Why do girls generally HIGHLY sensitive when it comes to weight?
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Original post by Bakerzoid
These are thoughts that I keep to myself and unleash on TSR whenever I'm bored or depressed. Thanks for being concerned anyway.
Internet = Anonymity = being able to say what you think without fear of repercussions.
Personally I wish we were all telepathic, and knew exactly what everyone thought about everything. Rather than tip-toeing around issues.
So I agree with your original post, but in real life you wouldn't have said it, and I wouldn't have come near the issue either. Hoorah for the internet, where we can have more 'real' conversations and be honest!
Original post by Louzilla
True. But once I had a friend (at the time) go on a 5minute rant about how she hated "Those really fat people, especially those who can't shop at topshop", I didn't have the heart to tell her I can't, so I pretended that someone shouted me...awkward.
Oh wow, really awkward. I'm impressed you didn't deck her.
I have really strong views about things. Depending on who you are, you might not want to get into a conversation with me about weight, gender, religion, Royal Mail, fur, vegetarianism, radical feminism, science, Israel, politics etc. because I can and will offend people.
It's quite simple what I need to do though - be careful with it. Only engage in conversation with people who have already started a conversation, therefore have unofficially agreed to let me speak my side. Which is why I disagree with what your friend did to you there. That's uncalled for - if you are going to make a rant about a particular group, you make damn sure you have the person's permission to do so first! It's good that you turned an unfriendly conversation into an awkward conversation, not that she wouldn't have deserved it.
(p.s. it may have looked odd me having 'royal mail' among other massive topics.. but I accidentally offended a housemate a few days ago due to my views on the royal mail. We get on, but he thinks I'm a privileged right-wing prick... lol, I come from a communist family background which kind of rubs off on you
so I think not.)(edited 13 years ago)
it's not THAT easy to loose weight you know. for alot of people it depends on genetics and individual metabolism. girls are sensitive because it affects the way people look at them and as self-righteous as anyone might claim to be, first impressions can only be based on looks. Westernised society puts alot of pressure and emphasis on beautiful women - all of which given examples tend to be ladies that are toned and slim. everyone wants to be attractive and everyone is lead to believe that attractive is slim, whether or not it is = down to opinion. It kinda like asking why men get upset if you say they have a midget willy 
as you could argue that they could just use it better.
as you could argue that they could just use it better.
Original post by Djrulzforever
It's society's fault.
These days we can get drives so small...
...Our porn will never be found.
Women can't compete.
These days we can get drives so small...
...Our porn will never be found.
Women can't compete.
And that is the least convincing fake finger I've ever seen!,
I hate it when people oversimplify fatness to "hurr durr u shudnt eat so much, fatti". It's not that simple.
Genetics influence weight:
http://www.newscientist.com/article/dn19458-chemical-patterns-on-dna-mark-out-obesity-genes.html
And you can get things like leptin deficiencies + putting on weight as a result of stress or medication. Great if you can go to the gym, but not everyone will have the means/time/energy. E.g. the mother of three who comes home from work at six, then has to make the kids tea, then helps them with homework and puts them to bed. By the end of that she's too tired to do anything other than collapse on the sofa and watch TV.
And people who comfort eat do so for emotional reasons like being bullied or feelings of depression/ anger and so on. Generally, this is a vicious cycle (namely, feel rubbish -> eat a lot to deal with it -> feel rubbish -> eat a lot to deal with feeling rubbish).
Oh, and waist to hip ratio is more important in attraction than weight (source- Decoding Love). Apparently it's also really important in susceptibility to disease, sad times.
Genetics influence weight:
http://www.newscientist.com/article/dn19458-chemical-patterns-on-dna-mark-out-obesity-genes.html
And you can get things like leptin deficiencies + putting on weight as a result of stress or medication. Great if you can go to the gym, but not everyone will have the means/time/energy. E.g. the mother of three who comes home from work at six, then has to make the kids tea, then helps them with homework and puts them to bed. By the end of that she's too tired to do anything other than collapse on the sofa and watch TV.
