[History-Student]

(Original post by m45)
I like this thread because it actually stuck with me. i went out on tuesday and while at the club this thread came into my head. i don't normally approach girls but i thought f**k it. the first girl i approached went badly but the next actually went really well.

it involved some pre-approach work but still...
I noticed that she was with 2 other girls who had both found men - hence leaving her sticking out (and probably more willing to speak to someone so as not to be alone).
So i went up to her and with a smile said:
me: are these your friends?
her: yeah why?
me: well, i couldnt help but notice that they both are with guys and you're alone - i'm max, whats your name?

from there we got speaking, although i did mis-hear her name which was slightly embarrassing.

the 2 things i learnt are that most people will talk to you if you're friendly and if you get turned down, don't worry about it - their loss n all :P

sooo... thanks OP haha

I simultaneously hate you and love you for being able to do what I cannot.

[Ned93]

'Hey there, I've lost my number, can I have yours?'

Can't see that failing :P

[Kalamari Dave]

(Original post by Lewroll)
What I propose is everyone posts a different method of approaching a fe/male in public and posts their own experiences of it. Hopefully we should end up with a nice long list of ways to approach your desired sex in the street, so that you can get some

To make things more interesting, I personally1, shall 'test' the most popular methods2 in real life and report back with my findings

1- I will test the most popular techniques in real life so that you don't have to. I will be the test dummy. However if anyone else would like to join the team of test dummies, you are very welcome to.
2- Most popular methods within reason. If one of the most popular methods is to approach a girl in the street whilst waving my penis in her face, I will not do it.
3- If you are thinking 'this thread is pathetic' or something along those lines, GTFO. If this thread helps even one person then it has been successful.

Tldr; post a method for approaching a stranger in the street (to get their phone number/ask them out) which you think would be successful. Be creative.

Great idea and thread man
I've been trying this sorta thing for a year or two now, at places like Uni open days, socials and Medlink, etc., especially since I live in a (fairly strict) indian household where I'm not really allowed to casually go out with friends.
I've made quite a few of my friends this way It took me a while to get the confidence to just randomly approach someone and talk to them, and another while to learn the things to say and not to say (still learning!)

(here's an example)

"[announcement] The first of the Medical building tours is gonna start soon, and we have space for 10 people".

"Hurry, lets make the first one while theres still spaces left " I playfully say across the room to the cute indian girl.

"Bring your friend too"

"Okay " *giggle*

---
While queuing outside, this cute indian girl and her friend were just in front. She was very pretty, and I made a mental note that it would be nice to have a chat with her today.
We exchanged a cursory glance and or two while waiting, we were both busy in our respective conversations.
----

"Cmon, you can make it!", I said, cheering them on

"Cmon Sarah, we're not gonna make it unless we hurry! "

They make it, I tell them that was a close one, well done, and we introduce ourselves, and start chatting

The rest of the day, I kept up the light playfulness and teasing, played noughts and crosses and just chatted.

Spoiler:

Show

got her number afterwards

tl;dr
Don't be afraid to be lightly playful and adventurous. Every situation (and personalities involved) is different, but generally being friendly, having a sense of humour and adventure will certainly help
It took me a while and lots of effort to "start being me" again, and let these things try and come naturally, so don't fret if it doesn't come first time for you!
Good luck and happy approaching

[Kalamari Dave]

[Lord Jon]

(Original post by Lewroll)
METHOD #98 The asker of directions

This is a great way to talk to someone without freaking them out. Its socially acceptable to talk to strangers in two situations (according to Michael Mcintyre). The first being to ask the time. The second is when you are asking for directions. This technique focuses on the 2nd.

Guy (notices hot girl in a public place). Approaches her from the front with a friendly smile
You: Excuse me do you know how to get to [Insert bull**** place you don't really want to go to]
Girl: Yeah what you wanna do is take a left at BLAH BLAH BLAH
Guy (pretend to listen, maybe even nod and ask the occasional question to make it look realistic- keep eye contact (not creepy))
Guy: Thanks a lot
Girl: Its ok (turns to walk away)
Guy: Oh one more thing. I didn't actually stop you to ask you directions, I just wanted an excuse to talk to you as I think you look amazing/beautiful
Girl: Reeeeaally??
Guy:

See with this technique the girl isn't freaked out by your approach as she wasn't expecting it. She was already comfortable talking to you as she had already spoken to you for a moment previously.

