Parents won't let me give them money
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Re: Parents won't let me give them moneyI'd say this, after what you replied in my quote(Original post by plastercaster)
I can totally see why a grown couple wouldn't want financial assistance from a (presumed) teenager- if they're on top of mortgage and utilities then it's probably best just to save it and make them happy by showing gratitude and doing as well as possible at your studies.
The best thing you can possibly do is be grateful for what they've contributed for you and make the most of it. They would obviously rather see a son that works hard and saves for his future, than one who pisses his money away and then comes crawling back for help.
Vomit. lol(Original post by Cocklebur)
You sound like a sweetie-pie.
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Re: Parents won't let me give them moneySpending money is a topic upon which I can offer many more suggestions.
Learn to drive, buy a car, pay off student loans, travel, save up for a down-payment on a house for when you move out, get a partner (if you do not already have one) - that would certainly help to minimise your assets...
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Re: Parents won't let me give them moneyAre you really suggesting a mail-order bride?(Original post by Cocklebur)
Spending money is a topic upon which I can offer many more suggestions.
Learn to drive, buy a car, pay off student loans, travel, save up for a down-payment on a house for when you move out, get a partner (if you do not already have one) - that would certainly help to minimise your assets...
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Re: Parents won't let me give them moneyI have done that. It worked for a while, then they did notice.(Original post by linkdapink)
Put money in their wallets/purses when they're not looking, just like a fiver. Small enough so they won't suspect it was added in!
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Re: Parents won't let me give them moneyDammit! I thought it would be fool proof!
OK, new plan.
Buy things and insist they're for you, but say they can borrow them instead? They might see through the plan if you buy a new iron and ironing board or something similar, but if you bought something like a new TV for your room complain about how the picture is rubbish on the TV downstairs and offer to swap as long as you can have the old one? I know they'll see through that plan.
You're parents are tricky to fool into accepting money. I'll think about it long and hard. -
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Re: Parents won't let me give them moneyGet them insanely expensive Birthday and Christmas presents. Also mothers/fathers day gifts of ludicrous prices. This could satisfy your generosity, whilst keeping their pride...
Hope this is vaguely applicable (if their birthdays have already been this year, then I'm not sure what you could do for the time being...)
Also, is the money you get a Loan or a grant? If it is a loan (and you have a lot too much), surely you could not take it/all of it out next year, to save yourself some debt in the future?
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Re: Parents won't let me give them money
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Leave following at door, complete with note merely saying "thank you [insert parents surnames]"
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Re: Parents won't let me give them moneyTry to see it from their point of view- they don't want you to feel like you have to support them, they believe it's their responsibility to support you. By giving them money, or by try to do so, it probably makes them feel guilty- it's the parents responsibility to look after you and *provide*, rather than the child's. You have good intentions. The only way around it that I can think of, is if you buy something (say a new toaster or whatever) don't make it seem like it's for them, just say "oh I've wanted this for a long time/ I really like it/etc". Try to give the illusion that you're doing it for you, when you're really doing it for them.
The best thing you can possibly do is be grateful for what they've contributed for you and make the most of it. They would obviously rather see a son that works hard and saves for his future, than one who pisses his money away and then comes crawling back for help.
