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    Beta blockers slow your heart rate which helps alleviate the physical symptoms of anxiety - taking a beta blocker will diminish the severity of panic attacks, or completely eliminate them while you're on the drug. However, beta blockers do not help with mental anxiety, you will still feel anxious in your head although you will not display any physical symptoms. Taking beta blockers might help break the vicious circle of anxiety where experiencing physical symtoms exacerbates the mental anxiety.

    Diazepam (Valium), is a benzodiazepine that essentially acts as a sedative. It will relax you and reduce mental anxiety, although you might feel somewhat spaced out while on it. I'm surprised you've managed to get a prescription for diazepam, GPs in the UK are very reluctant about prescribing benzos due to potential abuse and addiction.
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    Beta blockers slow your heart rate which helps alleviate the physical symptoms of anxiety - taking a beta blocker will diminish the severity of panic attacks, or completely eliminate them while you're on the drug. However, beta blockers do not help with mental anxiety, you will still feel anxious in your head although you will not display any physical symptoms. Taking beta blockers might help break the vicious circle of anxiety where experiencing physical symtoms exacerbates the mental anxiety.

    Diazepam (Valium), is a benzodiazepine that essentially acts as a sedative. It will relax you and reduce mental anxiety, although you might feel somewhat spaced out while on it. I'm surprised you've managed to get a prescription for diazepam, GPs in the UK are very reluctant about prescribing benzos due to potential abuse and addiction.
    My GP is brilliant to be fair. I went in a right state yesterday. It was a really big thing for me to admit that I had a problem and over the last few weeks I was breaking down every few hours in uncontrollable crying, shaking, palpatations and was a mess. She asked me what I wanted her to do, (not in like a not caring way, as in what action did I want to take). She explained the options of medication, she said that there was diazepam, which I would take on the onset of an attack. Then there was another type but she said this was addictive and she would want me to avoid that option if possible. Then there was beta blockers. She said I had got to the point where I probably needed longer term treatment to get back to normal, but because of the severity of attacks prescribed me a few diazepams as well and said I could take one every now and again for when I am struggling. Probably got about 8 of them. But the chest pains still have not really cleared but I suppose I need to give them a chance to kick in and let my muscles stop being so tense lol.
    Thanks for explaining that a bit better, I was not really listening to what was going on as I was a bit off the wall lol. To be fair, the leaflet inside scared me more for the diazepams, there was things like, one of the "do not take if you" was do not take if you have experienced someone close to you dying recently. I was like holy crap what have I been prescribed lol???
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    Feeling physically sick about going to the barbers later. It's just so awkward when there's loads of people in there, I don't think I'll be able to go in if it's too busy.

    In people's experience, how are their barbers if you don't talk much to them? I'm Worried that my barber thinks I'm rude/ weird because I never make small talk
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    Feeling physically sick about going to the barbers later. It's just so awkward when there's loads of people in there, I don't think I'll be able to go in if it's too busy.

    In people's experience, how are their barbers if you don't talk much to them? I'm Worried that my barber thinks I'm rude/ weird because I never make small talk
    I know how you feel I don't like going the hairdressers (once one of them cut about a foot off my hair and I didn't ask them too so I cried for 2 weeks), is there no one who will go with you?

    They don't particularly mind I think if you don't talk much just explain what you want and they'll probably try and make a bit of small talk but just smile and give answers like hmmm, and yeah.

    They won't think you are rude if you say like please and thank you at the end and the beginning your just too far in your own head to realise that you are NORMAL.
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    Feeling physically sick about going to the barbers later. It's just so awkward when there's loads of people in there, I don't think I'll be able to go in if it's too busy.

    In people's experience, how are their barbers if you don't talk much to them? I'm Worried that my barber thinks I'm rude/ weird because I never make small talk
    This is a big problem for me, so much so that my hair has gotten into a right state, and I should have really gone months ago, but the thought of sitting there, having to make small talk with a stranger is pretty scary tbh, thats usually made worse when I see the barber having a long conversation with the person in front of me, and then there's me next saying hardly anything. I just imagine them to be thinking 'what a bore' or something, so I definitely know where you're coming from there.

