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    (Original post by PurpleConverse)
    Lies and source it if this claim is so true.

    Only affects people as far as i'm aware going into army and them sort of services.
    For example, social services look at your medical records if they have any reason against you as a parent - and then they take your children away

    What's with the neg rep? I'm only stating my experience!
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    A lot of what he said is true though. Many people think getting a drug will cure their problems in life, when in reality they don't do that much. Its also very easy to slip down the biochemical route and end up on some horrible drugs that take a long time to recover from. Life is hard, sometimes you just have to deal with it, he has refered you on, which is great, a successful appointment then, if not very understanding. Sometimes all people need is someone to listen to them
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    From what I read it sounds like the GP offered you some good advice (diet etc can have an affect on your emotional condition) and then referred you.

    Just because you didn't get a truck load of sympathy from him doesn't mean he was wrong
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I don't WANT medication. The doctor said "I'm not going to prescribe medication because you're 17" and I said "I don't want medication".

    Who says I'm having fun? Do you think I enjoy feeling like crap everyday? Feeling tearful, lifeless - dead and constantly feeling like in the end life has no point? No. I watched a movie a few weeks ago that made me think that I should live every day as if it was the last but I just can't.

    So because I didn't compile a big list of things that bother me or whatever then I'm dismissed? I've had plenty of bad days and I've bounced right back up. Like I said I don't have to prove anything you guys. You guys don't know me or what I've been through so you should be making judgements anyway.

    I done replying now.
    I think some of the people who have replied on this thread have been unfair/obviously haven't suffered from depression.
    Really try and be honest when you see the psychiatrist because they will probably understand you much better than the doctor and will probably be able to give you some real help.
    The way you feel is awful, but it is important to remember that in all likelihood you will not always feel like this. I know you will probs not realise it now/be angry with me for saying so ( that is how i felt when my mum said it to me), but I feel much better now than i did a year ago. and in the end you almost get better without realising it. One day you'll just think oh i've not felt like that in a while.
    I know it is hard to imagine this, but you will get better.
    Also, by going to the psychiatrist, you are actively doing something to combat your deprssion. This can make you feel a little better in itself because you are no longer being ignored-someone is listening to you and has accepted that you have a problem.
    Hope you get it all sorted and feel better soon x
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    The doctor was an idiot! I kept trying to explain to him what was wrong but he just wouldn't listen! I told him how things haven't been going right in my life and that coupled with my opinion on the world and the people is making me depressed. It's making me lose my appetite, my interests, my concentration is going and I just don't want to do anything anymore. I kept reiterating this as vehemently as I could be he just couldn't or just wouldn't comprehend what I was telling him and I was starting to lose my temper with him and I could see I was annoying him.

    His comment? "I don't think your depressed" "Everyone can feel frustrated from time to time" "Depression is chronic, it's not just something that you feel for two weeks" And I kept saying that I've been feeling sad for years. I told him that I had a strict father who gave strict punishments; I didn't have a happy childhood; I didn't enjoy primary or secondary school and college. His comments are that I shouldn't blame anyone for this. I should lead my life. And this was when I started to lose my temper. He said that I should be more active in doing things and I told him that I've been active in making friends (and so on) but he just wouldn't listen,

    I'm not blaming anyone.

    His advice again (baring in mind that "I'm not depressed but what I'm doing to myself is of course making me sad".

    -I have lost my appetite - "Start eating properly. Eating few meals will make you sad". Eating has no effect on my mood. I'm not eating because of my mood.
    -I've lost my interest - "Start a project". But I can't start a project because I have no interest in anything!
    -I need to take direction of my life since I "don't know what I'm doing with it". I told him the plans I have for future but I have no interest in carrying on because I just don't want to (I didn't get to tell him I found it pointless). He said that I shouldn't be taking a year off just because I don't want to go to university. But I said to him that I do want to go to university.

    I told him that my counsellor agreed that I suffer from depression. But that doesn't matter. He didn't take me seriously at all! He just treated me as a kid whose having a bad day! I had to control myself or else I would have shouted at him. He just didn't understand at all. He didn't listen to me and kept interrupting me. He didn't treat me with respect and just kept acting as if he was always right. I know he's wrong. I know how I feel and I so angry that he just wouldn't believe me.