And people who comfort eat do so for emotional reasons like being bullied or feelings of depression/ anger and so on. Generally, this is a vicious cycle (namely, feel rubbish -> eat a lot to deal with it -> feel rubbish -> eat a lot to deal with feeling rubbish).
Oh, and waist to hip ratio is more important in attraction than weight (source- Decoding Love). Apparently it's also really important in susceptibility to disease, sad times.
(edited 13 years ago)
Original post by sarahthegemini
Fat people don't like being told they're fat.
Of course not. Very skinny people don't like being called very skinny. People with less intelligence than the average person, don't like to be called stupid. It's common sense.
Original post by lightburns
Oh wow, really awkward. I'm impressed you didn't deck her.
I have really strong views about things. Depending on who you are, you might not want to get into a conversation with me about weight, gender, religion, Royal Mail, fur, vegetarianism, radical feminism, science, Israel, politics etc. because I can and will offend people.
It's quite simple what I need to do though - be careful with it. Only engage in conversation with people who have already started a conversation, therefore have unofficially agreed to let me speak my side. Which is why I disagree with what your friend did to you there. That's uncalled for - if you are going to make a rant about a particular group, you make damn sure you have the person's permission to do so first! It's good that you turned an unfriendly conversation into an awkward conversation, not that she wouldn't have deserved it.
(p.s. it may have looked odd me having 'royal mail' among other massive topics.. but I accidentally offended a housemate a few days ago due to my views on the royal mail. We get on, but he thinks I'm a privileged right-wing prick... lol, I come from a communist family background which kind of rubs off on you so I think not.)
I have really strong views about things. Depending on who you are, you might not want to get into a conversation with me about weight, gender, religion, Royal Mail, fur, vegetarianism, radical feminism, science, Israel, politics etc. because I can and will offend people.
It's quite simple what I need to do though - be careful with it. Only engage in conversation with people who have already started a conversation, therefore have unofficially agreed to let me speak my side. Which is why I disagree with what your friend did to you there. That's uncalled for - if you are going to make a rant about a particular group, you make damn sure you have the person's permission to do so first! It's good that you turned an unfriendly conversation into an awkward conversation, not that she wouldn't have deserved it.
(p.s. it may have looked odd me having 'royal mail' among other massive topics.. but I accidentally offended a housemate a few days ago due to my views on the royal mail. We get on, but he thinks I'm a privileged right-wing prick... lol, I come from a communist family background which kind of rubs off on you
so I think not.)She's one of those folk who literally say anything/everything on their mind without thinking of consequences. Yeah, it was out of the blue, we were talking and then she said, "You know what I hate? Fat people..." and there was only me and her. Very awkward afterwards.
I won't ask you what you think of Royal mail then. xD
Original post by Luceria
Actually, it's often more difficult for a woman to lose weight. I'm not saying that's an excuse to be "overweight". But in general, it can be more difficult for women. It's not "very easy." It comes down to a lot of things. Biology, evolution and so on. Women are predisposed to store and retain fat. Women have more body fat (especially on the lower body,which is more difficult to get rid off) , men have more muscle etc.
http://www.suite101.com/content/why-cant-i-lose-weight-a110434
http://www.livestrong.com/article/230717-is-it-more-difficult-for-women-to-lose-weight/
http://exercise.about.com/od/weightlossfaqs/f/menandwomen.htm
http://www.suite101.com/content/why-cant-i-lose-weight-a110434
http://www.livestrong.com/article/230717-is-it-more-difficult-for-women-to-lose-weight/
http://exercise.about.com/od/weightlossfaqs/f/menandwomen.htm
Oh God, we getting into the science behind it are we? Bottom line is you'll lose weight by either exercising or cutting down the crap you eat. If you aren't losing weight you're obviously doing something wrong period. It isn't an impossible idea to grasp is it? Blaming genetics, predisposed fat or whatever is stupid. Yes they may work against women to some extent, but they're hardly preventing women from losing any sort of weight.
Put the effort in - you'll lose weight
Don't put the effort in - stfu stop complaining, if you aren't doing anthing about it
Generally people who are overweight who do comfort eat do it out of depression and self hate, so it is a kind of self harm.