    Of course, a way round it is to just not care what a stranger that you probably won't see again for another several months thinks about you, and I'd imagine how much customers will talk to them will vary, some will, others won't, so maybe they won't think anything of you not saying very much and just get on with their job. And even if they do think you're rude for not making small talk (which is probably unlikely), its not like they're going to tell you or anything like that. Though, I wish it was as easy as just not caring what a stranger thinks, but obviously it isn't for us.
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    A week last Thursday I quit my job via text because the boss was an a-hole. I had my first sick day, in 7 months working for him, told him about it after I came out the doctors and then he took a shift away from me. The next time I saw him he really chewed me out and said 'oh you've got a problem with Sunday, there are things I want to say but I can't, I'm really angry.' things along those lines. Then he told me he is changing my pay day to a Sunday, and I realised he did that so I couldn't have it off. The next day is when I texted him I quit and today I have to go in to see him to get my wages and give in my shirt.

    I'm really nervous and I will be taking my dad with me because I wouldn't be able to do it otherwise and god knows what he would say to me alone. I didn't sleep last night and I just want to hide in bed all day and not do anything. .
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    Ffs, I've been doing so well with my emotional eating and general stress levels lately, but Mum's gone on holiday for a week, she got up to get to the airport turning the bathroom lights on, I couldn't get back to sleep because I felt my circadian rhythm was disrupted-then I ended up on yet another fairly big kitchen binge including one of the meals she'd saved for the fridge so I didn't get too worried about what to eat obviously means lost a night of sleep now.
    Really cannot let this start being the norm again! Exams are next week!

    On a side note, I wanted beta-blockers but according to the cardiologist I saw when anxiety was at its worst, they'd be a bad idea for me as my heart-rate's slow enough as it is. Apparently because of a sinus bradycardia (self-induced or hereditary? no-one knows, bugs me that) meaning my heart's already in fitness/athletic range. Really don't feel it mind
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    Hello :hello:

    I haven't posted for absolutely ages but I really need a place to vent!

    I just got my dissertation mark back after months of panic attacks worrying about it and I ended up with 59! Which is a complete kick in the teeth after working for 9months on it and to be marked down a whole grade boundary from what he's described as a couple of typos and awkward sentences!

    I'm also sceptical about this grade as the guy that marked it, is the guy that was trying to kick me out because my anxiety disorder made it hard for me to go and sit in lectures (I posted about this ages ago and thanks to support services at uni they made it impossible for him to kick me out).

    I think this guy has a really ignorant view of mental health, I reckon he's either marked me down because he thinks because of my illness I'm stupid (which is crap because I've been suffering from it for years and been getting 2:1's at Uni). Or because I made his job a bit more difficult as he had to arrange various other methods of teaching for me.

    Now I'm ridiculously upset about this grade, I've been in bed all day because I feel so unmotivated to do anything. Luckily I've managed to get a bit of revision done from my bed as studying at my desk has been giving me panic attacks!

    I literally cried all day yesterday because of this mark

    This guy has screwed me up so much this year, made my anxiety so much more difficult to handle than it needed!

    URGH!

    Hope the rest of you are doing OK

    xxx
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    Hello :hello:

    I haven't posted for absolutely ages but I really need a place to vent!

    I just got my dissertation mark back after months of panic attacks worrying about it and I ended up with 59! Which is a complete kick in the teeth after working for 9months on it and to be marked down a whole grade boundary from what he's described as a couple of typos and awkward sentences!

    I'm also sceptical about this grade as the guy that marked it, is the guy that was trying to kick me out because my anxiety disorder made it hard for me to go and sit in lectures (I posted about this ages ago and thanks to support services at uni they made it impossible for him to kick me out).

    I think this guy has a really ignorant view of mental health, I reckon he's either marked me down because he thinks because of my illness I'm stupid (which is crap because I've been suffering from it for years and been getting 2:1's at Uni). Or because I made his job a bit more difficult as he had to arrange various other methods of teaching for me.

    Now I'm ridiculously upset about this grade, I've been in bed all day because I feel so unmotivated to do anything. Luckily I've managed to get a bit of revision done from my bed as studying at my desk has been giving me panic attacks!

    I literally cried all day yesterday because of this mark

    This guy has screwed me up so much this year, made my anxiety so much more difficult to handle than it needed!

    URGH!

    Hope the rest of you are doing OK

    xxx
    Could you as someone for a second opinion on the grade?
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    Feel like every things going downhill.

    I've managed to lose 25lbs through feeling sick and not eating. Gone from 154lbs to 129lbs.

    Endocrinologist appointment got cancelled , so now have to wait until 21st June for it. I will have waited 104 days for that appointment.