    He going to reference me to a psychiatrist because he's given up and I'm going to look for a new GP. I feel so sad now and now I'm just doubting my sanity. Am I or aren't I depressed? Am I just a whiney teen?
    sounds like a very incompetent doctor and he obviously wasn't listening at all so good on you that you are looking for a new GP. I think you should see a psychiatrist or maybe even just a psychologist they are qualified with such matters and will understand you better

    all the best!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I don't want to take meds. I want to eat properly, I'm tired of feeling hungry but I feel like eating is a bother. I'd rather have my stomach cut out. I want to feel healthy and active. I love running but nowadays I'm so bloody slow! I don't want to take medication.
    You're preaching to the choir here.

    I know those feelings but it doesn't change the fact that 90% of doctors you will see will recommend lifestyle changes before drugs. If it's a bother to eat, plan some quick and simple yet healthy meals (stir fry for example) and really make an effort to do it each day. It often helps to have set meal times so that you know now is when you make food and it's easier to actually get yourself to do that.

    If you don't want to exercise then go for brisk walks, it's nice just to walk outside and you can step it up if that helps. Having things to fill your day is also good, if you wake up and you have nothing on, it feels like ****, if, like the person above said, you have a plan you need to do (feed goats) then it's easier to get out of bed and you'll spend less time thinking over bad things.

    Don't reply that I don't know how you feel, I've been depressed for many years and I know most those feelings you've described, but I also know the best thing to do is to try to make yourself feel better using simple lifestyle changes to start with. For some people that's all it takes to get out the hole. I don't think the doctor was being a retard I think he was recommending what they're trained to tell you - I've seen loads of doctors and one of the first things they ask are about diet, sleep, exercise etc. Don't just dismiss the idea as them not taking you seriously either, because until you give it a go (a proper go) you don't know.
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    (Original post by UnheardSounds)
    For example, social services look at your medical records if they have any reason against you as a parent - and then they take your children away
    Please stop talking BS.

    Firstly source it.

    Secondly I'd understand in a case of the person involved being actively depressed and a risk to their kid(s) and things of that nature but we're talking post depression here.

    If you've recovered then wheres the problem. 1 in 4 people experience some kind of mental illness.

    Also why would social services be involved in the first place?

    Only if something actually occured in the first place.

    Seriously come back with some sources/real cases where someone who has recovered has this as a 'burden' against them when it comes to kids. :rolleyes:
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    You've been referred to a specialist. Result.

    I had digestive problems for years and my GP kept saying it's psychological and I'll grow out of it, then after badgering him to refer me to a specialist after years of agony the hospital found that I had pancreatic calcification. For a while they thought the underlying cause could be cancer (but luckily they didn't find a tumour).

    Had it been cancer, I think the NHS would have had a lawsuit on their hands; it was frankly outrageous that when I was coming to him month after month saying the pain can get so bad that I can't sleep at night or go to school on some days, he would tell me I'll grow out of it.
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    (Original post by Tally DeBenedictis)
    Tell me about it :/ was stuck on Deanxit along with Seroxat for a year and a bit.
    Not fun times.
    But tbh they didnt make me feel so much better the amount of times I tried to OD on them but then I dropped them both within a week...wow. that has GOT to be THE worst week of my life..never thrown up/ shook/ cried or been in so much pain in my life. Couldn't eat or drink anything properly!

    I don't think people really realise what they do to you.
    they only attempt to retrain the brain because they block the negative chemicals going in (or something like that anyway)

    I found that waking up to do something i enjoyed was a massive help. Now I know I have to wake up before 10 every morning because I have to go and feed my goats (yes pathetic I know) but surprisingly it starts my day off well!
    A plan of your day also helps then you always keep yourself busy.
    x
    I've not tried seroxat but have heard it's pretty nasty stuff. I had major problems with prozac which is weird as it's usually one of the more prescribed ones. Ergh and the withdrawal, yep it's nasty.

    I agree entirely with you - if you've got something to wake up for them it puts a positive spin on the day before you even get out of bed, it gives meaning to your life, no one else is going to feed those goats. (aw goats that's cute)
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    I didn't once say that I wanted effing medication! I personally think that medication solves nothing. I don't want to take anything because I don't want to pretend that everything is fine. I don't think: "Oh I just pop in the magic pill and I'll be fine".