Comfort eating and obesity arent things that can be solved by logic. I'm sure obese people would be impressed with all these smart arse comments like "eat less, move more". What if you feel so low and embarrassed about yourself, you dont have the strength to go out and let people see you? If people are making comments all the time about your weight you might not want to go out exercising either.
Having a lot of extra weight on you makes you very lethargic as well, so it's not like you feel you have the energy to do any exercise.
And if you feel so bad about yourself and other's perception about you that you might not have anything in your life (relationships and friendships) that you feel you can hold onto apart from that piece of cake.
I'm not obese now, but I sure understand the struggle with weight as I have been overweight in the past.
It's Psychology more than anything else.
Comfort eating and obesity arent things that can be solved by logic. I'm sure obese people would be impressed with all these smart arse comments like "eat less, move more". What if you feel so low and embarrassed about yourself, you dont have the strength to go out and let people see you? If people are making comments all the time about your weight you might not want to go out exercising either.
Having a lot of extra weight on you makes you very lethargic as well, so it's not like you feel you have the energy to do any exercise.
And if you feel so bad about yourself and other's perception about you that you might not have anything in your life (relationships and friendships) that you feel you can hold onto apart from that piece of cake.
I'm not obese now, but I sure understand the struggle with weight as I have been overweight in the past.
It's Psychology more than anything else.
(edited 13 years ago)
Mostly due to pressure from the media.
This must in some way be related to tradition, because although women are no longer deemed 'male objects', there remains that emphasis on appearance.
Also, girls' wieght tends to vary far more than mens, so they tend to think about it more.
This must in some way be related to tradition, because although women are no longer deemed 'male objects', there remains that emphasis on appearance.
Also, girls' wieght tends to vary far more than mens, so they tend to think about it more.
Original post by MilkyC
Oh God, we getting into the science behind it are we? Bottom line is you'll lose weight by either exercising or cutting down the crap you eat. If you aren't losing weight you're obviously doing something wrong period. It isn't an impossible idea to grasp is it? Blaming genetics, predisposed fat or whatever is stupid. Yes they may work against women to some extent, but they're hardly preventing women from losing any sort of weight.
Put the effort in - you'll lose weight
Don't put the effort in - stfu stop complaining, if you aren't doing anthing about it
Put the effort in - you'll lose weight
Don't put the effort in - stfu stop complaining, if you aren't doing anthing about it
Women and weight relationship is a lot more complex. You completely miss the fact that the barrier to weight loss is most likely psychological. Poor self esteem and depression and things like social anxiety and poor self esteem will sap your energy, your motivation and your belief in yourself that you can acheive your goals. Misery and fear of people making comments and staring can put you off wanting to step outside to do some walking/play sport.
You make frivolous the factors surrounding WHY people comfort eat and HOW they can regain their motivations to exercise.
If it really were that simple, there would be no fat people in the world.
call a girl fat and she'll probably scream at you
call a guy fat and he'll probably laugh with you
call a guy fat and he'll probably laugh with you
Original post by Eveiebaby
Women and weight relationship is a lot more complex. You completely miss the fact that the barrier to weight loss is most likely psychological. Poor self esteem and depression and things like social anxiety and poor self esteem will sap your energy, your motivation and your belief in yourself that you can acheive your goals. Misery and fear of people making comments and staring can put you off wanting to step outside to do some walking/play sport.
You make frivolous the factors surrounding WHY people comfort eat and HOW they can regain their motivations to exercise.
If it really were that simple, there would be no fat people in the world.
You make frivolous the factors surrounding WHY people comfort eat and HOW they can regain their motivations to exercise.
If it really were that simple, there would be no fat people in the world.
If you can't lose weight because of what someone thinks of you then that is very very very sad. That seems like such a pathetic excuse. Misery? Fear? Because someone is looking at you run? Get a grip of yourself and get some self-confidence because using that as an excuse not to go for a jog is ridiculous.
Original post by MilkyC
Oh God, we getting into the science behind it are we? Bottom line is you'll lose weight by either exercising or cutting down the crap you eat. If you aren't losing weight you're obviously doing something wrong period. It isn't an impossible idea to grasp is it? Blaming genetics, predisposed fat or whatever is stupid. Yes they may work against women to some extent, but they're hardly preventing women from losing any sort of weight.