    Still having panic attacks, worrying constantly, PTSD episodes, not sleeping, and my counsellor is an a-hole. Yesterday I hadn't slept and I went to the appointment in a state, and his solution was to suggest going to the doctors to get sleeping pills, when doctors don't prescribe them anymore. He then went on to say ''You know.. we're on our 13th session out of 20, and stuff keeps cropping up every week and I feel like we aren't getting anywhere" WELL WHAT DO YOU EXPECT.

    I will warn people who are waiting to have CBT that they in no way tell you to do anything or bring you to any conclusion, they try word things to try lead your thoughts in a certain direction, so often you can come out of the sessions feeling like you haven't actually learnt anything. Pissed off.
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    (Original post by Riku)
    Ffs, I've been doing so well with my emotional eating and general stress levels lately, but Mum's gone on holiday for a week, she got up to get to the airport turning the bathroom lights on, I couldn't get back to sleep because I felt my circadian rhythm was disrupted-then I ended up on yet another fairly big kitchen binge including one of the meals she'd saved for the fridge so I didn't get too worried about what to eat obviously means lost a night of sleep now.
    Really cannot let this start being the norm again! Exams are next week!

    On a side note, I wanted beta-blockers but according to the cardiologist I saw when anxiety was at its worst, they'd be a bad idea for me as my heart-rate's slow enough as it is. Apparently because of a sinus bradycardia (self-induced or hereditary? no-one knows, bugs me that) meaning my heart's already in fitness/athletic range. Really don't feel it mind

    Awww I'm sorry to hear that. Just think when your exams are over I bet you will feel so much better. Sorry to hear about the beta blockers, I'm on them and it does say repeatedly through the leaflet that you can't take them if you have low blood pressure as they are designed to slow down your heart rate so that would probably be really bad for you. You should go see your GP as they could provide you with something else through stressful exam period.

    Hope you feel better soon x
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    :cry2: times like this I wish I hadn't been so shy and **** growing up or I would have friends here so I had someone to talk to at least on MSN or something even.
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    :cry2: times like this I wish I hadn't been so shy and **** growing up or I would have friends here so I had someone to talk to at least on MSN or something even.
    I totally know how that feels, pm me if you want.
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    Could you as someone for a second opinion on the grade?
    I tried, apparently they won't appeal it unless there is substantial evidence for bias, and this guy is clever he won't make it apparent in writing or any other form.

    Also it was marked by a second marker too, but this guy is the programme director, the second marker wouldn't easily be able to contest him.

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    I tried, apparently they won't appeal it unless there is substantial evidence for bias, and this guy is clever he won't make it apparent in writing or any other form.

    Also it was marked by a second marker too, but this guy is the programme director, the second marker wouldn't easily be able to contest him.

    I know this isn't much consilation but at least if you've been getting 2.1's upto now and this was only 1 mark off a 2.1 I would say you'll almost definately finish on 2.1 which is a fantastic grade you should be really proud
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    I know this isn't much consilation but at least if you've been getting 2.1's upto now and this was only 1 mark off a 2.1 I would say you'll almost definately finish on 2.1 which is a fantastic grade you should be really proud
    Aw thanks, well so far this year I've got a 62,64,58 and 55 (from the same guy ) and obviously the 59 diss mark.

    I've still got 3essays due and an exam so I'm just praying I'll scrape that 2:1.

    Urgh still stings getting a 59 for months and months of hard work though. :unimpressed:

    Even more anxious about the exam than I was before I got the mark back.
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    I had a panic attack today, my first real panic attack for a couple months.

    I've suffered really severe anxiety, I stopped working, left university and pretty much just stopped doing everything. I was put on Prozac, which had really awful side effects, I was suicidal & after a couple visits to A&E I stopped taking them. Since, I've had three months of guided self help which has made a huge difference, I feel like my condition is under control. But today I was just hit by a panic attack, I thought I'd be able to control it due to all the techniques I learnt at counselling but I just felt as though I was dying.

    Basically I now have to make sure this doesn't stop me doing things that I worked so hard to be able to do. Even just going to my local supermarket is still a huge achievement for me, and I want to make sure I can keep enjoying my life!
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    Aww sorry to hear that Simone.
    Don't see today as a set back. Are you still seeing your Counser you could bring it up at your next session.
    Also don't keep it in your mind expecting it to happen as it may que you to have one when you shouldn't do.
    It sounds like you've been doing really well, don't let it get you down hun!
    Maybe talk to friends too, make sure you keep a support network around you at the minute, your doing really well
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    Sorry to hear that, Simone. I guess just try and focus on all of the progress you have made, and remember that everyone has blips sometimes.