    The whole point here is that I felt that my doctor didn't treat me in the right sort of way. I would have felt better if he took on board what I was saying and responded accordingly but he was so stubborn and didn't take me seriously.

    I didn't want his sympathy but though, yes his advise would help the typical sad person, it doesn't help me Why can't people just fricking get that? Most of the people here just think I'm a guy who believe he's depressed and wants drugs to help when you guys don't know a flipping thing. I don't know what's so hard to understand about this whole thread but it's people like you are are so narrow-minded that makes me hate people.

    This sounds stupid but what if you - a woman knew you were pregnant but your doctor just dismissed you as being a little ill, and your hormones were only out of whack. How would you feel?
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    (Original post by UnheardSounds)
    For example, social services look at your medical records if they have any reason against you as a parent - and then they take your children away
    So a teenager having depression may risk having their children taken away in the future. :rolleyes:

    Where are you getting this from??

    They would only take your children away if you are a risk to them eg alcoholic, violent, abusive, neglecting their needs etc.

    Only if the depression was current and was so severe it was preventing the parent from functioning and the children were suffering then it may result in the children being taken in to care.
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    (Original post by PurpleConverse)
    Please stop talking BS.

    Firstly source it.

    Secondly I'd understand in a case of the person involved being actively depressed and a risk to their kid(s) and things of that nature but we're talking post depression here.

    If you've recovered then wheres the problem. 1 in 4 people experience some kind of mental illness.

    Also why would social services be involved in the first place?

    Only if something actually occured in the first place.

    Seriously come back with some sources/real cases where someone who has recovered has this as a 'burden' against them when it comes to kids. :rolleyes:
    I have had a close family member have her children taken away (She now has them back) due to social services falsifying and making up records whilst also getting hold of her medical records leading to a national newspaper report on the incident. So yes, they can utilise any information that they find against you and I wouldn't like there to be anything like this there for them to find.
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    (Original post by UnheardSounds)
    I have had a close family member have her children taken away (She now has them back) due to social services falsifying and making up records whilst also getting hold of her medical records leading to a national newspaper report on the incident. So yes, they can utilise any information that they find against you and I wouldn't like there to be anything like this there for them to find.
    Yes and my Uncle Bob is the PM.

    Sorry but I fail to believe this story of yours too..

    What were the exact grounds of the child being taken away?

    Also how did it occur?

    Sorry but I really find it hard to believe you, I know plenty of people who have kids, who are recovered from depression and EDs who have kids and everythings been fine.

    This must of been more serious than your letting on if this story if 1 bit true of course.
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    Look, if doctor listens to me properly (actually listens to me like my counsellor does) then tells me I'm not depressed then I'll take his word for it.

    I will try and be a bit more active to make myself feel better but most of my depression/sadness is due to how I perceive the world. The way I think of things makes me sad. That's why I don't want meds. For me to be cured of my depression/sadness I need to change my thinking.

    It sounds like I'm desperate to have depression. I am. I know it's bad. I feel bad. But if I know what's wrong then it's the first step for me to make a plan and sort my life out. If you guys can't understand that then fine. It just makes me a crazy person (not in the literal sense).
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    (Original post by PurpleConverse)
    Yes and my Uncle Bob is the PM.

    Sorry but I fail to believe this story of yours too..

    What were the exact grounds of the child being taken away?

    Also how did it occur?

    Sorry but I really find it hard to believe you, I know plenty of people who have kids, who are recovered from depression and EDs who have kids and everythings been fine.

    This must of been more serious than your letting on if this story if 1 bit true of course.
    http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/ar...-children.html

    Why would I feel so strongly about this issue if I was making it up?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    The doctor was an idiot! I kept trying to explain to him what was wrong but he just wouldn't listen! I told him how things haven't been going right in my life and that coupled with my opinion on the world and the people is making me depressed. It's making me lose my appetite, my interests, my concentration is going and I just don't want to do anything anymore. I kept reiterating this as vehemently as I could be he just couldn't or just wouldn't comprehend what I was telling him and I was starting to lose my temper with him and I could see I was annoying him.

