It takes me too long to cum! (male)
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It takes me too long to cum! (male)**I'm a mature student, currently 23 years old** Dunno what I put when I filled out my profile. Changing it now though**
It takes me too long to ejaculate during sex!
During masturbation I can cum quickly when my body is in a "special position"... I CANNOT use this special position during sex as it is too weird and would definitely kill the mood. Also, this position is not for two people, it only makes sense for masturbatory purposes. (I hope you can understand this)
I saw a documentary where some women find it extremely difficult to orgasm. And one woman could only orgasm when her legs were crossed in a special way close to her body. I have a similar thing, but I'm a guy. I cannot cum if my legs are straight either... It is definitely odd.
During sex:
It takes me a *minimum* of 50 mins to cum. My average is around 1 hour 30 mins.
The longest it has taken is 4 hours.... yes 4 hours of pure sex. The girl said it was good, but it was not much fun for me, tbh. My cock was even damaged after that. No joke. I had some chafes. Not permanent, but it hurt at the time.
Some times I cannot cum at all during sex and I just tell the girl it isn't going to happen.
I cannot cum from a blowjob or handjob, not even close. So I had to decline them all of my life.
I cannot cum from doggy style or the woman on top either.
I can ONLY cum from *hard* missionary position sex....
Oh and perhaps the worst thing. I cannot cum at all if I wear a condom
Because of this I stopped having sex with girls. It is too embarrassing and anxiety provoking, as I am afraid if I cannot cum during sex; the girl may think it is her fault or something. I have only had sex with one girl. My sex drive is very high though.
I will start university this September and I think I would want to have sex with a girl. I have not had sex for 5 years now and I'm even masturbating twice per day, everyday of the week.
I don't know what to do. It is quite bad.
Does anyone have any serious advice?Last edited by Inspironie; 20-07-2010 at 18:32. -
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Re: It takes me too long to cum! (male)Umm....(Original post by Inspironie)
It takes me too long to ejaculate during sex!
Not only during sex. It takes me a long time to cum when masturbating and I can only cum when my body is in a "special position"... I CANNOT use this special position during sex as it is too weird and would definitely kill the mood. Also, this position is not for two people, it only makes sense for masturbatory purposes. (I hope you can understand this)
I saw a documentary where some women find it extremely difficult to orgasm. And one woman could only orgasm when her legs were crossed in a special way close to her body. I have a similar thing, but I'm a guy. I cannot cum if my legs are straight either... It is definitely odd.
During sex:
It takes me a *minimum* of 50 mins to cum. My average is around 1 hour 30 mins.
The longest it has taken is 4 hours.... yes 4 hours of pure sex. The girl said it was good, but it was not much fun for me, tbh. My cock was even damaged after that. No joke. I had some chafes. Not permanent, but it hurt at the time.
Some times I cannot cum at all during sex and I just tell the girl it isn't going to happen.
I cannot cum from a blowjob or handjob, not even close. So I had to decline them all of my life.
I cannot cum from doggy style or the woman on top either.
I can ONLY cum from *hard* missionary position sex....
Oh and perhaps the worst thing. I cannot cum at all if I wear a condom
Because of this I stopped having sex with girls. It is too embarrassing and anxiety provoking, as I am afraid if I cannot cum during sex; the girl may think it is her fault or something. I have only had sex with one girl. My sex drive is very high though.
I will start university this September and I think I would want to have sex with a girl. I have not had sex for 5 years now and I'm even masturbating twice per day, everyday of the week.
I don't know what to do. It is quite bad.
Does anyone have any serious advice? -
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Re: It takes me too long to cum! (male)lololol.(Original post by Inspironie)
It takes me too long to ejaculate during sex!
Not only during sex. It takes me a long time to cum when masturbating and I can only cum when my body is in a "special position"... I CANNOT use this special position during sex as it is too weird and would definitely kill the mood. Also, this position is not for two people, it only makes sense for masturbatory purposes. (I hope you can understand this)
I saw a documentary where some women find it extremely difficult to orgasm. And one woman could only orgasm when her legs were crossed in a special way close to her body. I have a similar thing, but I'm a guy. I cannot cum if my legs are straight either... It is definitely odd.
During sex:
It takes me a *minimum* of 50 mins to cum. My average is around 1 hour 30 mins.
The longest it has taken is 4 hours.... yes 4 hours of pure sex. The girl said it was good, but it was not much fun for me, tbh. My cock was even damaged after that. No joke. I had some chafes. Not permanent, but it hurt at the time.
Some times I cannot cum at all during sex and I just tell the girl it isn't going to happen.
I cannot cum from a blowjob or handjob, not even close. So I had to decline them all of my life.
I cannot cum from doggy style or the woman on top either.
I can ONLY cum from *hard* missionary position sex....
Oh and perhaps the worst thing. I cannot cum at all if I wear a condom
Because of this I stopped having sex with girls. It is too embarrassing and anxiety provoking, as I am afraid if I cannot cum during sex; the girl may think it is her fault or something. I have only had sex with one girl. My sex drive is very high though.
I will start university this September and I think I would want to have sex with a girl. I have not had sex for 5 years now and I'm even masturbating twice per day, everyday of the week.
I don't know what to do. It is quite bad.
Does anyone have any serious advice?
err but no, I don't have any serious advice.
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Re: It takes me too long to cum! (male)A lot of it is in the mind, I'd think. You worry too much, think you need loads of time and because of this you can't cum sooner.
