Flattering or offensive?

Wow Slypie your experiences sound a lot like mine (except my bf has never done that...). Why do these old guys think they can get girls our age?!?!! Ewww.

This is mostly for girls, but guys please give your point of view!

I guess my stories from yesterday will help explain:
I was getting some petrol and some lads pulled up at the next pump. The passenger rolled down his window and whistled at me. The driver went in to pay, then came out as I was going to pay, and he went to hold the door open for me, saying "come on gorgeous, can't hold the door open all day" and smiled at me.

I was a bit offended at being whistled at, but the guy opening the door for me was just really sweet and cheered me up.

My second story:
I was driving on the motorway to my boyfriend's, and there was a van with two lads in, and they deliberately went in the lane to my right, just in front of me, with the passenger hanging out the window, keeping pace with me. When I overtook them, the driver then hung out his window (rather dangerous!) and then they kept pace with me again, till I put my foot down properly.

Now this one pissed me off. It was dangerous and I don't appreciate being perved at.

So...my questions are: what are you experiences? Were you offended or flattered? How do you react to it, and how do you rid yourself of unwanted attention? What does your boyfriend think when guys do this?

My boyfriend was a bit pissed off. I totally understand but in a way it's good for him that other guys think his girlfriend is nice-looking! But I had to reassure him that just cos some guys try to chat me up doesn't mean I'm going to run away.

Guys: what's your reaction when this happens to your girlfriend?

haha... Well he mentioned that he was "very rich" and had "many cars." Thus he wanted to compensate for his age with money, which is uh very nice of him. (His son was actually older than me...)

do girls find it offensive if a guy approaches them i.e in a bar and then compliments them about their physical appearance

Lauren, I think you should get over yourself, and stop posting threads explaining how guys fancy you and it's all a big problem, when really you're very flattered and happy and you like the fact that your bf gets jealous, which is the truth. And also, to understand that your attitude in general will always lead to suspicion from your bf, understandably. Yes, you're attractive, get over it, doesn't mean you're God's gift either. Your 'OMG, guys think I'm hot and I get attention, poor me, why can't it stop!' notions are very...up yourself.

I hate dudes like that.The behaviour of some guys is just disgusting.When it happens to me I either ignore it,tell them to get lost or give them a really evil look.

Lauren, I think you should get over yourself, and stop posting threads explaining how guys fancy you and it's all a big problem, when really you're very flattered and happy and you like the fact that your bf gets jealous, which is the truth. And also, to understand that your attitude in general will always lead to suspicion from your bf, understandably. Yes, you're attractive, get over it, doesn't mean you're God's gift either. Your 'OMG, guys think I'm hot and I get attention, poor me, why can't it stop!' notions are very...up yourself.

Again with the rudeness. I got your other post edited because I didn't think it was fair to call me a "bitch" and now you are telling me to "piss off"? Have I said anything rude to you?

If I knew it would upset you this much, I wouldn't have mentioned it. I just remembered that there had been an incident which may have led to your bf getting more worried than normal and so thought that might be relevant. If it isn't, then I'm sorry and I'm glad things got sorted out.

My intention was never to make you feel bad. I thought it was relevant so maybe it was bad judgement on my behalf as it's something you are still sensitive about. But there was no need for you to say such rude things.

Rudeness? The swear filter doesn't allow "rudeness". At any rate, attempts at snide malicious comments are your speciality. Sort yourself out before having a go at others.

And please note, just in case you have problems understanding English, I said you are BEING a bitch, and you are right now. For some reason, you got something against me (just look at the Cambridge forum) and I think perhaps you should explain why.

This is completely irrelevant to the thread, but for those of you who are getting involved, I sat my bf down last night and made him tell me the truth. He said it was really hard getting over it, but he got over it a while ago, and now he loves me. I know it's possible to get over it, because I've got over a kind of similar thing that he's done. We both got upset but now we're even closer. So this is proof that getting back together doesn't just happen with celebrities.

Seriously,how ever much your boyfriend tells u he is over it, it is impossible, you and ure boyf might be the happiest people in the world right now, but doesnt mean that he has forgotten bout it. Ever thought he said it to make you happy? i dont know but anythin like that u cant be completely over.

Lauren u seem to really like arguing, listen to what people are saying on this thread its for advice if people give u advice u dont like, its simple dont post it.

I wasn't asking for advice on this issue. Some people just decided to give it. I don't need advice on it because it's sorted.

Look Willey, I don't like arguing, and in fact I agree with you. I don't think he could ever be over it, and I beat myself up every day over it. However, he tells me he's over it; whenever I bring it up, and say how bad I feel, he always reassures me. It took a while for him to say that. He wasn't over it for a while; he didn't start saying this straight away. Because I trust him, I have no option but to believe him.

I wasn't asking for advice on this issue. Some people just decided to give it. I don't need advice on it because it's sorted.

Look Willey, I don't like arguing, and in fact I agree with you. I don't think he could ever be over it, and I beat myself up every day over it. However, he tells me he's over it; whenever I bring it up, and say how bad I feel, he always reassures me. It took a while for him to say that. He wasn't over it for a while; he didn't start saying this straight away. Because I trust him, I have no option but to believe him.

No, I'm not "posting threads about how guys fancy me". This happens to all girls. Look at the amount of real replies this has had. At any rate, you haven't seen a picture of me, so how would you know what I look like? And even if you have seen a picture, how do you know it's actually me? I could be a fat moose for all you know. And if you could actually read you would see I'm talking about guys who do this to every female who walks past.

Edit: I just noticed you think I'm happy about this. Would I post a question asking how to make it stop if I was happy? Ffs. *Shakes head*. I give up.

You're telling me that every girl recieves the same attention? Shock, horror, but attractive girls recieve this attention.

And yes you are happy about this. I don't see how you'd be unhappy with comments/whistles etc. implying they're attracted to you. Infact, 99.9% of women will enjoy that.

So, hold on, if guys walking up to you and saying "hi" is offensive, how is anybody suppose to go out with anybody? Obviously there is a clear distinction between arse-pinching and merely being forward, but I get the impression from this thread that you girls would rather not be approached by any guys at all.