    I'm posting on here for the first time (I think, at least as far as I can remember, haha) as someone who has suffered from mild anxiety, on and off, for a few years now. I almost feel silly posting because, having read some others' experiences on here, I feel like my problems are really minor.

    I get anxious about all sorts of things, even things I've done lots of times before, like flying, or things I know I shouldn't be worrying about. I had a bit of anxiety before coming to university, and it was at its worst one summer when I was waiting for my A-level results, I think, and I lost a bit of weight and was quite ill when I went on holiday with my mum (no panic attacks, though). The second I came to university, all my fears disappeared and I had an amazing first year. This year, however, I can tell I'm more anxious than last year, and my exams have been very stressful, and I can feel that old feeling creeping up on me again.

    My main thing is being scared of not doing anything, so basically I can't relax or just sit back and do nothing, like you do on a sun, sea, and sand holiday. I always have to be out and about, seeing people, playing sport, whatever, as long as my diary is full and I've got something to look forward to- not a bad thing, really. It just means that when there are periods of time when I'm more aimless (like now, exams are over and though I have a job it's not many hours, so I'm just doing bits and pieces) I feel a lot more anxious.

    I can tell it's partly related to hormones (it's a lot worse the week before that time of the month) and my dad has a history of anxiety, too. Plus, as a psychology student, I have a basic understanding of cognitions and the ideas behind CBT, so it's not like I'm completely in the dark about it.

    It's just that I don't really know what to do...My anxiety isn't severe enough to warrant therapy or medication, as it doesn't stop me from doing anything, but it does stop me enjoying certain things that I know I'd have more fun with if I wasn't anxious. And as everyone on this thread knows, going about your daily life feeling even mildly anxious isn't fun.

    TL;DR - I have mild anxiety sometimes. Is there anything I can do about it? Is it worth seeing someone?

    Sorry for the long post, and thanks for any replies. And I also apologise if it seems like I'm whining over a minor issue, as my anxiety isn't as debilitating as others'.
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    Sorry to hear that, Simone. I guess just try and focus on all of the progress you have made, and remember that everyone has blips sometimes.

    I'm posting on here for the first time (I think, at least as far as I can remember, haha) as someone who has suffered from mild anxiety, on and off, for a few years now. I almost feel silly posting because, having read some others' experiences on here, I feel like my problems are really minor.

    I get anxious about all sorts of things, even things I've done lots of times before, like flying, or things I know I shouldn't be worrying about. I had a bit of anxiety before coming to university, and it was at its worst one summer when I was waiting for my A-level results, I think, and I lost a bit of weight and was quite ill when I went on holiday with my mum (no panic attacks, though). The second I came to university, all my fears disappeared and I had an amazing first year. This year, however, I can tell I'm more anxious than last year, and my exams have been very stressful, and I can feel that old feeling creeping up on me again.

    My main thing is being scared of not doing anything, so basically I can't relax or just sit back and do nothing, like you do on a sun, sea, and sand holiday. I always have to be out and about, seeing people, playing sport, whatever, as long as my diary is full and I've got something to look forward to- not a bad thing, really. It just means that when there are periods of time when I'm more aimless (like now, exams are over and though I have a job it's not many hours, so I'm just doing bits and pieces) I feel a lot more anxious.

    I can tell it's partly related to hormones (it's a lot worse the week before that time of the month) and my dad has a history of anxiety, too. Plus, as a psychology student, I have a basic understanding of cognitions and the ideas behind CBT, so it's not like I'm completely in the dark about it.

    It's just that I don't really know what to do...My anxiety isn't severe enough to warrant therapy or medication, as it doesn't stop me from doing anything, but it does stop me enjoying certain things that I know I'd have more fun with if I wasn't anxious. And as everyone on this thread knows, going about your daily life feeling even mildly anxious isn't fun.

    TL;DR - I have mild anxiety sometimes. Is there anything I can do about it? Is it worth seeing someone?

    Sorry for the long post, and thanks for any replies. And I also apologise if it seems like I'm whining over a minor issue, as my anxiety isn't as debilitating as others'.
    You did used to post on here I remember.:ninja:

    If anxiety is affecting your life and you feel you need to talk to someone about it then see a doctor or uni counsellor. It doesn't matter if others are going through worse it doesn't make your issues any less relevant.

    My anxiety has gotten worse lately and I think I've realised why. I start university in October and I'm really excited can't wait to go and start over a new leaf but it doesn't feel real. I'm terrified something bad's going to happen and I'll never get to go. Anyone got any advice for this?
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