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Reply 20
I don't know about you but I exercise my right to free speech.
It might be easy to say 'whats so wrong about me offending you' until someone does it else does it toward you perhaps ? For example, a black friend of mine used to make fun of white people a lot during my school days and noone really said anything to him about it. Then, when he overheard a white kid talking about how black people are just jungle barbarians he got offended. The same really applies here i guess ?

There are some things that people can debate on. For example, im more than happy to debate about extremist islam in the UK. However, you will offend me if you say 'muslims in the UK are just terrorists/anti-british' etc.

Its more the manner in which it is said. I am sure that most people would not be offended if the statement said was not intended to be offensive.
Reply 22
Saying something offensive about things people can't change is pretty harsh
I don't care if it is. if it's somebody you dislike, then fine.
Reply 24
Common courtesy? To avoid being regarded as rude and generally disliked?
Reply 25
triptips
Why do we try so hard not to cause people offence?


Because that is how people live to avoid conflicts. It's not just personal matter. The same goes for international affairs.

If you're mean to someone even though you're honest someone will take offence for sure. I doubt you would want to be hated by almost everyone just because you point out everything you think.

Example: do you think it would be right just to come up to black person and say "I don't like you cuz you're black". I think this is sick, even if you don't like black people, just keep it to yourself.

Wanna be honest? Then only say things that won't offend anyone. Or say stuff the way which people won't get the idea you hate them (you want to be hated).
Well it's just the culture isn't it? In some countries it's OK for the server to say "oh but you're rather fat so this won't fit - why don't you find another?" and it's not considered offensive, just a helpful remark. It just so happens that comments like that can be considered offensive here.
jimbo139
Common courtesy? To avoid being regarded as rude and generally disliked?


But people can be unkind. Perhaps a thicker skin is in order.

Besides, the rationale behind this thread is BS lol. In essence, this guy is saying he has a right to abuse people. Yeah, it's my right to punch my neighbour in the face and drive my car into pedestrians. :yep:
Reply 28
This is very true!
But when you think about it, you can't just go up to a lesbian and say "I don't like the fact that you're gay, I think it's wrong" and expect her to take it light heartedly. There are some things in life you just have to keep shtum about. Like the MS story Fight-or-Flight contributed.

Fair enough, telling someone they're fat can be hurtful, but it's not nearly as serious as the examples mentioned.

IMO it's all to do with political correctness these days, nobody is allowed to say anything to anyone EVER incase it causes offense ><
Reply 29
what does tl;dr mean?
alissasantiago
what does tl;dr mean?


Too long didn't read.
triptips
not for just the sake of it.



Why not for the sake of it? If you call a chav a chav, or a camp looking man a fag, why is this wrong?

but if things ever come up into conversation, you shouldn't be afraid of saying the truth. for example, you talk about fitness or food with someone who's fat - you shouldn't be afraid to say they are fat, if they clearly are fat.


Of course not. it's their own fault if they feel offended.
Reply 32
You know what, go out and always speak your mind to everyone, and see where it gets you. Some people...
you should have said "so sue me" after that.

but seriously thats what people will do if you say those things nowadays, which is why people dont.

plus people are older now. some have guns, some are people in power, some can throw a good punch. if those people happen to have any characteristic that you dislike, and you say it in their face, guess what happens? there's a reason these things are only confined to the schoolyard.
Empathy? Maybe they already know and don't need some pretentious dik'ed telling them
People are too scared incase they insult someone harder than them.
I don't do it since why do I need to? Saying "we did it at school" is BS. At school, I was not the same person, how could I be? I didn't have a get a job, pay my own way, own a car, a house, etc. And I am different mentally also.

I think people who say that people should be the same as in childhood (which is illogical if one thinks about it) probably are those with tiny manhoods and easily intimidated folk.
Reply 37
Fight-or-Flight
well so if you suppose dont like jewish people, you should be honest and tell them about your hatred.

and if you have a mother or father with MS or any other disability, where he/she is dependent on your help and you know how much they are affecting your life, where you can't see your partner, you can't socialise and have much fun, is that alright to tell them YOU ARE RUINING MY LIFE.

or if someone is black, and for any reason you find them not appealing, how about being honest and call them names.
i think its best we are careful with our words and keep our feelings to ourselves.

but just an opinion. maybe you are right.


This. OP, I see what you're saying, and to a point, you are right, but you can take it too far. There's honesty and then there's rudeness. Fine line.
Reply 38
.Ali.
This. OP, I see what you're saying, and to a point, you are right, but you can take it too far. There's honesty and then there's rudeness. Fine line.


Just so you know, I'm disappointed with the pulling down of your Formspring account.

I asked like 7 stupid questions, and now I can't even read the replies.

:mad:
Reply 39
Mann18
Just so you know, I'm disappointed with the pulling down of your Formspring account.

I asked like 7 stupid questions, and now I can't even read the replies.

:mad:


Haha sorry :frown: I was getting ridiculous statements on my page, so i decided to take it off for a while.

Pm them to me if you want to know the answers? :lol: :p:

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