UnI making me a lonely and private person!

I know how you feel OP. I've only been at uni 3 weeks and I already feel like this.

I love talking to people and having fun, i'm also quite a loud type of person. But since getting to uni, i've been very private, very distant, very quiet I don't know what's happening to me!

oh dear, i feel u - i hope things get better for you i mean 3 weeks in and already feeling like this sounds like a nightmare brewing to me. the best thing which has worked for me is to remain strong - its defo helped me to remain an active participant in lectures, this has helped me to regain my confidence and not let the situation interfere with my learning expereince. i always remind myself why im at uni in the fist place, making friends wasn't the reason it was to study.

This is an excellent point! I'll make sure I remember that.

I've been like this my whole life - ask if you need advice on how to stay sane.

what tips can you giv? and do you mean you were always like this even before uni because see thats the problem here, i wasnt always like this. its the feeling of snatching candy from a kid as they say, if u know what i mean. im just glad ive been able to remain firm in my studies

Welcome to my world

Why is it like taking candy from a baby? You aren't meant to be either of them - the person you were before and after you went to uni, they're both you. You can be that person again if you want to be.

i suppose thats true, buts it feels like im having to put in extra effort just to stick in there. i honestly feel like uni has destroyed my character - so how did u cope are u still at uni?

thanks all you guys for posting im clearly not on alone

I cope very easily, but like I say, I've always been like it. It comes from my childhood (only child, lived miles away from any school friends, family are all much older than me,) so I have had nearly twenty years to get used to it.

The key, I think, is occupying your mind and time with other things. There are plenty of activities that you can enjoy by yourself (yes, masturbation, what a clever person you are ), but it's when you're just thinking of everyone else off, being social, that it gets you down that you're not. If you're out fishing, it doesn't.

You aren't I'm pretty similar too