I dont get horny!! (girl)

Ok, so im over 18 and I hardly ever get horny.
Sometimes if im asleep i have sex dreams and ill have been very horny then
But other than my dreams I just dont get horny. I can see a guy and think ''wow hes hot'' or i can see a girl and stare at her beauty, but i dont get turned on!
My boyfriend does stuff to me and it turns me on sometimes, but a lot of the time I just dont get turned on.
Ive tried masturbating, but even on the odd occasions when i am really horny, if i put my hand down there, it immediately switches off.
And it really frustrates me because everyone around me is like ''im gagging for it'', ''i need sex'' etc etc and then I just NEVER think about it :/
Occassionally I get horny but not very often.
I could go my whole life without sex and wouldnt be bothered (i havent had sex yet). But the thing is, I WANT to be bothered. I want to do what everyone else is doing. Ive done everything up to sex but i just get bored/it hurts/cant be bothered.
Whats wrong with me?

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Reply 1

Ash149

That's very sad. Have you tried watching porn? Seriously, it might give you some ideas...

Reply 2

Hard4rocks

Your boyfiriend is obviously aweful in bed.

Reply 3

Anonymous #2

you should wait for it to happen and not keep searching for it. maybe once you have had sex for the first time, you'll feel differently. once you begin to enjoy it, you'll want it more. you should relax and take your time because everybody is different.

Reply 4

JoeMH

Original post by Hard4rocks

Your boyfiriend is obviously aweful in bed.

Or you lack the ability to read.

Reply 5

member592149

Original post by Hard4rocks

Your boyfiriend is obviously aweful in bed.

..yet they've never even had sex.

Reply 6

Cheesecakefactory

Are you serious?

Getting horny is an obstacle. Everyone needs to satisfy that certain craving somehow, but you don't. Not being able to get horny is a blessing. If you think about it, long term relationships would be much stronger if you didn't require sex, because you'd never get the urge to cheat, and when you have sex it would be all about him, which would make him never want to leave you.

Reply 7

Hard4rocks

Original post by Anonymous

My boyfriend does stuff to me and it turns me on sometimes, but a lot of the time I just dont get turned on.

Original post by JoeMH

Or you lack the ability to read.

Original post by JaggySnake95

..yet they've never even had sex.

Hmmmmm...

Reply 8

roxyqueen2

I often find I'm not so much in the mood, but then when I feel and remember that emotional connection to my partner again I kind of waken up.

Reply 9

Mr Ch Son In Law

Original post by Anonymous

if you havnt had sex yet, why dont you try it and see what happens then, 90% chance it will start to get you turned on

Reply 10

Lola15

I don't think is sad, or abnormal. To be honest, I used to be the same! It's difficult when you feel like everyone else around you is turned on 24/7 but it doesn't mean anything is wrong with you or you should be the same. Sometimes you just need to unlock it. Think about what might be restricting you or holding you back, are you scared? not sure what yu're doing? not feeling 100% comfortable because of how you're feeling? It can be a viscious circle. The best thing to do is relax and work out what works best for you, there's loads of options out there other than just oral/masturbation. Try porn, reading erotic fiction, toys? It's a big learning experience and you might find sex is enjoyable but with the way your feeling it might be difficult to get in the mood or even seem interested in it. Just don't worry, take care :smile:

Reply 11

EJClink_4656

𝒀𝒐𝒖𝒓 the same as my girlfriend I will get her to DM you!You poor thing I really feel for you my girlfriend prefers to play on her phone than have sex with me so get some good apps for the future.Good luck 🍀Ed x

I don't either to be honest, hmm. It's weird.

Reply 14

Deeutiful26

Well we feel the same only that i am married and have kids hes really good in bed but im never horny just want him to finish so i can sleep. I also see attractive people but nothing happens either i do not get turned on i have watched porn and it dont satisfy me either

Reply 15

as125

You're gagging for it

Reply 16

dandymike

Don't beat yourself up about it. You're probably asexual. This means sex is not a big deal for you, that is, you hardly ever get aroused or want to have sex, even though you and your partner have a romantic connection. This is perfectly normal. You don't 'need' sex. Focus on more important things, like your career, or your family.

Reply 17

myaamyaa_

im 17 Years Old With A Daughter Shes 1 Years Old Now And Every since I Had A Baby i dont Get Horny I dont Know If Its Becuz Of My Birth Control I Have An I UD Or If Its Just him or Me but Even If I Watch Porn, Masturbate, or Anything I Just Dont Get Wet Or Horny Like i Ust To Before I Had A Baby.

Reply 18

Wolfhoe

Original post by Anonymous

Ok, so im over 18 and I hardly ever get horny.Sometimes if im asleep i have sex dreams and ill have been very horny thenBut other than my dreams I just dont get horny. I can see a guy and think ''wow hes hot'' or i can see a girl and stare at her beauty, but i dont get turned on!My boyfriend does stuff to me and it turns me on sometimes, but a lot of the time I just dont get turned on.Ive tried masturbating, but even on the odd occasions when i am really horny, if i put my hand down there, it immediately switches off. And it really frustrates me because everyone around me is like ''im gagging for it'', ''i need sex'' etc etc and then I just NEVER think about it :/ Occassionally I get horny but not very often. I could go my whole life without sex and wouldnt be bothered (i havent had sex yet). But the thing is, I WANT to be bothered. I want to do what everyone else is doing. Ive done everything up to sex but i just get bored/it hurts/cant be bothered. Whats wrong with me?

Ever considered you may be pansexual? (Not beliving sex is a must be in your relationship).

Reply 19

drain11

Original post by Anonymous

Maybe just try to let things flow instead of forcing it to happen, i believe you will later find something or someone that is going to turn you on. Just try to let it flow. Good luck.