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Im struggling to make friends at Liverpool Uni.

Hey all, just reached the christmas holidays of my first year, and find myself feeling less forward to returning to uni after realised I don't have any friends there.
I do talk to and get along with my flatmates, but noone is likeminded or friendly to me, its more just being civil.
At university, i'm too shy to talk to anyone on my course, and by now most people have already found their groups of friends and tend to exclude outsiders.
I'm not big on going on nights out, and it's hard not to feel a bit lonely, especially when everyone else in your flat, and the hundreds on your course all seem to have found friends.
Basically, any advice??
Oh if you want to know anything else like the course or whatever, just say :P

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Reply 1
What course are you on?
Students in Lecture Theatre, University of Liverpool
University of Liverpool
Liverpool
Reply 2
Original post by Jammied
Hey all, just reached the christmas holidays of my first year, and find myself feeling less forward to returning to uni after realised I don't have any friends there.
I do talk to and get along with my flatmates, but noone is likeminded or friendly to me, its more just being civil.
At university, i'm too shy to talk to anyone on my course, and by now most people have already found their groups of friends and tend to exclude outsiders.
I'm not big on going on nights out, and it's hard not to feel a bit lonely, especially when everyone else in your flat, and the hundreds on your course all seem to have found friends.
Basically, any advice??
Oh if you want to know anything else like the course or whatever, just say :P


that's your problem, we can't help you socialize, help yourself.
Reply 3
Original post by Trolper
What course are you on?


A combined honours in Biochemistry & Genetics, so basically on the main biological sciences modules ATM
Reply 4
Why dont you try going to societies that interest you? That way you can meet and socialise with people while doing something you find interesting.
Reply 5
Original post by Jammied
Hey all, just reached the christmas holidays of my first year, and find myself feeling less forward to returning to uni after realised I don't have any friends there.
I do talk to and get along with my flatmates, but noone is likeminded or friendly to me, its more just being civil.
At university, i'm too shy to talk to anyone on my course, and by now most people have already found their groups of friends and tend to exclude outsiders.
I'm not big on going on nights out, and it's hard not to feel a bit lonely, especially when everyone else in your flat, and the hundreds on your course all seem to have found friends.
Basically, any advice??
Oh if you want to know anything else like the course or whatever, just say :P


Hey, I'm from Liverpool, hoping to be in the Uni next year :smile: (if all goes well with UCAS)

but I'm in the uni alot as I work in the LGOS just as extra help, and everyone is lovely! Though I only know a few people personally from biosciences, they're all lovely so just try to talk to people you don't know.. everyone's in the same boat.

Where abouts are you living? x
Reply 6
I'm living in a place called Marybone, 'cause I couldn't get into any University halls that were self catered, and i think this may be a part of the problem, as i've heard uni halls are a lot more sociable and hold more events etc...
Anyways, i guess a new year is a fresh start :smile:
Reply 7
Yeahh I know there, by the flyover. Idon'tknow although you're not in halls you're a lot closer to town than carnatic etc.
but yeah New Year, try and be socialthen :smile:!
Reply 8
Hi, I'm salma studying architecture at Liverpool. I totally understand what ur feeling, I really don't feel like going back to uni simply coz I miss home so much as iv not made any good friends there. Iv no some ppl in Liverpool now so it's not as bad, but could be better. If u want we could meet up n I could also introduce u to some of my mates. I live in student accom, let me tell I it's really crap, were u live it's a lit better. Anyway hope to hear from u soon. N don't be too disheartened u will hopefully settle in soon. Just email me n u wud have made urself a friend.
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Reply 9
Seriously join some societies/sports clubs. People there will have similar interests to you so you'll have something in common to talk about. I made the majority of my good friends by doing this and we're still in touch even though we've all graduated.
Reply 10
What course are you on?:biggrin:
Im applying for Business
Reply 11
Biochemistry and Genetics, and the course itself is awesome :smile:
Reply 12
Original post by Jammied
Hey all, just reached the christmas holidays of my first year, and find myself feeling less forward to returning to uni after realised I don't have any friends there.
I do talk to and get along with my flatmates, but noone is likeminded or friendly to me, its more just being civil.
At university, i'm too shy to talk to anyone on my course, and by now most people have already found their groups of friends and tend to exclude outsiders.
I'm not big on going on nights out, and it's hard not to feel a bit lonely, especially when everyone else in your flat, and the hundreds on your course all seem to have found friends.
Basically, any advice??
Oh if you want to know anything else like the course or whatever, just say :P


Societies/clubs etc, or just try and make sure you're somewhere good next year. I have a similar problem in that I have a lot of people who I know and can get on with in a large group setting, or whom Im basically courteous with, but whom are all friends with each other rather than specifically with me. I'm in second year and whilst Iv got on a bit more with my house mates this year, I still feel I have mabey 4 friends max who I can actually meet in Liverpool. Message me if you want to go for a pint or something
Trust me... if you're not big on nights out the halls aren't good...
Original post by cadaeibfeceh
Trust me... if you're not big on nights out the halls aren't good...