    His comment? "I don't think your depressed" "Everyone can feel frustrated from time to time" "Depression is chronic, it's not just something that you feel for two weeks" And I kept saying that I've been feeling sad for years. I told him that I had a strict father who gave strict punishments; I didn't have a happy childhood; I didn't enjoy primary or secondary school and college. His comments are that I shouldn't blame anyone for this. I should lead my life. And this was when I started to lose my temper. He said that I should be more active in doing things and I told him that I've been active in making friends (and so on) but he just wouldn't listen,

    I'm not blaming anyone.

    His advice again (baring in mind that "I'm not depressed but what I'm doing to myself is of course making me sad".

    -I have lost my appetite - "Start eating properly. Eating few meals will make you sad". Eating has no effect on my mood. I'm not eating because of my mood.
    -I've lost my interest - "Start a project". But I can't start a project because I have no interest in anything!
    -I need to take direction of my life since I "don't know what I'm doing with it". I told him the plans I have for future but I have no interest in carrying on because I just don't want to (I didn't get to tell him I found it pointless). He said that I shouldn't be taking a year off just because I don't want to go to university. But I said to him that I do want to go to university.

    I told him that my counsellor agreed that I suffer from depression. But that doesn't matter. He didn't take me seriously at all! He just treated me as a kid whose having a bad day! I had to control myself or else I would have shouted at him. He just didn't understand at all. He didn't listen to me and kept interrupting me. He didn't treat me with respect and just kept acting as if he was always right. I know he's wrong. I know how I feel and I so angry that he just wouldn't believe me.

    He going to reference me to a psychiatrist because he's given up and I'm going to look for a new GP. I feel so sad now and now I'm just doubting my sanity. Am I or aren't I depressed? Am I just a whiney teen?
    Your doctor was essentially telling you:
    [img]http://images2.memegenerator.net/ImageMacro/4246587/If-Symptoms-persist-Man-the-****-up.jpg?imageSize=Medium&generato rName=Advice-House[/img]
    Anti-depressants solve ****. Man up.
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    (Original post by UnheardSounds)
    http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/ar...-children.html

    Why would I feel so strongly about this issue if I was making it up?
    To be fair, the article isn't madly relevant is it?

    I understand what purple is saying.

    Funny thing is my dad, suffered from depression back in the day when I was young (now am 19) yet nothing of the sort happened to us as a family, he got his therapy he recovered, he still lived with us, he still looked after me as a kid etc

    I think what your doing is just blowing up this whole misconception. So please stop.

    You've given us to a link to 1 article that where it states about the current state of the woman, not the state of her beforehand (as you implied).

    This is 1 case, which isn't even majorly relevant much?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    His entitled to his/her opinion. But he/she is acting like I went:

    "wa wa I have no appetite and I'm losing my concentration. I must be depressed." I'm not stupid.
    That's pretty much what you did tbph.

    FYI my counsellors exact words were "If your doctor doesn't diagnose you should go to a different GP".
    :lolwut:

    So you keep going to a different GP until they diagnose you? That is completely retarded.

    Also:

    http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_VSrnkiWaqS...alone+face.png
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    (Original post by UnheardSounds)
    http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/ar...-children.html

    Why would I feel so strongly about this issue if I was making it up?
    Yes because in the article is states clearly 'Having depression or any sort of mental illness on your record will put you at risk of loosing your children'??

    Lol you just made my point with that article plus its an isolated incident and there were falsifications made against the woman, thats got nothing to do with the price of fish, we are talking about the issue of a mental health issue being on your record.

    Seriously DPMO anymore.
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    See, people think they're depressed but they're probably not. It's more to do with boredom and maybe they feel they have no purpose, especially in this current climate, which makes people feel down.

    For me, about a year now all I've felt is nothing, doing crap in uni and not being able to concentrate on work. I didn't even feel guilty that I wasn't putting any effort in and if I compare it to the way I used to be, work driven, I'm quite shocked. Now, I regret not putting in the work. I feel worthless and have no ambition for my career atm.

    Sometimes I have random teary outbursts, but normally I don't have much remorse. Trying to read books is a chore, as I always get agigated and find a way of getting away from it.

    I don't think it's depression, but I just can't concentrate these days. Sorry for taking over.

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