Okay, you may remember I posted here a while back about being really unhappy at uni...well, things are getting better now and I really like this guy who apparently likes me too, according to his friends...so people are trying to set us up.
The thing is, I was sexually abused and almost raped quite recently, and I have a lot of problems, especially with sex and trusting guys. Don't get me wrong, this guy is really sweet and would never hurt me, but I just tense up whenever anyone comes near me even platonically.
I can see so many reasons why it's a bad idea to get into a relationship but I feel really attracted to him - to be cliched, my head says no and my heart says yes.
So my first question is, should I follow head or heart?
The second one is this: my ex and I broke up in March, basically because I was keeping all this from him and being very hard to live with. I think anyone I'm going out with deserves to know this stuff about my past because it obviously upsets me at times, but how do you tell someone something like that, and when?
I don't want to be alone for the rest of my life; I know I need to get out there and start dating again to get close to guys and try and get over the past. I'm just not sure how to do it without hurting anyone, either by scaring them or keeping things from them.
As ever, advice would be really appreciated!