Disagree completely. The on campus halls are like ghost towns - hardly anyone in on campus halls goes out to bars/clubs. It's mostly quiet international students. The off campus halls are where the party people are at. So yeah, depends what halls you're in.
Hi everyone! I'd just like to ask whether anyone knows what Agnes Jones accommodation is like? I'm a 22 year old female who'll be starting an English post-grad course at Liverpool uni this September. I'm friendly and sociable and looking to make new friends :smile: (as most of mine are still at Manchester uni, haha!) Can anybody recommend any accommodation in particular? Of course with me being 22, it wouldn't necessarily be the best idea to share with first years as there's a bit of an age gap, but any suggestions would be welcome! :smile: Thanks.
Reply 16
I'm sure you can socialise when you join societies :smile: good luck!
Reply 17
Definitely join a sport team or a society as it really helps you interact and socialize with people . and I'm sure you will find friends soon if you join a society .
Original post by somethingbeautiful
Disagree completely. The on campus halls are like ghost towns - hardly anyone in on campus halls goes out to bars/clubs. It's mostly quiet international students. The off campus halls are where the party people are at. So yeah, depends what halls you're in.


That isn't true for all campus halls. I lived in Prospect Point last year and my flat mates went out quite a bit. I wasn't so big on going out during the week as I had a lot of 9am lectures when they didn't, so wouldn't always go with them. None of my flatmates were foreign either.


As for the OP, you've only been at uni for a couple of months. To be honest, I feel a hell of a lot more settled in second year so don't worry too much. People may seem like they've made friends, but it's early days and people are likely to fall our or change groups.

I agree that joining a society can really help as you will be meeting lots of other people and most organise a few nights out or other socials.

Secondly, try to be more confident. Smiling at people and saying 'hi' can make a big difference. If you're working in group or sitting next to someone in a lecture theatre ask them their name, how their getting on etc. You might find that others are willing to chat to you and the more you talk to them the more they are likely to introduce you to their friendship groups etc. If they don't want to talk to you and are rude, it's their loss not yours. Make sure you don't on your own in lectures. Sit with a few different people, chat to them, find out a bit about them etc.

There's plenty of chances to meet new people yet, so please don't be too reluctant to go back to uni. It just takes longer to make friends for some people and that's absolutely fine, I'm sure you'll find some nice people eventually :smile:
Original post by SilverstarDJ
That isn't true for all campus halls. I lived in Prospect Point last year and my flat mates went out quite a bit. I wasn't so big on going out during the week as I had a lot of 9am lectures when they didn't, so wouldn't always go with them. None of my flatmates were foreign either.


As for the OP, you've only been at uni for a couple of months. To be honest, I feel a hell of a lot more settled in second year so don't worry too much. People may seem like they've made friends, but it's early days and people are likely to fall our or change groups.

I agree that joining a society can really help as you will be meeting lots of other people and most organise a few nights out or other socials.

Secondly, try to be more confident. Smiling at people and saying 'hi' can make a big difference. If you're working in group or sitting next to someone in a lecture theatre ask them their name, how their getting on etc. You might find that others are willing to chat to you and the more you talk to them the more they are likely to introduce you to their friendship groups etc. If they don't want to talk to you and are rude, it's their loss not yours. Make sure you don't on your own in lectures. Sit with a few different people, chat to them, find out a bit about them etc.

There's plenty of chances to meet new people yet, so please don't be too reluctant to go back to uni. It just takes longer to make friends for some people and that's absolutely fine, I'm sure you'll find some nice people eventually :smile:


Prospect Point never used to be owned by Liv Uni (I'm not sure if it is now) - it was Liberty Living. I was talking about the university onsite accommodation - Philharmonic/Tudor Close/Mulberry/Melville - all the ones near the Sydney Jones.

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