Christian dating Muslim: How would you approach this...

I had to redit my post by the way. I mis-read your post. Unfortunately, a Muslim woman cannot marry outside the faith. Tough situation you got here. Can't imagine what it must be like. Thank God you two aren't in love!

Otherwise

My best friends mum married a white guy, and her family stopped speaking to her for like a year. Slowly it got better though. Whether they're strict or not secrecy from parents is very offensive to muslims so they will be in shock or be drastic at first probs, but calm down after

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I j'adore this movie. Looking at that pic, I think I've fallen in love leo with again *sigh*.

Which one was he again?

Anonymous!

I'll try to keep it simple: I'm a Christian guy dating a Muslim girl. My parents know about her and are neutral about the whole situation however, her parents don't know about me. We've been together for over a year now.

How would you guys approach a relationship like this? When would it be best to come out to her parents and tell them what we are? We're both university students.

I will be totally frank with you.

Be prepared for the day she wakes up to her Islaamic obligations, and realises her marriage to you has been invalid, and that she has been committing the sin of fornication for years and her children are illegitimate, and she leaves you.

It happens very often, and when it does, you should be prepared for the massive fallout.

A marriage between a muslim woman and non-muslim man is invalid. As a result, if she ever decides to explore and follow her religion more, she will realise that you are not her husband, and that she has been committing the major sin of fornication with you for many years. Unless you truly embrace Islaam (not doing it to stay married) then she will leave you.

Think of the fact that all her muslim family and friends will think the same of you, and you will be responsible for wrecking her future. She will end up hating you for what you have led her into, and hating her family for the harship they may cause her after doing such an act.

If you actually cared, you would leave her.

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Ooooooor she's not quite so crazy as you so doesn't.

Have you not considered that maybe she's not as firm in faith as you? Or is more liberal and considers the rules may be more fluid? Or she has a different interpretation than you?

You insistence that this blokes muslim gf will eventually leave him, consider any commitments made to him invalid for the simple fact that you listen to different profits and have different spin on your religions, that she'd abandon a man she loves and the children she'd presumably love because of her own personal reawakwning of the batshi crazy parts of her faith is ludicrous. No sir, I think that if you have seen these things happen before then they are the result of cultural issues, pressure from the community and family, and guilt that she chose to do her own thing rather than being yoked to the tired old donkey that all fundamentalist religions preach. Wake up sir, this is a good time, a liberal time, a time when all should be equal, all should be free, all should have opportunities they would only have dreamt of. For the sake of our future, embrace the white man, embrace those of other religions and even of irreligion, embrace the West sir, we aren't bad people. Trust me, if all nations would simply accept each other and help each other then the world would be a better place. Please please learn some basic human tolerance

To the OP - it's been a year, you're clearly serious, assess the situation, determine whether her parents would be receptive to having you as part of the family and tell them if they are. Keeping it secret for longer, which even in a none religious situation would piss off many parents, will only do more harm

I apologise for the soapbox rant, it's 3.40am and tiredness makes me a tad preachy

Ooooooor she's not quite so crazy as you so doesn't.

Have you not considered that maybe she's not as firm in faith as you? Or is more liberal and considers the rules may be more fluid? Or she has a different interpretation than you?

You insistence that this blokes muslim gf will eventually leave him, consider any commitments made to him invalid for the simple fact that you listen to different profits and have different spin on your religions, that she'd abandon a man she loves and the children she'd presumably love because of her own personal reawakwning of the batshi crazy parts of her faith is ludicrous. No sir, I think that if you have seen these things happen before then they are the result of cultural issues, pressure from the community and family, and guilt that she chose to do her own thing rather than being yoked to the tired old donkey that all fundamentalist religions preach. Wake up sir, this is a good time, a liberal time, a time when all should be equal, all should be free, all should have opportunities they would only have dreamt of. For the sake of our future, embrace the white man, embrace those of other religions and even of irreligion, embrace the West sir, we aren't bad people. Trust me, if all nations would simply accept each other and help each other then the world would be a better place. Please please learn some basic human tolerance

To the OP - it's been a year, you're clearly serious, assess the situation, determine whether her parents would be receptive to having you as part of the family and tell them if they are. Keeping it secret for longer, which even in a none religious situation would piss off many parents, will only do more harm

I apologise for the soapbox rant, it's 3.40am and tiredness makes me a tad preachy

Interesting . Was it a second marriage. Or is he your best friends father?.

Anonymous!
When would it be best to come out to her parents and tell them what we are? We're both university students.

I will be totally frank with you.

Be prepared for the day she wakes up to her Islaamic obligations, and realises her marriage to you has been invalid, and that she has been committing the sin of fornication for years and her children are illegitimate, and she leaves you.

It happens very often, and when it does, you should be prepared for the massive fallout.

A marriage between a muslim woman and non-muslim man is invalid. As a result, if she ever decides to explore and follow her religion more, she will realise that you are not her husband, and that she has been committing the major sin of fornication with you for many years. Unless you truly embrace Islaam (not doing it to stay married) then she will leave you.

Think of the fact that all her muslim family and friends will think the same of you, and you will be responsible for wrecking her future. She will end up hating you for what you have led her into, and hating her family for the harship they may cause her after doing such an act.

If you actually cared, you would leave her.

-

Ooooooor she's not quite so crazy as you so doesn't.

Have you not considered that maybe she's not as firm in faith as you? Or is more liberal and considers the rules may be more fluid? Or she has a different interpretation than you?

You insistence that this blokes muslim gf will eventually leave him, consider any commitments made to him invalid for the simple fact that you listen to different profits and have different spin on your religions, that she'd abandon a man she loves and the children she'd presumably love because of her own personal reawakwning of the batshi crazy parts of her faith is ludicrous. No sir, I think that if you have seen these things happen before then they are the result of cultural issues, pressure from the community and family, and guilt that she chose to do her own thing rather than being yoked to the tired old donkey that all fundamentalist religions preach. Wake up sir, this is a good time, a liberal time, a time when all should be equal, all should be free, all should have opportunities they would only have dreamt of. For the sake of our future, embrace the white man, embrace those of other religions and even of irreligion, embrace the West sir, we aren't bad people. Trust me, if all nations would simply accept each other and help each other then the world would be a better place. Please please learn some basic human tolerance

To the OP - it's been a year, you're clearly serious, assess the situation, determine whether her parents would be receptive to having you as part of the family and tell them if they are. Keeping it secret for longer, which even in a none religious situation would piss off many parents, will only do more harm

I apologise for the soapbox rant, it's 3.40am and tiredness makes me a tad preachy

I'd tell her to start acting mature, she's an adult, in an adult relationship- tell her to tell her parents, or drop her tbh. She's clearly not serious and acting rather immature about it..