Do you like being approached by guys in the daytime?

Really, I would like to know how many guys here have been rejected in the daytime and for what reasons? I feel like most people are just making up excuses because they don't dare to talk to strangers. I have approached guys in the daytime. By that I mean talking etc. and not that I straight away ask anyone out. It's just talking so I don't think it's scary. Nothing is as nice as a warm smile and a conversation with someone who is putting some effort in the conversation (which means, I don't like when the only answers I get are "umm, I guess", "yeah", "no...")

You only want them to approach you to boost your ego, to know someone came to you because of an attraction

Thus thread is about guys asking girls out and getting there numbers, anyone can talk to a stranger...so stop talking as if you've acomplished something

Of course, it's an ego boost, but I think the problem is that British people (in general....although i'm wary of saying that) are afraid to make the first move, and therefore no-one does.
If a guy came up to me and told me I was the most amazing guy he'd ever seen, It would make my day. And I'd feel more respect for him because he's open and confident enough to just go out and say it.

It's frustrating when the other sex talk about us if we're failed Gladiators. They have no right to judge what is weird, strange or nerves when it comes to this because that bloke who approached them did something the vast majority of them couldn't even be comprehend thinking about let alone actually doing it.



How often do you go out your way to make such an announcement to complete strangers then? Or is the criticism of people in this country unable doing that, only apply when they fail to do this to us?

You've approached guys just to have a chat or get their number? One of the difficult parts about this for guys is that when you approach a girl it immediately becomes obvious to everyone, including her, that you're courting her. The fact that she knows it and you're there to get her number. When you're approaching someone at campus or school, it is easier because you'll see them often and so you can just make an impression and introduce yourself the first time. But when it's someone outside, someone you won't see again, you throw the dice. And naturally, girls aren't comfortable in giving you their details unless you completely bewitch them. Most guys aren't capable of such impressive feats, and so you have a terrible walk of retreat to endure. Rejections aren't a result of him, but the environment also. However, you can't always choose your time or place and this is the most common example; guys who are acting weird or 'do it wrong' doesn't mean they are creeps, but simply took a gamble. In anything, it shows their courage to even attempt an embarrassing approach.

From a personal point of view, I hope the girl isn't the type to just give her number after being sweet talked by what seems like a nice guy. He doesn't want your number to exchange nail painting tips, so she should try to know the guy far more before she chooses to give him a platform like a phone number. Maybe some guys think the same in this regard and don't want to ask for her number yet but just want to know her. But when shes a random girl on the street, how do you do that? You can't. Hence why some don't approach. If you were a regular somewhere they visited often, you'll then see them approach (which is why things liek that happen in gathering locations more commonly e.g. library, cafeteria, bus stop etc)

Thus thread is about guys asking girls out and getting there numbers, anyone can talk to a stranger...so stop talking as if you've acomplished something

That's the problem with UK men, they can only approach girls when they're drunk or via the internet. I think actually most girls would be chuffed for a guy to approach them in the daytime, as it happens so rarely...as long as he's not creepy etc.

You should deffo give it a go!

Why so aggressive? Guys come to girls's threads and so on. I just think it's stupid to have one goal, to get their number. If the girl can't enjoy the conversation, why would they give you their number? Would you give your number to someone who you haven't talked to at all?

Why so aggressive? Guys come to girls's threads and so on. I just think it's stupid to have one goal, to get their number. If the girl can't enjoy the conversation, why would they give you their number? Would you give your number to someone who you haven't talked to at all?

I know I said I would end this discussion, but the reason i think we desagreed is because we have different ideas about what this thread is about. You think it's just about talking in general and having a casual conversation, whereas I and a lot of others think it's about appraching girls because you would like to get to know them and get their phone number etc.

Here is a post by the OP which suggests this thread is about exchanging phone numbers
"Well approach a girl who is on her own then, or 2 girls at the very most! Avoid big groups/packs of girls!

As for advice on how to approach...just be friendly and confident and charming...NOT weird or creepy. Oh and be DIRECT, i.e. don't beat around the bush with your intentions. We girls hate it when a guy uses an excuse to approach us, for example pretending he wants to know the time or directions etc. It just makes you looks so stupid and spineless. Just tell her you think she's attractive and ask if she wants to meet up some time. Introduce yourself, it's not difficult.

Oh and don't STARE at us. Actually APPROACH us. Staring makes it look like you fancy us but are too scared to approach, which is a turn off.

Oh and don't stick around too long trying to make conversation. We're usually in hurry/got places to go etc. Exchange numbers and be on your way"

BTW do you agree with this, It feels like i'd have to follow requirments and a strict set of rules when talking to girls

I would have tremendous respect for one that tried it. If a girl were to genuinely approach a guy she liked to get his number, the amount of psychological and cultural barriers she would have to break to reach that point would turn every man's head and that guy who was approached would be the envy of the room. Whereas a guy courting a girl could mean anything in terms of his motive, a girl who approaches a guy signals serious intent, and dare I say it, a romantic.

yes! I GOT ASKED OUT ON THE TRAIN!

I was meant to make a thread on it but then I forgot

On the train? Geez, every train I go on people are sat in silence looking miserable, NOT TALKING to anyone. How did that happen? Did you exchange numbers?

So, what girl doesn't want to be desired? It's flattering when a guy has the guts to approach you and compliment you!

American guys are way more willing to do this in my experience. In Britain, I almost never have random conversations with people (other than mentalists, and London Lite distributors).

I can't stand guys (and girls) who stare at you without talking to you - it's really rude. I think it's a form of subtle bullying.

We need a campaign to encourage more random chatting in Britain...