[Anonymous]

I feel like a lot of friends I have are not genuinely happy for me... I know it's normal to give extra support to some who are less fortunate, but I feel like I'm experiencing a lot of 'sneaky' jealousy. Snide remarks and all that.
I am nice to everyone and I am not the type to show off or brag. But if I am lucky in some aspects, like I don't have to work outside of studies and I have some extra money from grandparents, it's met with a bit of attitude. I don't go around telling people that - I have a friend who outright asks me what my bag cost. First time I replied and she was shocked, now I just don't answer (which probably also seem weird). Another friend I spoke to seemed mad because she is working a lot this summer and I am not. I live in a country where I don't speak the language yet so I won't get a job here (otherwise I probably would). My parents are not extravagant or anything, but they do reward me when I do well at school and I don't think it's unreasonable to allow oneself to go on holiday and all when one can afford it. I feel like little things I do wrong are always commented on - like "your place is so messy!" (I'm not messier than most people I know). I'm lucky when it comes to looks, but I also take good care of myself. And girls who are one the heavier side thinks it's okay to go "that dress is good for you, you have small boobs". It's always something. Why do I attract negative stuff when I only give away positive? Are all girls at 20 really so jealous with others?

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[Yawn11]

There's really a simple response to.this.

See first spoiler in sig below.

And the third spoiler too actually.

C'est la vi mon ami.

[thru sun and rain]

They are jealous that you actually get it quite easy, while they have to work hard for what they do get.

[imonlysleeping]

(Original post by Anonymous)
I feel like a lot of friends I have are not genuinely happy for me... I know it's normal to give extra support to some who are less fortunate, but I feel like I'm experiencing a lot of 'sneaky' jealousy. Snide remarks and all that.
I am nice to everyone and I am not the type to show off or brag. But if I am lucky in some aspects, like I don't have to work outside of studies and I have some extra money from grandparents, it's met with a bit of attitude. I don't go around telling people that - I have a friend who outright asks me what my bag cost. First time I replied and she was shocked, now I just don't answer (which probably also seem weird). Another friend I spoke to seemed mad because she is working a lot this summer and I am not. I live in a country where I don't speak the language yet so I won't get a job here (otherwise I probably would). My parents are not extravagant or anything, but they do reward me when I do well at school and I don't think it's unreasonable to allow oneself to go on holiday and all when one can afford it. I feel like little things I do wrong are always commented on - like "your place is so messy!" (I'm not messier than most people I know). I'm lucky when it comes to looks, but I also take good care of myself. And girls who are one the heavier side thinks it's okay to go "that dress is good for you, you have small boobs". It's always something. Why do I attract negative stuff when I only give away positive? Are all girls at 20 really so jealous with others?

I think you have to split it in to two things. I get the same thing when it comes to stuff about the way I look - I have one friend who always makes jokes about my appearance and I had another who used to always try to sabotage (half seriously and half jokingly) stuff with any girls I was seeing.

I think when it comes to that stuff you just have to realise why they're doing it - probably because of insecurity. However, if it bothers you that much I would just make comments back when they say something.

The money thing is unfortunate, but I don't really see that there is much that you can do about it. I have friends who are in a similar financial position and some people are a bit bitter towards them about it. At the end of the day, provided you're not going on about how easy life is or flaunting your money everywhere, people just have to deal with the fact that some people have more money than they do.

[sassy123]

(Original post by Anonymous)
I feel like a lot of friends I have are not genuinely happy for me... I know it's normal to give extra support to some who are less fortunate, but I feel like I'm experiencing a lot of 'sneaky' jealousy. Snide remarks and all that.
I am nice to everyone and I am not the type to show off or brag. But if I am lucky in some aspects, like I don't have to work outside of studies and I have some extra money from grandparents, it's met with a bit of attitude. I don't go around telling people that - I have a friend who outright asks me what my bag cost. First time I replied and she was shocked, now I just don't answer (which probably also seem weird). Another friend I spoke to seemed mad because she is working a lot this summer and I am not. I live in a country where I don't speak the language yet so I won't get a job here (otherwise I probably would). My parents are not extravagant or anything, but they do reward me when I do well at school and I don't think it's unreasonable to allow oneself to go on holiday and all when one can afford it. I feel like little things I do wrong are always commented on - like "your place is so messy!" (I'm not messier than most people I know). I'm lucky when it comes to looks, but I also take good care of myself. And girls who are one the heavier side thinks it's okay to go "that dress is good for you, you have small boobs". It's always something. Why do I attract negative stuff when I only give away positive? Are all girls at 20 really so jealous with others?

I feel sorry for you My friends use to give me snide remarks one comment from a friend was "oh your nose looks big with your hair like that" I have one a very little nose so i know she was saying it just to be nasty.

SOME girls do get a little jelouse and i think your friends are best ignored.Like you i am nice to most i never judge people until i know them i hold the door for people things like that.However i am still snared at what i have to say is not very nice.

[horizon1985]

oh well. haters gona hate