The secret to a happy relationship.
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The secret to a happy relationship.Someone told me this today, and I honestly liked the advice.
Just thought it would probably be a nice thing to share with other people, especially on TSR since everyone seems to have boyfriend/girlfriend issues.
1)Always have something in life that is bigger than your boyfriend/ girlfriend. Once you have something in life you are dedicated to a lot, say music or your career or your studies, you stop obsessing over just your partners.
They stop becoming the CENTRE OF YOUR LIFE and so you stop wanting them to think of you as the centre of everything they do. hence all the obsessing, the nagging the 'why dont you give me enough time' is done with.
please post what you think the secret of a happy relationship is, so we all know how to strengthen our bonds!
2) women, NEVER hurt a mans ego. If you dont feed it, he will search for other places that help him feed his ego. Dont be slaves or anything, just be his 'woman' in every way he conceives.
3) Men, never play with a womans emotions, no matter what. she doesnt care how you are in life and how horrible you are with other people. IF YOU are lovely to her, she'll be the happiest woman ever.Last edited by goddogit; 05-05-2011 at 19:55. -
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Re: The secret to a happy relationship.I already knew that.(Original post by goddogit)
Someone told me this today, and I honestly liked the advice.
Just thought it would probably be a nice thing to share with other people, especially on TSR since everyone seems to have boyfriend/girlfriend issues.
Always have something in life that is bigger than your boyfriend/ girlfriend. Once you have something in life you are dedicated to a lot, say music or your career or your studies, you stop obsessing over just your partners.
They stop becoming the CENTRE OF YOUR LIFE and so you stop wanting them to think of you as the centre of everything they do. hence all the obsessing, the nagging the 'why dont you give me enough time' is done with.
please post what you think the secret of a happy relationship is, so we all know how to strengthen our bonds!
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Re: The secret to a happy relationship.Unless your partner wants to be the centre of your life...They stop becoming the CENTRE OF YOUR LIFE and so you stop wanting them to think of you as the centre of everything they do. hence all the obsessing, the nagging the 'why dont you give me enough time' is done with. -
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Re: The secret to a happy relationship.Haha!(Original post by Dirac Delta Function)
Men figured this out ages ago. -
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Re: The secret to a happy relationship.That's not the secret to a successful relationship.
Christ.
Hmm, I'd say honesty is the secret. People talk a good talk, but it's rare that anyone is actually honest with their partner when something's going wrong or they just want some space, etc. Most relationship problems come down to one side or both not being open and honest.
This does not mean people can't have secrets and whatnot, just that people need to communicate and be more honest. -
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Re: The secret to a happy relationship.I think the secret of a happy relationship is accepting that you have to work at them and comprimise. Sometimes it's going to be hard and sometimes you wont get your own way but if you deal with any issues openly, honestly and support each other when it matters then you have the secret to not just a happy relationship but a happy life.
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Re: The secret to a happy relationship.Have other stuff (frens, hobbies, aktivities)
Be happy foremost with yo'self
Be truthful and trust that the otha is so
Enjoy one another's bodies
Generally be lite-hearted and considerate
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Re: The secret to a happy relationship.Not talking with much experience, but I've had one boyfriend beforehand, and it lasted 2 weeks; and now, 3 years later, I am in a relationship nearing a year. I think the secret is humour. A man who can make me laugh has me on a string. But, space and understanding humanity is almost as significant, if you understand what I am saying.(Original post by goddogit)
Someone told me this today, and I honestly liked the advice.
Just thought it would probably be a nice thing to share with other people, especially on TSR since everyone seems to have boyfriend/girlfriend issues.
1)Always have something in life that is bigger than your boyfriend/ girlfriend. Once you have something in life you are dedicated to a lot, say music or your career or your studies, you stop obsessing over just your partners.
They stop becoming the CENTRE OF YOUR LIFE and so you stop wanting them to think of you as the centre of everything they do. hence all the obsessing, the nagging the 'why dont you give me enough time' is done with.
please post what you think the secret of a happy relationship is, so we all know how to strengthen our bonds!
2) women, NEVER hurt a mans ego. If you dont feed it, he will search for other places that help him feed his ego. Dont be slaves or anything, just be his 'woman' in every way he conceives.
3) Men, never play with a womans emotions, no matter what. she doesnt care how you are in life and how horrible you are with other people. IF YOU are lovely to her, she'll be the happiest woman ever. -
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Re: The secret to a happy relationship.You know you're going to get BS responses right?(Original post by goddogit)
Someone told me this today, and I honestly liked the advice.
Just thought it would probably be a nice thing to share with other people, especially on TSR since everyone seems to have boyfriend/girlfriend issues.
1)Always have something in life that is bigger than your boyfriend/ girlfriend. Once you have something in life you are dedicated to a lot, say music or your career or your studies, you stop obsessing over just your partners.
They stop becoming the CENTRE OF YOUR LIFE and so you stop wanting them to think of you as the centre of everything they do. hence all the obsessing, the nagging the 'why dont you give me enough time' is done with.
please post what you think the secret of a happy relationship is, so we all know how to strengthen our bonds!
2) women, NEVER hurt a mans ego. If you dont feed it, he will search for other places that help him feed his ego. Dont be slaves or anything, just be his 'woman' in every way he conceives.
3) Men, never play with a womans emotions, no matter what. she doesnt care how you are in life and how horrible you are with other people. IF YOU are lovely to her, she'll be the happiest woman ever. -
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Re: The secret to a happy relationship.Eh, I don't think there is one "secret" to an everlasting, happy relationship; you encounter all kinds of obstacles in life that challenge a relationship in different ways, the important thing is being able to communicate and be flexible so the two of you can figure out the best ways to deal with them.
These little soundbites just attempt to oversimplify things, as in this case just reducing men and women to crude stereotypes. There are no simple answers
relationships are hard work, the point is it always feels worth it if you really love that person.
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Re: The secret to a happy relationship.I'm sorry, but that's a load of toss.
'women, NEVER hurt a mans ego.'
If he's being a dick, he deserves to be called out on it. I'm all for complimenting your partner, but compliments when they're generic and insincere kinda suck anyway, and sometimes you need to tell the other they're being a whiny bitch and to get over it. (Possibly in nicer terms.)
'If you dont feed it, he will search for other places that help him feed his ego.'
You shouldn't have to incessantly compliment the guy you're with for him not to go off and shag someone else.
'his 'woman' in every way he conceives.'
Off to make those sandwiches then...
'she doesnt care how you are in life and how horrible you are with other people. IF YOU are lovely to her, she'll be the happiest woman ever.'
Yeah... No. If you're horrible to my friends, then you're out. If you're horrible to people in general, you're also out. My friends have been there a lot longer then a guy has and although I've had one longish relationship, I would've picked a lot of my best friends over him anyday. Not exactly gonna go for a guy that kicks homeless people and shouts racist slurs at ethnic minorities, am I?