Put the effort in - you'll lose weight
Don't put the effort in - stfu stop complaining, if you aren't doing anthing about it
Put the effort in - you'll lose weight
Don't put the effort in - stfu stop complaining, if you aren't doing anthing about it
Calm down. I'm just saying usually it's not as easy for women to lose weight as it is for men, the end. Yes, it's not an excuse. I said it wasn't. Not stupid, merely the truth. It's really easy to just sit there and say "Eat less, work out, problem solved!".
It's not always that easy.
(edited 13 years ago)
Original post by Luceria
Calm down. I'm just saying usually it's not as easy for women to lose weight as it is for men, the end. Yes, it's not an excuse. I said it wasn't. Not stupid, merely the truth. It's really easy to just sit there and say "Eat less, work out, problem solved!".
It's not always that easy.
It's not always that easy.
Men also have a greater appetite though. Which means that they are able to eat more than women, but want to eat way more anyway. They have a greater appetite to overcome.
Original post by agolati
I mean, if you wanted to, you could lose weight you know.
If you wanted to, you can pay no attention to the nagging insecure thoughts and just accept who you are, no one REALLY wants someone that doesn't accept themselves.
title needs 'are' instead of 'do'
If you wanted to, you can pay no attention to the nagging insecure thoughts and just accept who you are, no one REALLY wants someone that doesn't accept themselves.
title needs 'are' instead of 'do'
I would say people are generally sensitive about whatever makes them insecure, for example I don't mind people knowing my weight, but I'm a bit funny about people knowing my hight as I'm quite short. I suppose each to there own!
Because for many years the media has made out that super models with a size 0 body are seen as beautiful. For example, Leona Lewis and Kelly Clarkson were under scrutiny when they gained some weight, probably around size 12 (uk sizes) but that is a healthy weight.
And even when girls have lost weight, most won't think that their the right size so weight will be always be a sensitive subject. I've lost weight from a size 10 to a size 8 and this boy called me fat once (after the weight loss), and that hurt, it made me feel I wasn't good enough even after my effort. Generally, girls do try and look after their weight so when someone says something, it just hurts.
And even when girls have lost weight, most won't think that their the right size so weight will be always be a sensitive subject. I've lost weight from a size 10 to a size 8 and this boy called me fat once (after the weight loss), and that hurt, it made me feel I wasn't good enough even after my effort. Generally, girls do try and look after their weight so when someone says something, it just hurts.
Original post by MilkyC
If you can't lose weight because of what someone thinks of you then that is very very very sad. That seems like such a pathetic excuse. Misery? Fear? Because someone is looking at you run? Get a grip of yourself and get some self-confidence because using that as an excuse not to go for a jog is ridiculous.
The whole point is that they cant get a grip and that they dont have any self confidence. it's not something you can switch on and off. I think people need to have more awareness of psychological wellness. You are being very flippant.
I've had mental illness and I know first hand that it's not something you can control.
I have had times when I have felt that I cannot face the world because I feel inferior or small and often there have been historical events triggering psychological problems.
You need to be able to tap into that and heal the mind before you can act with any rationality.
It's very common for women in general to have problems with self esteem and low confidence. Telling them that they are ridiculous does nothing but feed such destructive thoughts about the self.
I'm very sensitive when it comes to girl's weight. Fat girls disgust me. Why can't all girl's bodies be like keira knightley's
Original post by When will I know?
T H I S.
If you want it...you've got to work for it
I dont get the whole ..blame the media for their models etc....if you were happy with yoursleves you wouldnt blame them for looking good. It's only probably not good for young girls/ young teenagers.
If you want it...you've got to work for it
I dont get the whole ..blame the media for their models etc....if you were happy with yoursleves you wouldnt blame them for looking good. It's only probably not good for young girls/ young teenagers.
I try not to base my looks on those on magazines etc because to be fair, most of them are all skinny gorgeous girls and not everyone is like that. But, the media is to be blamed for everyone wanting to look like them because you never get to see a chunky lass or a 'not-so-pretty' girl do you? All we see are the flawless models and lets face it, life just isn't that kind to everyone.
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