Maybe you need to try kinkier sex. :P Worked for me.
Also, try not masturbating so much, you've probably desensitized yourself. -
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Re: It takes me too long to cum! (male)You gonna be blind by the time you start uni if you carry on like that.(Original post by Inspironie)
It takes me too long to ejaculate during sex!
Not only during sex. It takes me a long time to cum when masturbating and I can only cum when my body is in a "special position"... I CANNOT use this special position during sex as it is too weird and would definitely kill the mood. Also, this position is not for two people, it only makes sense for masturbatory purposes. (I hope you can understand this)
I saw a documentary where some women find it extremely difficult to orgasm. And one woman could only orgasm when her legs were crossed in a special way close to her body. I have a similar thing, but I'm a guy. I cannot cum if my legs are straight either... It is definitely odd.
During sex:
It takes me a *minimum* of 50 mins to cum. My average is around 1 hour 30 mins.
The longest it has taken is 4 hours.... yes 4 hours of pure sex. The girl said it was good, but it was not much fun for me, tbh. My cock was even damaged after that. No joke. I had some chafes. Not permanent, but it hurt at the time.
Some times I cannot cum at all during sex and I just tell the girl it isn't going to happen.
I cannot cum from a blowjob or handjob, not even close. So I had to decline them all of my life.
I cannot cum from doggy style or the woman on top either.
I can ONLY cum from *hard* missionary position sex....
Oh and perhaps the worst thing. I cannot cum at all if I wear a condom
Because of this I stopped having sex with girls. It is too embarrassing and anxiety provoking, as I am afraid if I cannot cum during sex; the girl may think it is her fault or something. I have only had sex with one girl. My sex drive is very high though.
I will start university this September and I think I would want to have sex with a girl. I have not had sex for 5 years now and I'm even masturbating twice per day, everyday of the week.
I don't know what to do. It is quite bad.
Does anyone have any serious advice?
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Re: It takes me too long to cum! (male)(Original post by Inspironie)
It takes me too long to ejaculate during sex!
Not only during sex. It takes me a long time to cum when masturbating and I can only cum when my body is in a "special position"... I CANNOT use this special position during sex as it is too weird and would definitely kill the mood. Also, this position is not for two people, it only makes sense for masturbatory purposes. (I hope you can understand this)
I saw a documentary where some women find it extremely difficult to orgasm. And one woman could only orgasm when her legs were crossed in a special way close to her body. I have a similar thing, but I'm a guy. I cannot cum if my legs are straight either... It is definitely odd.
During sex:
It takes me a *minimum* of 50 mins to cum. My average is around 1 hour 30 mins.
The longest it has taken is 4 hours.... yes 4 hours of pure sex. The girl said it was good, but it was not much fun for me, tbh. My cock was even damaged after that. No joke. I had some chafes. Not permanent, but it hurt at the time.
Some times I cannot cum at all during sex and I just tell the girl it isn't going to happen.
I cannot cum from a blowjob or handjob, not even close. So I had to decline them all of my life.
I cannot cum from doggy style or the woman on top either.
I can ONLY cum from *hard* missionary position sex....
Oh and perhaps the worst thing. I cannot cum at all if I wear a condom
Because of this I stopped having sex with girls. It is too embarrassing and anxiety provoking, as I am afraid if I cannot cum during sex; the girl may think it is her fault or something. I have only had sex with one girl. My sex drive is very high though.
I will start university this September and I think I would want to have sex with a girl. I have not had sex for 5 years now and I'm even masturbating twice per day, everyday of the week.
I don't know what to do. It is quite bad.
Does anyone have any serious advice?
Maybe you need to try fellas? Or a different girl? -
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Re: It takes me too long to cum! (male)I am fine in my "special position". It is completely physical. It is hard to explain, but basically I can only cum in one position. And that position cannot be used in sex.(Original post by Jinxy)
A lot of it is in the mind, I'd think. You worry too much, think you need loads of time and because of this you can't cum sooner.
Maybe you need to try kinkier sex. :P Worked for me.
Also, try not masturbating so much, you've probably desensitized yourself.
But maybe I am thinking too much anyway...
To Satan: It is not to do with not being turned on enough.
In fact, if in my special position I can cum very quickly... (as is normal for a guy)
But I've been trying other "normal positions" in order to try and "get used to it"... doesn't work though...
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Re: It takes me too long to cum! (male)I don't believe it's just physical, cumming is a VERY mental thing.(Original post by Inspironie)
I am fine in my "special position". It is completely physical.
But maybe I am thinking too much anyway...
To Satan: It is not to do with not being turned on enough. -
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Re: It takes me too long to cum! (male)I'm not as bad as you, but it does take me a while to cum. When I'm in a relationship the things I found helped were:
1. The gf on the pill, this removes the need for condoms.
2. Lots of foreplay, this makes your willy more orgasmic
3. Stopping masturbating. I found that not ******* made my willy far more sensitive, making sex better. -
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Re: It takes me too long to cum! (male)I don't know what age I put on my profile. But I'm 23.(Original post by italienmoose)
So from the age on your profile you've only had sex with one girl and it was when you were 14? It's probably changed a bit since then.
yeah, but I'm also addicted to masturbation. I've tried stopping but just cannot...(Original post by bigfatflanker)
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Poor OP
But I've been trying other "normal positions" in order to try and "get used to it"... doesn't work though...