This is all theory of course. Hasn't yet been tested... O_O

Lewroll , You lad

[Lewroll]

(Original post by Agent Smirnoff)
Lewroll , You lad

I'm no 'lad'. I haven't even tried this myself. I will try it eventually ofc, but I will be crapping myself the entire time

[xnatalie01x]

My personal favourite is the directions one, definitely

[Anonymous]

(Original post by Residue of Spandex)
I normally try and hit on impressionable Indie girls wearing the same Reading Festival wristbands as me

This works, it's really easy to make conversation with people who are wearing festival wristbands on. It's been tried and tested by my friends and I wearing Leeds Festival wristbands

[Lewroll]

METHOD #20 The music shop

Do people still go to music shops? Like HMV? Or do people just download? Anyways this seems like an easy way to meet someone, by sharing a common interest (it also works in book shops). Go into music/book shop. See the girl/boy looking at cd/book. Go up to them and browse the same section they are looking at. Then look at the book/cd they are looking at and casually use it to start a conversation.
'Oh thats a great band there, have you heard blah blah'
'That book looks interesting, whats it about'
etc etc

Next thing you know you are having a conversation with someone and they think you like the same stuff as them (even if you dont). Now all you have to do is get their number :P

[CapnHooch]

(Original post by Lewroll)
METHOD #20 The music shop

Do people still go to music shops? Like HMV? Or do people just download? Anyways this seems like an easy way to meet someone, by sharing a common interest (it also works in book shops). Go into music/book shop. See the girl/boy looking at cd/book. Go up to them and browse the same section they are looking at. Then look at the book/cd they are looking at and casually use it to start a conversation.
'Oh thats a great band there, have you heard blah blah'
'That book looks interesting, whats it about'
etc etc

Next thing you know you are having a conversation with someone and they think you like the same stuff as them (even if you dont). Now all you have to do is get their number :P

It works but it's dependant on how much they like the band.
For instance, 'Oh you know my friend's dad used to roadie for them.'

It's a good opener if you can bull**** your way through.

[Miss Purple]

*subcribes*
my new reason to procrastinate

[krish.x]

Question for the guys: If a [cute] girl was to employ such tactics as this http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/show...936&highlight= while maintaining eye contact say on bus/train etc would you be more or less inclined to approach her/start a conversation?

[insert cheeky grin]

[Lewroll]

(Original post by krish.x)
Question for the guys: If a [cute] girl was to employ such tactics as this http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/show...936&highlight= while maintaining eye contact say on bus/train etc would you be more or less inclined to approach her/start a conversation?

[insert cheeky grin]

If I was certain she was staring at me (I would probably turn around to check if she isn't starting at some guy behind me) then I would consider approaching her (I'd be nervous as this doesn't really happen that often O_O). Depends on how much of a chance I think I would have with her.

If he doesn't approach, just go talk to him yourself?

[krish.x]

(Original post by Lewroll)
If I was certain she was staring at me (I would probably turn around to check if she isn't starting at some guy behind me) then I would consider approaching her (I'd be nervous as this doesn't really happen that often O_O). Depends on how much of a chance I think I would have with her.

If he doesn't approach, just go talk to him yourself?

But it's weirder if a girl approaches a guy randomly... :/ Non?
(Unless she can find something to comment on. But guys suck at having props whereas girls seem to carry the entire world in their handbags or w/e making it easier to give a guy something to say.)

[Lewroll]

(Original post by krish.x)
But it's weirder if a girl approaches a guy randomly... :/ Non?
(Unless she can find something to comment on. But guys suck at having props whereas girls seem to carry the entire world in their handbags or w/e making it easier to give a guy something to say.)

Well it shouldn't be weird anymore. Its not fair us guys have to approach the girls all the time and risk embarrassment. And if a girl approached me I wouldn't think it was weird, I would be like

[rbnphlp]

(Original post by krish.x)
Question for the guys: If a [cute] girl was to employ such tactics as this http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/show...936&highlight= while maintaining eye contact say on bus/train etc would you be more or less inclined to approach her/start a conversation?

[insert cheeky grin]

some might think you're a slut ..just sayin..

A simple smile often works wonders.(we're talking about strangers here)

[LewDacris]

Trick to get girls numbers.

You: Sorry i cant find my phone, can i use yours to call it
Girl: Sure
*you ring*
*phone rings in your pocket*
You: ahh here it is
*you now have her number and she has yours*

*commence conversation*

[Lewroll]

But that would be pretty damn sexy. I would be looking at you like this but in my head I'd be doing this

(Original post by LewDacris)
Trick to get girls numbers.

You: Sorry i cant find my phone, can i use yours to call it
Girl: Sure
*you ring*
*phone rings in your pocket*
You: ahh here it is
*you now have her number and she has yours*

*commence conversation*

LOL that might work. Or you'd get a slap

[AP1989]

(Original post by Lewroll)
Tube journeys in london can be extremely depressing. You get on the tube with people, you sit/stand next to them, sometimes for very long periods of time, but nobody ever says anything! If you came on the tube dressed as Spiderman people would still ignore you

The sad thing about it is you will often get on a tube and there will be plenty of attractive people on there. But if you started talking to them people would look at you like you just pulled a bomb out of your pants.

Do you really expect strangers to all start talking on the tube?

I guess the Metro thing where women take pictures of guys on their phone they think are hot then the paper prints them in the next edition indicates that some women are up for some random guys to talk to them, hot ones...

[krish.x]

(Original post by rbnphlp)
some might think you're a slut ..just sayin..

A simple smile often works wonders.(we're talking about strangers here)

haha, maybe so... But I'm not saying let it be that slow motion or anything...
Plus, I guess it'd depend on the girl... If she was sexy rather than kinda cutesy she'd probably more likely get labelled a slut for that sorta blatent action right?
I don't mean that controversially, just curious as to guys' takes on it.