". She replied "Oh yeah...", so I asked her where she'd decided in the end. After going through a whole thing of "nah I'm not gonna tell you, you'll just get annoyed", she admitted that yes, she had put CHH down as well, God knows why.

She's been drifting apart from our group anyway cos she's always getting really angry with us and it's actually quite scary, she acts so innocent. So she started shouting at me saying "well I'm sorry I'm soo offensive to you Ciara!!". I actually managed not to lose my temper, just said "that's not really the point tho.." and left it at that. But secretly I'm a bit concerned, particularly as we've been getting on even worse recently. Is there anything I can do, other than pray we don't both get in?? :frown:

Cxx (sorry it's long)

Reply 1

midloon

Theres gonna be loads of people there. Chances of you getting rooms next door are slim, thats if you both get in! Its not the end of the world though. Chances are you'll meet different groups of people and not see eachother for terms at a time! But I dont think that its fair of you to have a go at her. She may have started to like the place after researching it. Or is scared of becoming independent. In which case she probably wants you to be there to support her while she settles in and make new friends? Either way i think once you get there its not gonna bother you in the slightest as you'll be so busy making new friends!

University of Bristol

Bristol

Reply 2

Arminius

i think its easier to mix with a bunch of new people if you don't have current freinds standing buy and judging you. Well, i do anyway :confused:

*when i say judging, i mean i find it easier to get on with people as i can present a different side of myself than i do to my current freinds*

In this respect, i think its a good idea to try and keep a little bit apart. So if she delibarely "followed" you into CHH then i understand why you might be a bit peeved. However if she applied on its own merits thats fine, she has as much right to choose there as you.

TBH, you aren't certain to be put into the same hall, and even if you are there should be plenty of other people around so that you aren't forced into socialising. Perhaps having an extra freind there may turn out to be a good thing?

Reply 3

shavenwookiee

Yea, I'd chill about it... Halls are big (even the smaller ones) and just because shes living near you doesnt mean you need to socialise with her.

Reply 4

ciara

midloon

As I said I didn't have a go at her in the slightest. There'd be no point. SHE had a go at me, that's why I'm peeved. And there's only about 120 girls which isn't many at all in my view.

Fair enough, she probably is scared of becoming independent, but I am scared of this hindering my chances of making new friends! She's a bit insane, and the only reason I'm annoyed at all is because I heavily suspect she's done it deliberately. :frown:

I have another friend applying there and I don't mind at all, we didn't know each other were applying and it just won't be a problem in the same way. Grr just a bit annoyed!

Cxx

Reply 5

fuglyduckling

Hmmm. That would totally annoy me too. I guess you (assuming you both get in) you could distance yourself from her - say hi and stuff but don't socialise together. OR you could ring up Churchill and give them an ultimatum :wink:

Reply 6

shavenwookiee

Yea, thats another thing, if your *seriously* concerned, give the accomodations officer a call.

Reply 7

ThE_OnE

in that case if sods law decides to play with you, you will end up in CHH in the same flat as your friend :smile:

Reply 8

Phil_D

I think midloon's right. Having this friend nearby won't hinder your chances of making new friends. You'll make new friends whatever the situation.

I have a friend who will be going to Bristol aswell. We've both applied Wills (not because we desperately want to be in the same hall but just because we both really liked the place more than anywhere else) and if we both get in i think that would be great. If we aren't put in the same hall, it won't bother me in the slightest. I think when you enter a new place full of stangers it's always helpful to have someone there you know. But, from my point-of-view, no way is having one old friend in the same hall as me going to stop me making new friends. Who knows? Maybe we'll have the same group of friends. Maybe we'll speak once on first day and then never really see each other again.

Obviously, if your friend is insane, Ciara, then that makes your situation slightly different. If i were you i'd just ignore it for now and only think about the new people you're going to meet... Hopefully, things will go your way and you'll have no worries in Bristol.

Reply 9

Apricot Fairy

Wait until you've both heard about accommodation. If you both get into CHH, then you can panic! Or come and camp out in Durdham with us! :smile:

Reply 10

ciara

Yeah, we both got in :frown:

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Maybe I'm being slightly stupid, but I can't help feeling reeeallly kinda worried about the whole thing. I don't want it to stop us making our own friends. Hmm I guess I have had some previous issues with this girl that make me think it will.

*sob*

Cxx

Reply 11

wednesburywench

what you do is you dont speak to her, you say right to make new friends im not gona contact you in the first 2 weeks atleast, say you want her to respect that n that it dont mean you hate her or anythin. That was you will make your own friends, and once the initial making friends is over then respeak again....2 sets of mates then!

To be honest if you know someone and you hang with them on the first few days you will find it harder to make friends cus you tend just to talk to that friend, being totally alone is much better as you are forced to chat with others.